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I'm 17/f and can't take my life anymore. There are certain things that have happened to me that are not the end of the world. I don't want to explain these things in full detail but I'll tell you one: I got a fairly good score on one of my ap exams and an absolutely horrible score on another.
The one that I got the horrible score for was the class that I worked the hardest for the entire year. There are certain things that just absolutely haunt me. Not to be dramatic, but they don't just bother me or annoy me, they haunt me. You would think something like exam grades that colleges don't really even care about wouldn't be the end of the world, but for some reason, when I would think about my potential score on the ap and when I think about it now, a huge wave of anxiety just like, paralyzes me. And I really don't know why.
Sometimes I'll think, oh it's not the end of the world and other times my mind will just freeze in anxiety and being preoccupied. There are a few other things in my life besides ap that do this to me.
There's no rhyme or reason for it. I can't help these feelings. I know in my heart that it doesn't matter that much but I still have these reactions when I think about upsetting or stressful things. It's like being scared while watching a horror movie when I think about these things. And it's useless to try and not think about them at all. What scares me too is that I can't help feeling like this. Nothing but a magic cure will take the feelings away. I know I sound really overdramatic now but this is really how I'm feeling now. Please please please please help!
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I can not say what the problem is but I will tell what I think you do about it. I believe that you need to speak with someone that you can absolutely trust about your feelings and everything else that is bothering you. Your parents or a guidance counselor at school.I think it really needs to be an adult and not one of your peers, even if you feel you trust your best friend more than anyone else. Never dismiss anything you feel, no matter what others may think. There could actually be a problem that you may need professional help with. Please speak with your parents and/or guidance counselor as soon as posssible.
Good luck, I hope I was able to help:)
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When I was 16 i began dating my first boyfriend that i later lost my virginity to. Just before my 19th birthday we called it quits and i became very sexually active with different guys outside of our small town. Last year i met an amazing guy that i fell head over heels for. Wanting to be the polar opposite from our friends i deliberately gave the impression that i was a sweet innocent young lady who was very reserved. It's been over a year of dating this guy and I am now 22 years of age. I've been checked for STDS and VD and came out clean. My boyfriend and I are living together and deeply in love, but he still thinks I've only been with 5 guys including himself!!! When in reality my 'number' is around double that closer to 10 or 12!!! Yuck!! I know he doesn't care about my 'number' but i know he would care about my lie and revamping. He would never meet or run into any of the men I've been with, but I cant keep my secret anymore. Should i tell him the truth and how???? (link)
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Don't we all go through this? Rather or not to tell the man in our lives "our number"?
Well, if you feel that you can't keep it a secret anymore then tell him, but my advice would be not to.
I hate lying and I hate being lied to, but I have been with my husband for 10 years, married for 8 years, and to this day he doesn't know how many men I slept with before he and I got together. You see that doesn't really matter, because it doesn't define who I am now. The same goes for you. You were and still are young and you did something that you feel is stupid, but that doesn't have anything to do with the person you are today.
Why do you want to tell him? Has he asked you how many men you slept with?
If the answer is no to that latter question then I would definitely keep it to myself, but if he flat out asks and you feel the need own up to your "number" then do so.
In the end it doesn't matter what anyone else says, only what your conscience can stand.
I hope I helped. Good luck:)
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my boyfriend and i mess around a lot, and he never has any trouble getting hard. but everytime we try to have sex, he has a lot of trouble and weve never had it because of that. any ideas as to why he cant get hard at that time? (link)
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Ok, that is a hard one(no pun intended). Correct me if I am wrong, but it seems that you are saying that you haven't had sex with your boyfriend because he has had problems keeping a hard on once you try to have sex.
I am by no means a healthcare professional, but I think that if he is having this problem repeatedly he may need to see one. There has to be a reason why this is happening. Has it ever happened in previous relationships or just when he is with you?
There could be any number of things going on and I can understand why you are frustrated, I would be too.
Ask him if there is anything he thinks you could do to help him stay erect. If he has any suggestions try them or maybe you can think of a few things(oral, different positions, etc...). If it doesn't work encourage him to see his doctor.
I hope I helped. Good luck.
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i know that the first time a girl has sex, if her cherry hasnt been popped, then it can be pretty painful. so then is it normal after that first time for her to be very sore down there for a couple days? (link)
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I think that it differs for everyone. My friends and I sit around and talk about this subject all the time and all of our experiences have been different. In most cases though there was at least some pain. In my opinion I think it will depend on how much your body(vagina)is prepared(with foreplay) before the actually intercourse takes place.
If you are unsure about this even after receiving advice here talk to someone that you trust, a healthcare provider, or both. That way you will be more informed before you take that giant leap.
Also, remember that it is not only physical pain that you can endure if you are not prepared(mentally) for losing your virginity.
I hope I helped. Good luck.
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