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my boyfriend and i mess around a lot, and he never has any trouble getting hard. but everytime we try to have sex, he has a lot of trouble and weve never had it because of that. any ideas as to why he cant get hard at that time?
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Based on the fact that he's fully capable of achieving an erection otherwise, I'd say that your guy has performance anxiety!
Somewhere, deep down in his subconscious, he's worried about performing. Worried that you won't like it, that he won't be able to please you properly, could be any number of insecurities.
Try going from fooling around to having sex. Let it happen naturally, rather than fully intending to have sex at that time. Pretend that you aren't going to have sex. Then, when he's hard, BAM!
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Ok, that is a hard one(no pun intended). Correct me if I am wrong, but it seems that you are saying that you haven't had sex with your boyfriend because he has had problems keeping a hard on once you try to have sex.
I am by no means a healthcare professional, but I think that if he is having this problem repeatedly he may need to see one. There has to be a reason why this is happening. Has it ever happened in previous relationships or just when he is with you?
There could be any number of things going on and I can understand why you are frustrated, I would be too.
Ask him if there is anything he thinks you could do to help him stay erect. If he has any suggestions try them or maybe you can think of a few things(oral, different positions, etc...). If it doesn't work encourage him to see his doctor.
I hope I helped. Good luck.
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By 'it' I'm assuming climax. I would think that it has something to do with his self-confidence. It would probably gets worse as it goes on. My advice is moaning, the guy would be more confident and plus it is said to increase arousal.
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