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should i be worried?
17/f
So my boyfriend asked me today if it was okay if he went out to eat with one of his "girl" friends, just them two. I said okay. The thing is, after i said that i found out they used to talk and thats why him and his ex girlfriend used to fight, because of her. I've been dating him for about a month now and im still finding things out about him. He treats me really good though. The only thing is, i got a little mad at the fact that he used to like her because i seen what hes said about her pictures on facebook and he was giving her plenty of compliments. I've also seen them text while we have been hanging out before. He's so nice and i know he would never do anything to hurt me intentionally. But i just don't know what to do, because it makes me upset.
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Are you supposed to be in an exclusive, committed relationship? If so him going out to eat with her in that particular situation is not appropriate. That is pretty much a date. Now if they work together and they go out to lunch, that's different.
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I think that you can't trust him, but you know a month is not that long and its perfectly fine that you're still finding things out about him i mean he has years of life before you that you don't know you can't expect him to tell you everything so soon and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and still finding things out slowly and even couples together for 20 years are still finding things out about each other, honestly this situation is very confusing because i would say that if you trust him that much then let it go, but you know you can't really trust someone so easily in just a month and just because you feel he won't hurt doesn't mean he won't, its a lot easier to leave someone after they hurt you when you're with him for a short period of time, but when you guys are together for long it gets hard, so i would make your decision or fix things up soon or your gonna be hurt more than you hoped. good luck
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i've had a similiar issue. from experience.. i would say back out of it. its none of your business. no need to pry into his personal stuff. if he has something to explain, he will come talk to you about it.
is it ok for you to be worried/concerned? yes it is.
is it ok for you to pry into his stuff and "scope" things out and spy on him? no.
you can be worried and jealous but once you start spying on him and interfering and trying to figure out the truth, its crossing the line.
if you find proof that they are more than friends by accident, confront him about it and see what happens from there. lets say she wrote on his wall and said something flirty like "last night was amazing. i love you" ask him about it. if it seems fishy, keep an open eye on it. but DONT pry. thats how you lose respect for someone and lose trust. especially if it was a false alarm/not true to begin with.
however, if you have actual proof like a friend sent you a picture message of them kissing, you have proof that he cheated and then confront him about it.
good luck. inbox me if you have more quesitons.
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