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what should i do about this girl?
ok this girl is my friend, on of my good friends and we went out twice but each time we do she leaves me for her ex. But i don't know what to do. the first time we just went back to being friends and things even though it ended badly with all this complication and stuff but i forgave her and it wasnt her fault and whatever. but this time she promised me it wouldn happen etc. but it did. so i feel kind of like an idiot. so i dont know should i just forgive her agian because i want to, like shes my friend,or atleast supposed to be but a part of me thinks well why should i be there as a friend for her after all this.Kind of like well why should she get the benefit of my friendship kind of thing....if that makes any sense. what do you guys think?
thanks
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It seems that this girl seems to be the insecure type. When given the chance, she would go back to the guy to regain the idea that "it wasn't her fault that they broke up in the first place". I think your options are:
1. Stay friends and only that.
2. If it hurts too much, get some time apart.
3. Give her the security she needs.
Why should she benefit from your friendship? Why not if it's ONLY friendship? Is it harmful too your health? (If yes, then you should be running by now.)
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Someone hurts you once-THEIR falt.
Someone hurts you twice-YOUR fault.
You let this happen....she's obviously not a good friend, because if she was, then she #1 wouldn't use you as a toy for whenever she wants. and #2, if she did use you as a toy, she wouldn't go back to her ex everytime. Time to find a new friend. Unless you're into the drama....which you are because you still think that you should be her friend. Good luck.
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You said it yourself: why should she get the benefit of your friendship when she keeps jerking you around?
I've said it once and I'll say it again: there's no reason to waste your time on a girl who doesn't treat you the way that you want to be treated. It's obvious that there are some unresolved issues between her and her ex, and its unlikely that she'll break free of that pattern for you if she's gone back to him before. You could certainly forgive her and keep being her friend if you'd like, but it's time to shut the door on having a relationship with her.
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i think you should stop going after her. shes just messing with you & playing you like a lost puppy. stay her friend, but nothing more
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If she's causing you the pain I think she's causing you, it's probably not worth it to keep pursuing a relationship with her.
And that means as a friend and a girlfriend.
It's best to just leave what's in the past in the past, and move on.
--Jack
(17/m)
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