|
Is he just using me for sex?
Hi, I'm 17/f and there's this guy that I've been talking to on and off for about 4 years now, and during this time we've both gone out with other people but we always go back to eachother for some strange reason, though we've never actually gone out. I recently lost my virginity to him and now we talk almost everyday, and we do other stuff occasionally, like go out to eat, and we always talk, never about sex or anything, but he's always asking me to come over and now almost everytime we see eachother we have sex. I'm pretty sure he doesn't talk to other girls, and I don't talk to other guys either but I can't tell whether he's just using me for sex or if he really does like me. I really like him and I always have, and we've talked about it before and he claims he does really like me, especially since we've known eachother for such a long time, but idk. When I told him that if we're gonna keep having sex that we should just be together, he said he wanted to be with me too but he didn't wanna rush anything and he said we should just play it by ear... It's been a little over a month and nothing has changed. Should I continue talking to him or what should I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
i know what you mean. my ex and i new each other for 10 yrs and i thought i could trust him. Just remeber guys are pigs and to be honest i dont even think that they know what they want in a committed relationship. I would say just stay friends because if yall get to close then break up it can ruin not only a relationship but more importantly a friendship..
I Hope I Helped! :)
/glustick
]
First off, isn't the "lets not rush thing" speech supposed to be given to delay sex in a new relationship. I must say I have never heard it in this context.
From the info above I do think he is using you for sex. I do not understand what it is that he does not want to rush. This whole relationship progression is on backwards.
However, the easiest way to find out- which is also what I would recommend that you do- is to put him on the spot. Tell him you really like him but that you will not accept your relationship as it is now. Tell him you want to be with him, but as something more than just sex buddies.
In the end, if you are unhappy with your current relationship, you have nothing to lose. Just be honest and straightforward and this time do not accept anything but a clear answer.
Good luck.
]
From what you told me, it does sound a little like he's using you; can't be sure though. My advice, tell him to hold off the sex because you also want to play it by ear. If he really likes you then he should be able to wait. But beware, he might start accelerating things to make it seem to get into a relationship; this would be a bad sign but not a definite bad sign. If he can't wait, then he's not worth it. If he can sincerly wait, then ok. If your wondering how long to wait ... try until your 18.
]
More Questions: |