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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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okim going to my friends house to swim and i already promised her that i would come so i cant back out well i just started my period and i cant swim and i cant tell her why i cant swim because its to embarssing so my question is can i use a tampon to swim in??? and is there any thing that i can do to stop it for a couple o f hours?? (link)

You can't do anything to stop if for a couple of hours. You can however safely swim with a tampon in.
No problem at all that's one of the things they used to use for advertising as a matter of fact.

Go swimming and have fun. :)


hey i started orhto- tri cylen about a month ago, and i finished the pack is it safe to have sex with out protection even if the guy doesnt cum in you or should i still use condoms in addition? (link)


If you have been on the pill for 30 days, you don't have to worry about pregnancy. He doesn't need to wear a condom for that reason, only to keep you safe from diseases.

Condoms need to be used to prevent STDs.
Please know that sexually transmitted
diseases don't all come from semen so condom needs to be worn even if he doesn't ejaculate.


how can i get rid of the bads under my eyes ? thanksss (link)
This site has a lot of interesting remedies you might try.

http://www.yourdictionary.com/business_profile/debt/bags/bags-under-eyes.html


i need a really really good "default" layout. if anyone has a good site with good "default" layouts it would be more than appreciated!

thanks in advanced! (link)

Here are a couple that look pretty good. :)

http://hotlayouts.nuclearcentury.com/ms-layouts

http://mylayouts.cc/view.php?id=3022


how do i use drysol for sweaty palms? i tried putting some on and using gloves to bed but it didnt work. this is very important i need help asap. directions please. (link)
Here are the instructions for using it from the PDR
(physicians desk reference)

Drysol Solution
Manufacturer: Person & Covey


A solution of Aluminum Chloride (Hexahydrate) 20% (w/v) in Anhydrous Ethyl Alcohol (S.D. Alcohol 40) 93%v/v

INDICATION

An aid in the management of hyperhidrosis (excess sweating).

WARNING

For external use only. Keep out of the reach of children. Do not apply Drysol to broken, irritated or recently shaved skin. Avoid contact with eyes. If contact occurs, wash eyes thoroughly with water. If irritation or sensitization occurs, discontinue use or contact a physician. Drysol may be harmful to certain metals and fabrics. Do not use near open flame. KEEP CAP TIGHTLY CLOSED WHEN NOT IN USE TO PREVENT EVAPORATION.

DIRECTIONS

To achieve optimum results this procedure should be followed: Drysol should only be applied to absolutely dry skin. Dry skin can be achieved by blow-drying with a hair dryer on a warm setting for a few minutes. Medication should be kept on the skin for 6-8 hours, during which sweating does not occur. This means for best results, Drysol should be applied only before bedtime, since the sweat glands remain inactive during the tranquility of sleep.
HYPERHIDROSIS OF UNDERARMS (Axillae)

Apply Drysol evenly to dry skin of underarms. To minimize irritation let the alcohol evaporate. If needed, blow-dry with a hair dryer on a cold air setting, leaving an evenly distributed film of the antiperspirant on the skin. Wear a T-Shirt while sleeping to prevent the medication from being rubbed off on bed linens. Do not apply Drysol to broken, irritated or recently shaved skin. Now check instructions under "next morning".
HYPERHIDROSIS OF THE PALMS (Hands)

Apply Drysol evenly to palm(s). Let the alcohol evaporate, leaving a thin film of antiperspirant on the skin. To keep the medication from being rubbed off during sleep, cover palm(s) with a sheet of saran wrap, held in place with cotton glove(s). Do not use adhesive tape. Now check instructions under "next morning".
HYPERHIDROSIS OF FEET

Apply Drysol evenly to sole(s). Let the alcohol evaporate, leaving a thin film of antiperspirant on the skin. To keep the medication from being rubbed off during sleep, cover sole(s) with a sheet of saran wrap, held in place with sock(s). Do not use adhesive tape. Now check instructions under "next morning".
HYPERHIDROSIS OF THE SCALP

Apply Drysol evenly to the scalp. Avoid contact with eyes. Let the alcohol evaporate, leaving a thin film of antiperspirant on the scalp. To keep the medication from being rubbed off during sleep, wear a plastic shower cap. Now check instructions under "next morning".
NEXT MORNING

Depending on the area being treated: Remove the T-shirt, glove(s), sock(s) or shower cap. Remove and discard saran wrap. Wash the treated area thoroughly with a mild soap or a mild shampoo to remove the residual antiperspirant and to prevent skin irritation as well as damage to dry clothing. Then towel dry the skin or scalp. Do not apply other deodorants or antiperspirants while using Drysol. Follow these procedures and repeat applications of Drysol for 2 or 3 nights, until the desired effect (lack of sweating) is achieved. Generally, after that, an application once or twice a week should maintain needed controlled protection from hyperhidrosis. Occasionally, there is some tingling or itching after application. Any irritation it might produce is temporary and will subside if application is avoided for a few days. Drysol is not absorbed but works locally on outer skin.

HOW SUPPLIED
37.5cc Plastic bottle (NDC 0096-0707-37)
35cc Plastic bottle with Dab-O-Matic applicator (NDC 0096-0707-35)
60cc Plastic bottle with Dab-O-Matic applicator (NDC 0096-0707-60)

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My friend and I were discussing this kid, and he has this weird muscle disease where he has to work out or his bones with get all messed up and not be able to support his weight. I knew all this, but then my friend told me that he'll die when he's 20, which is only in 5 years. I'm actually like, extremely worried. I don't know if this is true though. Nobody in my family seems to know. Help? (link)

There are so many diseases out there. I wish you knew the name of it.

It could possibly be muscular dystrophy. If that is the case how long a person lives depends on the type
they have. Some people can live into their 40's.

Here is some information on muscular dystrophy. It may not be what he has. You can read it though and see if anything sounds familiar. Some with the disease do die before they are 20 if they have respiratory problems. I know you are worried but try to keep things upbeat. I will bet he would rather you ask him about his disease too. Don't pretend it doesn't exist. If he is your friend, he may like having someone to talk to about it.

http://www.answers.com/topic/muscular-dystrophy


Hey yg! Im really self-concience about my weight. I won't care if people call me a whore or white trash [even though im not], but the only thing that brings me down is being called fat.

Today I was sitting on the bench at school waiting for my mom to pick me up. My friend, James who is really cute cam by me and wee were just sitting there. This guy Joe comes up and we start talking about boobs. I don't remember why.

Joe was like "You only have boobs because your fat!", I said, Whatever. He imbaressed me right infront of James.

Im 4'11, 14, 150 ilbs.

I asked you how to loose weight beefore but obvisously I did'nt take the advice.

I would really like to slim down, healthy, not necissaraly fast.

I would like to have a flat tummy by November, but by the summer, that would be excellent! Thanks yg! (link)

Some people can be so rude. And you might loose some fat on your boobs if you loose weight but not a whole lot for that jerks information! I hope James just ignored him.

Coolnurse, the very best teen health site I know of has some great tips for weight loss.

http://www.coolnurse.com/dieting.htm

So start there. Next, my real world name is Karen and my email address is krickel@gmail.com
I want you to get started on ...lets say Monday.

On Monday, try some of the eating tips and just cut down on your portion sizes. Walk whenever you can and maybe dance around your room to a couple of songs a day to start. No slow numbers...find some really kick ass music and move that body.
Start slow.

Weight yourself on Monday morning and write it down somewhere. Then no peeking at the scales until NEXT Monday morning. Better yet write and give it to me and I will keep track of it for you.

I will be your diet buddy. If you are having trouble...write me. You can write every evening before you go to bed and let me know how you did,
or you can write once a week. It will help you knowing you are going to be telling me your progress ( I hope!)

You will cheat...I am on a diet all the time so I know this for a fact! I will not get mad, just realize you have to get right back at it. Can't cheat a LOT. *grins*

You may a lose a lot...say 4-5 pounds the first couple of weeks. After that a couple of pounds a week will be good. Don't want it to come off to quick because it doesn't stay off when you do that. If I think you are loosing to much I will tell you.

So read up on that site. I will too. On Monday see
what you can do. I don't want you skipping meals either. Trust me you will gain weight. We want you healthy!

Sound good? Let me know. :)


My bf has a real mean streak in him when it comes to gay people. Well he told me one day that every time Queer Eye For The Straight Guy came on tv he felt like throwing his boot threw the screen. He also said he wanted to hurt Boy George every time one of his songs came on the radio; and when I told him I liked Will and Grace he gave me the dirtiest look. He doesnt just put down gays either he also makes derogatory remarks about women; that we are inferior to men and that they are smarter. It's also the WAY he says these things too; with so much hate in his voice. This one time I jokingly said women were smarter then men and he yelled "prove it"! And then he pulled out a chain linked puzzle. He said if I was so smart I could figure it out under a minute. I couldnt and he yelled "SEE"! Should I break up with him? (link)

I think you should. Its obvious you don't feel the same way he does and if it hasn't caused any major problems yet it soon will.

Anyone so full of hate will never love you like you deserve to be. You will always be second class and inferior in his mind. Even though you know better, if you stay with him long term he may even get you to believing it. You don't want that. Find someone who respects you as well as other people. You will be happier in the long run. :)


well we just got into high school this year and there is a new girl in our grade. shes basically aqauntances with the whole grade (she's not like a loser, pretty jappy but nice) i talk to her sometimes when shes in my class.
anyway at lunch she was sitting by herself and then i asked her to sit with my friends. when she left my friends told me not to hang out with her cause they think/know she is a bitch.
but i don't want to be mean and stop talking to her.

what do i do ?! (link)

You follow your own instincts and don't listen to the crowd.

Did you think she was a bitch when she ate lunch with you? Probably not or you would have mentioned it.

She is probably a very nice girl who needs some friends. Sounds like yours might be just a little jealous or not want anyone new in the gang.

Don't be mean just because they are. If you want to hang out with her I'll bet at least some if not all your friends will wind up hanging around with you after a couple of days. No need to be rude to them either. Just say well, you guys don't like her but I do. So I will be her friend. :)


I'm a junior in high school and my parents keep pushing me about college. Counselors at school are shoving college surveys in my face and all my friends are asking, "Where are you going to go to college?"

My answer is that I have no idea! And it's really starting to stress me out. I don't know what kind of degree I want (associate's or bachelor's), what I want my major to be, what I want to be when I grow up, or where I want to go to college. I spend hours every day researching different programs and colleges and their requirements, etc.

All I know is that I love foreign languages and Algebra (not calculus). But I have an incredible fear of public speaking, and a major in a foreign language would require lots of it. So then I considered Latin. But not many colleges offer that so far for Associate's degrees..It's just frustrating. And most colleges require a public speaking class but some don't, and I'm looking up colleges that don't because again, I'm really nervous about that.

I'm sad because I don't know what to do with my life. I don't want to be filthy rich but I want to at least be middle class doing something with foreign languages. Basically, if the job market was not as competitive as it is, I would not be considering going to college.

What do I do?
**Remember I don't know what kind of degree I want so please don't assume I want a bachelor's** (link)
Well in considering a college you should think about weather you want to be close to home or spread your wings a bit. Plus do they have classes you want to take. You don't have to make a decision right now either you got time to think about it. So just tell people you haven't decided yet.

Don't spend hours researching right now. Just step back when you get stressed because you can go to college for a couple of years if you want to without declaring any major. You can take classes that interest you and go with something you really enjoy once you get into it. It might be something you've never even considered before. Lots of people do it that way if they have trouble deciding. If you go to a college close to home, you can even carry a very light part time load of classes if you don't want to go full time. You have lots of options.

If really interested in languages but not public speaking, keep in mind that your love of languages doesn't necessarily have to be the main job you do.

I have worked in the medical field so I will use it only as an example. Many hospitals would
be happy to have someone fluent in languages working anywhere in the hospital. There is a real need to have someone help communicate with patients who don't understand English. Especially in emergency situations. There are other jobs where your language skills would help you get a job but not necessarily BE your main job.

So you have plenty of time and Many options. Don't feel you have to rush it because that's what is expected. Tell those who try and pressure you that this is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future. You want to make the right choice. And you will. Best of luck. :)



hey iam a 17 female and i'll be like 18 in a few days and I know iam pregnant becouse I took 2 pregnancy tests I took 2 to make sure the first one was right and both of them came out positive so I told my mom right away and she took me to the doctor so I could get an ultra sound down and it came out positive so I know iam pregnant right now my mom and my boyfriend are both being really supportive about my decision to keep the baby,but how do I make sure the baby comes healthy like what should I be doing? (link)

Do exactly what your doctor tells you to do. He/she will make sure you get vitamins and all that good stuff.

Don't eat for two because it isn't necessary and will make you put on to much weight. This isn't the time to diet though. Eat as you normally would.

Just take care of yourself basically. :)


I'm going to try to compile a VERY long story into a short one... I'm a advice giver here but this time.. I need advice. I'm married now but this is my 2nd marriage. Long story short.. I moved into a place before I got married 2nd time and asked my Ex husband to keep my dog for me for a couple months, he ended up giving her away without telling me. I'm trying to handle that situation now but a new one has arrised. I talked to my 17 yr old sister tonight (she still talks to my ex) and I told her I would be contacting my ex about trying to get my dog back and she informed me, she would rather I didnt talk to him and when I asked why she told me she had a date with him Saturday night! I don't know what to do, not that there is anything I could do but I'm so at a loss right now.. Of course I let her have a piece of my mind, but do I have a right to be so mad? He was my husband for 4 years! I'm not even asking myself why he would do this to me, but mostly how could my own flesh and blood do this to me? I talked to my mother about it but she aint going to do nothing because she don't care if they go out. This is a line that you do NOT cross. Am I the only one in my family with morals or what? What do I say to my sister? or more importantly, what would you do in this situation?? (link)

Well for one thing you have every right to talk to him any time you want to. I wouldn't let her dictate
that and you should let her know that right up front.

I don't know that I would talk to my sister if she did that to me. That is really low. I also can't believe your mom thinks its okay. You have every right to be mad. I'd be worried about you if you weren't.

You may have an easier time convincing your ex not to date her. Could he be doing it to make you jealous? Since she doesn't want you talking to him
he may still have some feelings for you. If so play dirty and use that. I don't know how but maybe you can convince him to stay away from her.

Good luck. :)



How do you do it? how do you use it? (link)
Here is a tutorial for you that will tell you step by step how to do it. If you keep them in a folder and just lower the folder to your toolbar you can acess and use them from there. Adding to many to
your windows folder will slow your computer way down
so you don't want to add to many in that way. :)

http://www.cottagearts.net/tutorial_fonts_zip.html



I'm almost 21 and I admit it my boyfriend and I don't always use a condom, but I've been on the pill for years and never had an issue. Till recently when I was sick, the Dr gave me antibiotics but didn't tell me that they would make my birthcontrol inaffective. To make matters worse I forgot to start my newest round of pills after my last cycle. For two weeks now I've been waiting patiently for any signs that my period is coming and nothing has happened other than nausa and dizzyness, and being un able to zip up a dress I made a month ago. I haven't had the courage to take the test yet, mostly cause I'm pretty positive about what it will say. But now here comes the hard part how do I tell my boyfriend that by this time next year we could very well be parents, how do I tell him that because of one little known fact and my preoccupation with my job on campus that our whole lives are about to change. I need some advice from people outside of my cirlce of friends and family someone who has nothing to gain or lose. (link)

First take the test. If you've been on the pill for years it is a little harder to become pregnant than you think. I don't know how long its been but you don't gain a lot of weight at first. My daughter is about 5 months pregnant and has only gained 2 pounds. So that is not really a sin of anything.

So take that test before telling your boyfriend. Your nausea and dizziness could be from being sick.

If the test is positive, then you just tell him.
If he cares it will be a shock but he will stick around. :)


today i found out that my friend might be belimic and annorexic. i dont want her to hurt herself. i was thinking that i should tell the school counselor and maybe that would help... is this a good idea ? i really am worried about her.




also, she just started so i think i can help her ahead of time. (link)

That is a very good idea. If she can stop before she gets really into it she will be so much better off.

Anyway you look at it you would be doing the right thing telling an adult who can get her help.

Be strong though because she may be mad at you for a while. She will get over it though and you won't have a sick (or worse) friend. :)


I heard about these new emails thats are ones from google, and I would like to get one, but do you have to be invited for one?
So I have a few questions:
*Is it like name@google.com? (like @yahoo.com)
*Do any of you have it, do you like it?
*And how can you get one? (link)

It would be yourname@gmail.com

It is a very good email program. I have it and I really love it. You do need an invite. I can send you one if you'd like. If I don't have one my husband has lots.

It is very easy to use and you can keep lots of mail
I think you would like it. :)



ok so my girlfriend wont tell me how she cares about me. she calls me i call her we both do our parts. she kisses me when i'm with her. since we've been together which is about 4 months she hasnt told me jack! i was just wondering what you thought about it? i mean she does her part as to finding time for me. (link)

She doesn't mention how she feels at all? Wow that is strange for a girl. They are usually pretty verbal about it.

You need to let her know it bothers you that she never tells you how she feels about you. See what she says. Maybe she is just shy about saying it.

Do you tell her how you feel? Seems odd she wouldn't
respond to that. Ask her about it. Let her know she doesn't have to claim to be madly in love or anything but something would be nice!

Good luck. :)


13/f/Tx
My boyfriend asked me if I was ready for him to kiss me. I've truthfully never kissed anyone before. He's taking me to the movies this weekend. He said if I was ready he wanted to kiss him there. I told him to talk to my cousin because she always knows everything, but he wants an answer from me. What do I do? (link)

Why on earth would he ask your cousin about kissing you? Come on girl that's just silly!

If you are to scared and don't feel ready for kissing, you just say so. Don't be pressured to do something you don't feel ready to do.

If you are scared but want to and are just afraid
you won't do it right, don't be. It isn't that hard. There is even a website that gives kissing tips. I will give it to you just in case you think you might be ready.

Just have fun and don't panic about kissing. It is okay to kiss if you want to. :)

http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm




This boy & I are best friends, but recently when he IM's me/calls me we don't have much to talk about. So, for 3 days I didn't get on AIM/answer my phone..sort of avoiding him, so we'd have stuff to talk about when I got on AIM/he called me.

Well yesterday I signed on AIM, and he usually instanly talks to me, but he didn't. So I waited a bit, then put up an away msg. I was kind of hurt, I won't lie, that he wasn't lonely without me hah. Well later on that night my away msg said something like, "F you I'm still riding the bus, just because you're riding it & I'm trying to avoid you doesn't mean I shouldn't ride it." So, after reading that he IMs me, like, "Who are you ignoring?" And I was like "You." and signed off, and he called but I didn't answer. We're not going out, I just get extremely jealous of these other two girls he talks to on Aim, and whenever he's not talking to me, I feel like something's wrong with me, like I'm ugly or something.

His aim profile now says..
Recently, there have been times I wonder if you even want to be my friend. I try, yet no matter what I do it seems that it just angers you more. I guess what they say is true, that not everyone can like you for who you are.i'll be honest, it makes me sad.

That's about me, so idk what to do to be honest. Do I apologize? Or, just anything would help. (link)

You need to talk to him and yes you should probably apologize. Honestly now, you are the one who started the whole ignoring thing. That probably hurt his feelings.

Think about it. If he started ignoring you wouldn't you worry that he didn't want to be your friend?

Sounds like you to have a really big misunderstanding here. So talk to him. Tell him why
you started the whole ignoring him thing. Tell him you are jealous when he talks to other girls. Just get it out in the open and get your friendship back on track. :)


When me and my husband married, i moved out of my mom's house and about 30 minutes away.

My husband's parents took it well but my mom cant seem to get used to me not being there. She calls AAAALLL the time and e-mails and texts me a lot. She calls round a lot and then is never there when I actually need her.

I just don't know what to do any more. I feel like my Mom is obsessed with me. I know it sounds weird but she wont leave me and my husband alone! She's even taken to calling him if she can't reach me!

I've tried reasoning with her over this, so has my Dad and my Nanna but she doesn't get it. This is OUR time now, my husband and I and we need time to find ourselves.

How can I nicely tell her to back off? She's so sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings... (link)

Sometimes mothers get lonely when their kids move out. If you are the only child or last one to go that is probably the case.

I don't know if there is any way of nicely telling her to stop. Seems as though you have tried that already with no results.

To get the message across without actually saying so to her directly just start ignoring her for a while.

I know, I know it sounds so mean but she will get the message pretty soon and you don't have to ignore her completely. Just pick certain times or times of the day that you will talk to her or maybe a day of the week...whatever works for you.

The rest of the time use an answering machine for your phone. If you have caller ID don't pick up if its her. If all else fails turn the ringer off when you and your husband want alone time.

Let her email. Just don't feel you have to answer or look at them right away. Do it when its convenient for you.

I hate text messages myself. If she is always trying to yak online hide your status when you don't want disturbed. If its on your phone ignore it or turn it off if you don't need it.

If she calls hubby he can just tell her he don't know what your plans for the day were but he is sure you will get back to her sooner or later. If she calls him at work have him tell her he can't take personal calls at work so please don't call here and get me in trouble.

If it makes you feel guilty to do that then after a while tell her WHY you are having to do it. Maybe by then she will realize what shes doing.

As an afterthought you might also keep track of when and how many times she calls you during ...oh a week. Then show it to her. Maybe she will see then she is calling to much.

Good luck. :)





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