I have gone through quite a bit, maybe you'll find that experience useful. I'll try to be nice.
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Age: 20
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Hi i have been having issues with my computer lately. Whenever i open internet explorer a ton of them pop open uncontrollably. So i go to task manager-process-right click and click end tree process and that takes care of it. I ran my virus program (avast and norton) and i dont have a virus. Im not sure what type of computer i have. =/ sorry. All i know is that its slow and a bit older but does have windows XP. Anything would help! Thanks alot! (link)
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you might be having trouble with some other malware. i find that malwarebytes' anti-malware program is pretty thorough in it's full scan. it found and fixed what sophos, norton, ad-aware, and spybot couldn't find. afterwards, i suggest cleaning your registry with CCleaner. both are free programs and the most effective in my opinion.
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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Sounds like you were very close at one point. Immaturity on both sides led to the break-up and it's now affecting you. You guys didn't know when to be firm and when to control your emotions.
At this point, if i asked 'would you put up with his annoying points?', you might answer 'yes'. And that's not exactly the problem, but it is troubling. My advice is:
1. Have this in mind: 'You are still young and obviously had traits that made you popular. You don't need to let one guy give you so many problems in life because you will probably find a good guy if you cheer up.'
2. Move on for the time being, spend more time with your friends to get your mind off things. Don't let your smarts go to waste either.
3. When you truly have a clear mind, ask yourself again. "He was important to me at one point in my life, but do I really need him? Was he truly one-in-a-million?"
4. Tell me your answer to that question and what reminded you to ask yourself that last question.
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Hi, I'm 17/f and there's this guy that I've been talking to on and off for about 4 years now, and during this time we've both gone out with other people but we always go back to eachother for some strange reason, though we've never actually gone out. I recently lost my virginity to him and now we talk almost everyday, and we do other stuff occasionally, like go out to eat, and we always talk, never about sex or anything, but he's always asking me to come over and now almost everytime we see eachother we have sex. I'm pretty sure he doesn't talk to other girls, and I don't talk to other guys either but I can't tell whether he's just using me for sex or if he really does like me. I really like him and I always have, and we've talked about it before and he claims he does really like me, especially since we've known eachother for such a long time, but idk. When I told him that if we're gonna keep having sex that we should just be together, he said he wanted to be with me too but he didn't wanna rush anything and he said we should just play it by ear... It's been a little over a month and nothing has changed. Should I continue talking to him or what should I do? (link)
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From what you told me, it does sound a little like he's using you; can't be sure though. My advice, tell him to hold off the sex because you also want to play it by ear. If he really likes you then he should be able to wait. But beware, he might start accelerating things to make it seem to get into a relationship; this would be a bad sign but not a definite bad sign. If he can't wait, then he's not worth it. If he can sincerly wait, then ok. If your wondering how long to wait ... try until your 18.
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how do you know if you are in love with someone?
i cant stop thinking about him. and cannot ever stay mad at him even though he is a jerk alot of the time.
and i think that its only one way..im feel more for him than he does for me...ALOT more. (link)
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Want a fun way to find out? Stare each other in the eyes without looking away for 20 seconds, no looking away for even half a second. If you can do this, then there is probably nothing there. If one does look away then there might be something there (assuming that nothing outside caused the person to look away).
While this may not be your case, some people have an awkward time of showing their feelings. Him being a jerk (i'm assuming just teasing) might be his way of coping. If not, stay away from the guy.
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so its the summer, and i love to go swimming but every time i do the chlorine makes my hair dry... like no matter how quick i wash my hair it just looks dry the next couple of days. and then there are sometimes that i cant wash the chlorine out of my hair for a couple of hours
so does anyone know of a product (id really like a leave in conditioner) that can keep my hair from drying out if i cant wash it after swimming for a while AND like a shampoo for when i wash it out.
thanks in advance!! (link)
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Why not get a swim cap? If not, chlorine strips your hair of it's minerals, so there's nothing you can do immediately since the mineral are already gone. I suggest using shampoo that they advertise on tv that "makes your hair silky/softer" or "rejuvenates"; i hear garnier frutisse is a good brand.
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I tried to do a Google search, but didn't find much..
16/f
I get these small red bumps on the bottom of my butt, near the back of my thighs. They kind of seem like razor bumps, but i rarely shave that close to my butt. I usually always wear thongs, so I don't think they would be from my underwear. I've been putting lotion on them, which sometimes makes them go away, but they always come back.
What is this? And how can i get rid of them?
Thanks! (link)
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This could be not so good or bad. Possiblities:
1. STDs, have you been sexually active? Or does your parents have STDs?
2. Pimples?
3. An allergic rash to your cloth material?
If it's allergies, see if wearing something different helps. This could also be and allergic reaction to something you've eaten, but i kinda doubt that. If it pimples, get a cream from your doctors. If it STDs then, nothing really. My advice, see a doctor about it immediately.
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I met this girl and I really like her but just wanna start out slow. I'm out of work and have little to no money and we are going to be hanging out this weekend. So what would be some good, but inexpensive ideas that would be fun. (link)
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I feel your pain ... broke college student here. You can always try the park or somewhere else that's nice (bring food). You can watch a movie (if theater is too much, a DVD works, but not as well). What's usually fun is walking in the downtown/shopping areas and stopping here and there for like drinks or snacks. Just make sure you chat it up; good luck.
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If both me and my boyfriend have never been sexually active(which is a known fact) can either of us contract an STD if we don't use a condom? Also I'm on the pill. For the birth control bit. (link)
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STD could also be in the body from birth if the parents have it. Have you guys gotten tested? Either way, there's always a risk without condoms if your not 100% sure. fyi, the pill is not 100%, nor are condoms.
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my boyfriend and i mess around a lot, and he never has any trouble getting hard. but everytime we try to have sex, he has a lot of trouble and weve never had it because of that. any ideas as to why he cant get hard at that time? (link)
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By 'it' I'm assuming climax. I would think that it has something to do with his self-confidence. It would probably gets worse as it goes on. My advice is moaning, the guy would be more confident and plus it is said to increase arousal.
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What's the best way to get rid of acne scars? Inexpensive at home treatments (link)
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If it helps, I brought this cream that was suppose to make ance scars vanish ... the components were mostly sunscreen. So apparently, massaging sunscreen on your scars will help reduce the visibility. Don't expect a quick fix though.
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16/f
I'm very into translating my dreams. I read online that if you take vitamin B-6 about a half hour before you go to bed, you will have very vivid/lucid dreams. My question is, are lucid dreams satanic? Someone told me that they were. I'm a Christian, so I don't really want to experience any devil- type things, lol. Thank you! (link)
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Lucid? What's so satanic about lucid? Being able to see you dream clearly is not a sin or anything, but i will warn you. Clearer dreams can leave you thinking that the dream happened in reality. If it's a bad dream, expect tears when you wake. If it's a good dream, don't expect a good day will follow. My advice, don't take B-6 unless necessary for good health. Your pursuit of dreams seem like your seeking an adventure/fun. I forsee that your curiosity CAN POSSIBLY lead you down the wrong path; don't get started.
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It is hot for an athletic type girl to have a really nice body? I've been told I have a 'sick' stomach (sick as in like crazy good ya know). And I've been told that my arms are jacked. Is this hot, or not right cause I'm a girl? I'm 16. (link)
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Depends on how buff you are (does 'sick' = well-toned six-pack) and a guy's taste. I wouldn't doubt that there are guys who go for the extremely muscled. But i guess here are some guidelines for the mid-range:
1. Your arms should not be super defined when your not flexing. That's not to say definition is bad.
2. If your arms are not too defined without flexing then i doubt your stomach/abs would be, so you would be fine. If your arms are super defined (not necessarily bad), make sure your stomach isn't rock solid. If it gives, it's good.
So, is it hot? I don't know, depends on the guy. Your personality is more important (That and probably your hair).
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ok this girl is my friend, on of my good friends and we went out twice but each time we do she leaves me for her ex. But i don't know what to do. the first time we just went back to being friends and things even though it ended badly with all this complication and stuff but i forgave her and it wasnt her fault and whatever. but this time she promised me it wouldn happen etc. but it did. so i feel kind of like an idiot. so i dont know should i just forgive her agian because i want to, like shes my friend,or atleast supposed to be but a part of me thinks well why should i be there as a friend for her after all this.Kind of like well why should she get the benefit of my friendship kind of thing....if that makes any sense. what do you guys think?
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It seems that this girl seems to be the insecure type. When given the chance, she would go back to the guy to regain the idea that "it wasn't her fault that they broke up in the first place". I think your options are:
1. Stay friends and only that.
2. If it hurts too much, get some time apart.
3. Give her the security she needs.
Why should she benefit from your friendship? Why not if it's ONLY friendship? Is it harmful too your health? (If yes, then you should be running by now.)
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does any one know where i can buy or download the program to make flash games or videos like the ones on newgrounds
and if i can buy it how much does it cost and is it available in Australia
i dont want to pay too much for it cause i just want to try it for fun
thanks (link)
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swishmax2 is a fairly easy-to-use program. if your strapped for cash, i would suggest torrents.
disclaimer: i don't support torrents, nor will i provide links to them.
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