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I can't do it!! ahhh
Tell me if this is normal because i'm freaking out.
I'm a 17 year old girl. Junior in High school. I still can't wear tampons. Is that bad?? I only wear pads and i've tried soooooo many times to try tampons but they hurt too badly and feel weird all the time and i just overall hate them. I feel so different. like other girls can handle sex and stuff, but i can barely put in a tampon! is something wrong with me?? It will be a year with my boyfriend in May and he's always wondering why I don't want him to finger me. If i tell him, or anybody for that matter, i'll be so embarrassed and feel like i'm so different than everybody.
Helppp i'm desperate.. everytime i try, i start crying in frustration because it NEVER works out. I get about an inch in, and then it starts to feel weird and gross.
If it helps, i'm terrified of needles. so i think that putting in a tampon reminds me of a needle going in me. do you think that could be a reason??
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There is absolutely no reason for you to feel awkward or weird about not being comfortable with tampons. I hate tampons and refuse to wear them, but I am married and do have sex, the 2 really don't matter together. Just because you are uncomfortable with tampons doesn't mean you will be as uncomfortable with sex, or your boyfriend fingering you.
Don't get so worked up about, use whatever works for you, if thats pads then so be it. It's really not that strange for some girls to not like tampons, I knew quite a few girls in highschool who preferred pads. Everyone is different and there is no reason for you to be embarrassed, just be who you are comfortable with. I'm sure your boyfriend won't think that you are weird if you just tell him that you don't like tampons and that in turn makes you nervous about things in the sexual area, like getting fingered.
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there is nothing wrong with that that happens to alt of people, i have a cousin that has alot of sex but she still hurts when puting on tampons. for me i love tampons they don't hurt me but before i did and when i lost my virginity, they slipped right in. some people are able to get it in but then it hurts when taking it out. everyone's different. don't worry hopefully one day it won't hurt.
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I wouldn't sweat it too much it took me forever to figure out the trick with tampons. I was fingered before I got them figured out and it was well not bad so just relax when you are trying to put one in u are probably thinking too much into it that's what happens sometimes and I one of my bffs is going on 20 and has never used one in her life so you should know that you aren't alone :) good luck
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i think that if you're comfortable with your boyfriend and ready for him to finger you (even if you think it might hurt) to just have him do it. tell him to go real slow at first though. i used to have the exact same problem as you but i found it that if someone else who i trusted stuck something up there instead of myself i didn't freak out as much. it will also get your body used to having something up there which should make putting a tampon in alot easier.
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I know it'll sound weird, but try using a small mirror (like one that has a stand, so you can prop it up on the toilet while you're sitting on it). I used to have the same problem, but like the other advicenator said, when you do it right, it goes right in. And also, like she said, you being frustrated causes your muscles to tense, making it that much harder to get the tampon in. Next time you do it, relax and sit on the toilet with a mirror like I said, so you can see alllll the way up there and know exactly where the tampon is going. I'm almost positive this will work, even though it sounds weird! And with the boyfriend situation, I'd tell him honestly "I can't even get a tampon in, I'm really tight down there. It'll deff hurt!" He'll probably just laugh it off and say okay. It's NOT a bad thing at all. Once you get the tampon situation under control, then work on the boyfriend part and see how far you can go without it hurting. If you want to try it, let him go slow, and he should respect that :)
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It could be. Or it could be that you are inserting them wrong. That happens. When you do it right it slides right in and you don't even notice. It could also be that you have a vaginal condition that makes the walls of your vagina tighter and so anything feels painful. That is actually quite common, although many women don't discover the full extent of it until they try to have sex on a regular basis. I think you should see your doctor and get examined. If its a physical problem, you need to take care of it as soon as possible. If its not physical, at least you have the peace of mind of knowing its nothing serious. Sometimes, when you're stressed, you're muscles tighten up and it makes it hard and painful to have sex or insert tampons. Whatever the case may be it is perfectly fine to not use tampons, and you're not weird b/c you don't want your b/f messing around down there. Its FINE! Stop worrying about it. You know your body and what feels right and what doesn't and don't judge yourself by how you think other people do things.
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