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his hatred of homosexuals scares me
My bf has a real mean streak in him when it comes to gay people. Well he told me one day that every time Queer Eye For The Straight Guy came on tv he felt like throwing his boot threw the screen. He also said he wanted to hurt Boy George every time one of his songs came on the radio; and when I told him I liked Will and Grace he gave me the dirtiest look. He doesnt just put down gays either he also makes derogatory remarks about women; that we are inferior to men and that they are smarter. It's also the WAY he says these things too; with so much hate in his voice. This one time I jokingly said women were smarter then men and he yelled "prove it"! And then he pulled out a chain linked puzzle. He said if I was so smart I could figure it out under a minute. I couldnt and he yelled "SEE"! Should I break up with him?
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Hello!
Your boyfriend wants to throw his boot at the TV, wants to physically hurt celebrities, and gives you dirty looks when you said you liked a TV show...and you're asking whether or not you should break up with him?
He's immature and has a mean streak - toward both gays (and WOMEN) and you want to stay with him? Why? That's a dealbreaker for you.
Look, honey, figure out what you want out of your life, with or without a guy. Learn to like yourself so that the next time some jerk wants to date you, you'll have enough self-esteem to say no right away.
It's been said before, but you really do deserve a nice and thoughtful boyfriend - but learn how to treat yourself nicely first.
Hopefully,
Cavatica
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Hey,
Honey take it from granny, if a man is too worried about gay guys, it normally means two things 1) he is gay 2) he is insecure. A real man is not worried about what goes in another persons bed, just his own....The best thing to do when he starts this bull is to say, is to tell him what grany says...and granny knows...it's one or the other...
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Its obvious it bothers you, and that is enough IMO for you to move on. He has some opinions (some will say issues) that you do not share, and if it is bothering you, you shouldn't subject yourself to this.
I'm a man, and its hard for me to understand this. My guess is that he has learned this view of the world over decades, and you probably won't be able to change him. I dont know if your BF was raised ultra-conservative or just has an axe to grind, but I would opt out of this before he throws a boot at you.
But men are better at women at lots of things!
...like emberassing their spouses, leaving dirty clothes in every corner of the house, and moving furniture around (though its the women who have to direct or men will just put stuff ANYWHERE, hell...I'm that way myself). Smarter? Hell, thats not even based on sex, unless we are talking pre-19th amendment here when men had an obvious advantage with education and the like...and thats not intelligence even then, simply the appearance of intelligence measured by education.
Seriously there are lots of men that would probably match your views more closely, and be a better fit in a relationship.
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You know you want to, but I am wondering what has kept you from running from this guy as soon as you realized how creepy he is. We don't want you jumping from one jerk to another, so if this is a pattern the best thing to do would be to get counseling or at least some self-help books. If something about jerks appeals to you, then you need to figure that out and fix it. This boyfriend of yours is putting up an obvious macho front to hide his actual feelings of insecurity about his manhood. Maybe his father belittled him. Anyway, unless he wants and gets psychological help, you do not want a future with him. It is extremely doubtful he would agree to counseling, so I would dump him and end all contact. If he pursues or threatens you, then call the police immediately.
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Dump him. He's an absolute idiot that hates every type of person other than himself. Just cut your losses and get out
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imagine if you don't leave him, it could get worse. I would suggest leaving him let him know your not stupid smart enough to leave his mean sick mind
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I think you should. Its obvious you don't feel the same way he does and if it hasn't caused any major problems yet it soon will.
Anyone so full of hate will never love you like you deserve to be. You will always be second class and inferior in his mind. Even though you know better, if you stay with him long term he may even get you to believing it. You don't want that. Find someone who respects you as well as other people. You will be happier in the long run. :)
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just from what youve said, yes you need to leave him now. you shouldnt be with some one who says those types of things about your gender or about other people. thats jsut hatefull and it shouldnt be tolerated.
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