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I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant How do I tell my boyfriend
I'm almost 21 and I admit it my boyfriend and I don't always use a condom, but I've been on the pill for years and never had an issue. Till recently when I was sick, the Dr gave me antibiotics but didn't tell me that they would make my birthcontrol inaffective. To make matters worse I forgot to start my newest round of pills after my last cycle. For two weeks now I've been waiting patiently for any signs that my period is coming and nothing has happened other than nausa and dizzyness, and being un able to zip up a dress I made a month ago. I haven't had the courage to take the test yet, mostly cause I'm pretty positive about what it will say. But now here comes the hard part how do I tell my boyfriend that by this time next year we could very well be parents, how do I tell him that because of one little known fact and my preoccupation with my job on campus that our whole lives are about to change. I need some advice from people outside of my cirlce of friends and family someone who has nothing to gain or lose.
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First of all, if you are def. pregnant, congrats! I have been trying to conceive for 10 yrs. and still no baby. There really is no way to cushion the blow of an un-planned pregnancy. Honestly, most guys act the same at first. They either immediately state how they are "not ready" and how they "dont think its the right time financially" blah blah blah. But there are times that the guy will actually understand and just buck up and be a man. If you can determine which type of guy you have, then you can go from there. Type 1(not ready for baby)--simply state the circumstances and let him know that you are the one that has to carry this child. From your statement above it sounds to me like you would deffinitely be keeping the baby. So, Let him know that you are not planning on terminating it or giving it up for adoption. With type 1 you have to be firm. But then let him know that he can take some time to figure out what he wants. Because you cant make him stay, but you can make him pay. Who wants a man around that cant grow up anyhow?--------Type 2(real man)--this should be quite simple. Simply explain the situation and if he is truly genuine, he will stand by you 100%. Now, sometimes you will have a mix of type 1 and 2(this is usually the guy that is scared at first but then comes around in time and totally accepts the baby). In that case tell him your pregnant, he can take it or leave it. And then give him time to take it all in. He will come to terms with the fact that he is going to be a father. Good luck. And take care.
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First of all dont go tellin him shit until you find out for sure that you are pregnat from how you described it, it sounds like a definate possibility but it might just be a pregnancy scare...But you need to sit down with him ::in privacy:: and tell him that you took medicine that made your birth control inactive or w/e happend. Alot of guys will walk out and be like its not mine and shit like that...if hes like that then hes an asshole and isnt gonna be there for your child basically.
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oka well this i understand becuase its a very scary thing.you should definitly take the test even if it is scary you dont even have to tell anyone you are going to just do it while no one is looking,if it turns out possitive,make sure you tell your boyfriend !!!!!if it turns out negative then you can avoid everything and again you dont have to say you took one.just whatever you do make sure you taKE THE TEST Dont think about you think about your pssible bay
let me know how it all works out
lots of lve,lizzie
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First of all, you need to take a test. Or, at least go to the gyno or doctor, have them to bloodwork on you and they can test for the pregnancy hormone level.
My question to you is when you and your boyfriend had sex, when he climaxed did he cum inside of you? If he did, then the chances of you being pregnant are very very high which you seem to know already. If he didn't, the chances are really not that big, there is a chance but not a huge one. You must must must take a pregnancy test. All of this waiting and worrying, believe me is NOT making it any better for you. So, for the sake of your sanity take the test.
Easiest way to tell him is to just sit him down and be straight up. Don't hold anything back tell him everything you told us. He should be understanding because it's his responsibility too. Once you take the test, which the two of you should do TOGETHER by the way, if it turns out positive then you two need to sit down and discuss how you are going to handel the situation. If you will keep it, abortion (Not a good thing to do), or adoption.
Me not believing in abortion, I would for the two of you suggest adoption if you in fact are pregnant. You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you and if you cannot see yourselves being able to handel a child then you should give up the baby.
But please, before you jump to conclusions you need to take a pregnancy test. You never know, for all you know it can turn out negative.
I wish you the best of luck.
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First take the test. If you've been on the pill for years it is a little harder to become pregnant than you think. I don't know how long its been but you don't gain a lot of weight at first. My daughter is about 5 months pregnant and has only gained 2 pounds. So that is not really a sin of anything.
So take that test before telling your boyfriend. Your nausea and dizziness could be from being sick.
If the test is positive, then you just tell him.
If he cares it will be a shock but he will stick around. :)
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hoenstly girl, i just went thru this with a good friend of mine. only she sort of had a miscarraige...im helping her thru it right now.
1st you need to talk to your boyfriend. tell him all the possibilities of what will happen. he may be upset or he may be understanding. you know him better than i do
if hes a good guy though, he'll stay with you. and take on the consequences of the actions.
the second step to do would be to take the test. and it might help if he was there for moral support..but you should take the test and make sure. and if it turns up positive see your doctor.
then decide with your boyfriend what you guys wanna do. that way there is no time to loose in preparing for IF your lives do change all together.
but the main thing is you need to talk to him and tell him.
and then take that test
:)
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