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he wont even talk to me.. =/.
i made the biggest mistake ever. i was hanging out with one of my bestfriends and he was playing around and told another one of my friends that he was gona fight him for something. just playing. well i took my him over to the other guys house where him and some of his friends were. i told him that my friend wasnt gona fight him and so i thought it was a joke. we get there, and this guy is jumpin up in the window like "you wanna fight" etc. and punches my friend. and i started yelling at them sayin they needed to stop. the guy punched him again so i layed on the gas and left. the guy who punched my friend i dont even know and it wasnt his fight. but the guy whose fight it was called me sayin he didnt know it was a joke and everything and how he was really sry. but my friend is uber pissed at me, cause he kept telling me that they were gona do that. i thought they knew it was a joke, and nothing like that has ever happened to me before. i feel soo bad, i keep getting flash backs of the whole thing and it just makes me wanna cry. my friend wont even talk to me now. i dont know if he will ever. i've apologized a million times and i know it doesnt fix it. but i dont know what to do. i dont want to lose one of my bestfriends.. :(. advice please.
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Your question was a little confusing but this is what I understand as to what happened (please clarify): you take your friend to the house where the guy whom your friend threatened lived who had other friends around at the time. Your still in the car with the window down when of the guy's friends' reaches through the window and punches your friend twice and you quickly leave.
We all make mistakes which we regret, but eventually, those mistakes become a thing of the past.
You didn't know that it was going to happen, and you did the right thing by acting on what you thought at the time and I think that to some level, both of you were shocked by what was going on.
In fact, the fault lies with the friend whom mistook what your friend said and assumed that he was going to fight him. As you said, the other guy realized that it had been a joke and was sorry about it. So it shouldn't be you who should be apologizing, it should be the other guy for assuming that there was going to be a fight and the other guy who punched your friend should also be the one apologizing because he acted out on something which wasn't meant to happen.
You need to talk to your friend and explain that you saw it as a joke before the guy began to punch your friend. You need to tell him that if you had known that it was going to happen, then you would've never taken him there in the first place now would you? He needs to understand that you thought that nothing was going to happen and how you feel about the situation. He needs to know that you don't want to loose your best friend over something like this and hope that the two of you can make up about it. Don't e-mail or text, walk up to him and tell him.
Somebody shouldn't loose their best friend just because of a stupid mistake, and I should know!!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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