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I am 20 years old an i am engaged to my wounderful boyfriend of 2 years..i recelty found out that this month he has been poking holes the size of tumb tacks in our condums.. i was woundering if there was a chance i am now pregnant...and what should i do..he dose not know that i found out???? i want kids i am just scared that we are not ready (link)
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Yikes! Yes you could get pregnant.
You need to confront him about this. I know you don't want to but girl...he is doing this behind your back. That is very dishonest behavior and you really need to find out whats up with him BEFORE you say I do.
Having a baby is a decision you should make together as a couple. Not something one or the other just decides is going to happen without consulting the other.
Talk to him. :)
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I really like this friend of mine. We used to have something going on a while ago but that became very awkward shortly afterwards.
Since then we both moved on but I do still have feelings for him. However, he drinks a lot (we're both 16), to the extent where he can drink an entire bottle of vodka in a few seconds and not have any problems. He also smokes a lot of weed, and I suspect he may join in with his friends snorting cocaine and taking ecstasy at weekends.
I really don't know what to do about it! He can be moody at times but I do really like him! (link)
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He can be moody because he is probably and alcoholic on top of being an addict. I suggest an anonymous call to his parents, or maybe a note.
Slamming alcohol down like that can kill you. If he tries it with vodka he probably does it with other drinks too.
You need to steer clear. He is in love with the drugs and would make a horrible boyfriend. You won't be number one with him I'm afraid.
As a friend though you really should tell someone. I hope he has someone at home who cares enough to crack down on him good. :)
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I'm 14 and I've been with my boyfriend since I was in 5th grade. They used to think that our relationship was cute, but now they're both annoyed and scared. They're annoyed because they didn't think I would end up really liking him and that I'm too young to have a boyfriend. They're scared because they think that I'm going to do something with him that I'll regret, but I know what's right and what's wrong. And they always tell me how responsable I am and that I've got a good head on my shoulders, but they don't seem to want to get to know him or talk to him. Am I in the wrong or should my parents try to get to know him? (link)
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I think they should get to know him. I'm surprised they don't already.
I would ask mom about having him over for dinner sometime soon. If you don't know his parents that well, maybe you could trade back and forth every other Saturday or Sunday at each others house. It can't hurt and might help the situation a lot.
Parents are going to worry no matter what you tell them. Peer pressure and/or boyfriend pressure can be a hard thing for a young girl not to give into. No matter what your intentions are at the moment.
Discuss it with your mom should she bring it up. Tell her you know of all the pressure you may be under some day and reassure her that you will talk to her about it should you need advice on how to handle it. That may reassure her for a while anyway.
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I hope they let you sweetie. It would be great for them to get to know any boy you should date. Tell them that. :)
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do you know any good techno artists/groups? i need them really badly. (link)
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No I sure don't. Wish I did. Have you sent the question to the group? I am sure someone could be of help.
I won't delete it as a duplicate if you want to try doing that. :)
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I'm 14 and I've been with my boyfriend for four years now. I know I'm not ready for sex and he supports that, but I'd like to know some alternatives for sex. (link)
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Advicenators....
Remember when answering this question that we are not allowed to give graphic descriptions OR tell someone how to perform sex acts. We do have underage users here.
Thanks
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so me and my boyfriend were dry humping but ofcourse ya know he was wearn boxers and jeans and i was wearn underwear n jeans. but what are the chances of his cum leaking through into my pants? (link)
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It isn't anything you need worry about. That's a lot of clothes for it to get through. :)
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my nephew constontally hists his sister what should I do? (link)
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If you are baby sitting then ask your aunt how she would suggest you handle the situation. That way you don't get into trouble.
If you just always notice it happening then still tell your aunt about it and let her handle it. :)
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I am playing about 15 or more hours of soccer a week and i recently got elbowed in my arm. It hurts alot. I figured that I would just rest it and it would feel better, but the other day by friend bumped into my arm and i started hysterical crying. I dont think its supposed to hurt that bad. Does anybody know what i should do? ok, thanksss. (link)
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Try alternating hot and cold compresses on the sore spot. You probably have a deep bruise to your arm.
It may not turn bruise colors but it can still be bruised inside.
If it still hurts in a couple of days, consider seeing your doctor. :)
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No, I am not asking how to become a moderator.
I was wondering how do you become a level 2/3 moderator?
Who changes your mod level? DangerNerd? (link)
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http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69
Will tell you about L2 and up moderators.
If one is needed then Dangernerd is the final word and does the changeing.
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my mother and her big mouth. i'm a sophmore in high school and this has been going on since fourth grade. since then, i've just been fighting this about her as hard as i possibly could, but i don't know how to fight it anymore, because i've run out of ways to do this, i just can't deal with it. when i was little, she use to be one of those really nice moms. also those that would wear a lot of makeup and perfume and she was always so glamorous and happy, despite that she had just gotten a divorce. but i absolutely adored her. an amazing woman, however, she's not that lady anymore. She is in menopause, so she is always, always in a bad mood. Since menopause, that is when the divorce actually hit her. It did not really hit her before because I was very sick as a child, my blood sugar would drop very low and I was constantly in the hospital. She was very worried about me and that was her main priority. but, now, when everything is hitting home for her, I am the one that she pushes all her anger towards, and I find this quite unfair. I don't have any siblings, I don't really have anyone else, so this is taking a tole on me. I know that she has been through a lot, but that is no excuse for her to be directing all her frustrations on me. when she was fifteen years old, with her first boyfriend, she truly adored him, before he passed away after they had been together for about a year. So, now she has it with EVERY guy that knows me. She knows what a first love means to somebody, and she spends her time telling me that i'm a slut because I shouldn't be with my boyfriend, I should be with my first love, who I admit I may feel something for, but he has a girlfriend. I think she also feels upset because she did not get to go to collage. However, she was very successful organizing information in the bank, which computers do now, but she had a very successful job and made good money. but, when she got married and had me, she quit her job because she didn't want to travel. so, since she doesn't have a job and works from home for our family business, she spends her time looking at what I am doing and checks everything that I do from the moment that I wake up and go to sleep and wake up again. she tells me that I am a loser and the only way i will ever get into collage is by being in the school that I am in right now because it is a good school with a "name," u noe? I feel bad because I don't like to be called dumb. I feel that she is taking all of these things out on me and i have no idea what to do or tell her (link)
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Tell her just that. Her remarks are taking their toll on you. Sit and have a great big talk. Tell her you would appreciate it if she would just let you talk before interrupting. Better yet write it in a long letter to her.
Menopause hits a lot of women differently. I didn't have much of a problem with it myself but, I have a sister in law who has become a total nut case.
Some women feel their life is almost over when they go through it. I went through it at a young age so I probably missed a lot of that. That could be what your mom is feeling about herself.
She knows she will never have other children. Even if she didn't want anymore knowing that is a weird feeling. It is pretty final. She may feel she can't find another guy to love because she feels to old. That is untrue though. She has great years ahead!
She could also take a few college classes if she wanted. Doesn't even have to be anything to get a degree with. She should take something just to be around people and have something to be involved with. Something that would make her job easier or get her a better job. No degree needed just some computer skills classes or maybe just something fun.
If she can just get a more active social life herself, she will be more apt to leave yours alone. Encourage her to get out and enjoy her life. I think that is what she is needing.
Good luck. :)
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I'm a 15-year-old girl in need of serious help. My boyfriend and i just got back together afetr a ceating ordeal that he had for a while. Last night i went to a friends party and this guy(who's 20) had his arms around me and my best friend. i think i like this guy, and it feels as though i have just cheated on my boyfriend. did i cheat on him or was this just harmless fun?
signed,
Confused Girl. (link)
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If he had his arm around you and your friend and nothing happened between you then it wasn't cheating. Just forget about it, you did nothing wrong.
The 20 year old probably won't date you if he's smart. Not saying that to be mean. There is quite an age and probably experience difference between you.
He could go to jail if you should date and get intament. Stick with your guy. :)
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i have no idea where exactly to insert a tampon. stupid i know lol but help? ive yet to get one in cause every time i try i just end up jabbing in random places. (link)
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Go to this site. It has a video that will show you how to insert and remove a tampon. It also has other
useful information about using them. It is not a graphic video, it was made for teen girls. All very medical.
The video link is in the middle of the page. :)
http://www.helpingteens.org/article-0096.html
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So I'm gay not like flaming gay, but gay none the less... Last night was our homecoming dance and I brought a date which was a guy... I slow danced with him and everything and apparently everyone was looking at us because my friends warned me that I might get some shit on monday about it... what should I do? (link)
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There will probably be those who will tease you or make fun of you. You will get that everywhere you go in public from some people I'm afraid.
There will be plenty of those who accept you as well. Concentrate on those people and not the negative ones.
What you can actually DO about it I don't know. I don't believe anyone has the right to tell another
how to live their life. Most of them are just ignorant and trying to explain will probably not even be heard.
Just stand your ground and don't let them get you down.
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I was pondering this for awhile, and I have really bad upper-digestive problems, mainly acid-reflux (like REALLY bad), and heartburn. I get a lot of spasms in my throat, frequent shortness of breath (especially exercising), and i'm always coughing. I am not sure if these symptoms are just from other reasons, but people keep telling me I might have cancer, or somewhere to the chance of developing it. Maybe asthma as well from my breathing problems. I get confused on this. And I need what to look for in cancer (like in the throat) and the symptoms of asthma (maybe other breathing conditions) also, if it does sound like I have anything to seek a Doctor with, what could I possibily have (in your educated opinion/guess).
I would like to hear that there is not anything wrong with me, but I keep getting on-going symptoms with breathing, and acid-problems. I'd say I had these for a year now. So please list me symptoms/signs for conditions I may have, and again, I have these symptoms:
*Frequent shortness of breath (especially when exercising during short periods of time and waking up/going to sleep)
*Breathing spasms, especially when waking up.
* Bad acid-reflux, heartburn, any acid-conditions, that actually occur several times a day, even WITHOUT junkfood, eaying before bed, WITH OTC meds, and all the other rules of treating it.
* Coughing frequently from the time I wake up to when I go to bed (I don't know about while I am sleeping).
So just help me out here. Thanks in advance! And I apoligize for how long this is, I just want the most accurate answers as possible. =)
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OK first of all only a doctor can say if you have cancer. If you or one of your friends goes and looks up all the symptoms you have you will of course find
the same symptoms of some forms of cancer. You will also find a lot of the same symptoms with a cold or asthma or any number of other diseases. That is why
anyone with no medical knowledge really shouldn't even look at those sites! A person can get themselves all worked up about nothing if they want to.
Frequent shortness of breath could indeed be asthma. It is most often accompanied by wheezing. I don't exactly know how to describe it, it is a bit of a whistling sound. It may also be that you are out of shape. That also can cause shortness of breath. It is best to be checked by a doctor because it can be treated. Never mess with a breathing problem. See your doc.
I'm not sure what a breathing spasm is. Get it checked also.
Bad acid reflux needs checked by a doctor. It can erode (eat up) your esophagus if left untreated for years. I don't mean to scare you at all but it
could be contributing to your breathing problems. It may also cause your cough.
I think most of your problems may be caused by acid reflux. Please see a doctor about that. You should also tell him/her of your fears so you can stop worrying. That alone is worth the trip to the doctor. :)
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14/f.
please readd. i need your help.
My friend, she has a cheerleading competition, on the same day as my halloween party. its like huge like 60 kids. & everything. I can't reschedule it, because its the only day they could do it.
Its our last year at the same school together, so its not like there will be another halloween party.
Anyways, I'm really mad.. that she'd rather go to some stupid cheerleading competition then be at my halloween party with me. is that being selfish? I mean there will be other cheerleading competitions. Right? Wouldnt you be mad, if that happened to you? (link)
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Most cheer leading competitions are not something you can just blow off. Its just bad luck they happen to fall on the same day.
I don't think you should make a big deal of it. There will be plenty of people at your party and maybe she could stop by after her competition if the party is still going on.
Even though you won;t be at the same school next year doesn't mean it is your last party together. You can still invite your friends to your party's even if the go to a different school.
If she has done it 4 times in the past, maybe she isn't as good a friend as you think she is. :)
You will have a good time even if she isn't there. :)
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14/f. I babysit this adorable boy who is about 3 i think and he is so hyper and stuff! i usually babysit him at night, like i put him to bed and stay there for another few hours. i am usually only watching him for about 3 hours and then i sit there and watch tv when he goes to bed for the other like 2 hours until the parents get home. they just told me to put him to bed and then i could help myself to anything to drink and watch tv and what not, but i just feel bad when they come home and im sitting there watching tv. i dont know why but even though they told me i could i feel like i shouldnt be. like basically they're paying me to do nothing. before the kid goes to bed i always am playing with him and i dont ignore him. i just feel bad. should i do something differently? or is it ok to still sit there and do nothing when they get home even though i feel bad? please help i am babysitting for them tomorrow night. thanks! (link)
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It is fine to just sit and watch TV. They know you are there if he wakes up and needs something. Don't feel bad, you are still working just being there watching TV! :)
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What is up with these 13 yr olds and getting pregnant/asking for advice about fingering and sexual things like that. wtf is our world coming too.When I was 13 I was still playing coodies with the guys next door or riding my bike around the neighborhood. Gahsh by the time I turn 30, 5 yr olds will be worried about sex. WTH (link)
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It is creepy. I think they believe "everyone" is doing it.
Feel free to try and nicely tell them that isn't the case and it is okay not to. They may listen to you, I doubt they would listen to me.
If they rate you badly file an abuse report and we can fix it. Don't be rude though or call names. :)
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am i the only one who hasnt gotten an update for anything on here in like a week or two?? (link)
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I don't really know what you mean by an update.
You update your column by answering questions.
If you want to be more specific I will try to edit the answer. :)
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How long does weed stay in your system? (link)
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The terminal half-life of THC is from about 20 hours to 10 days, depending on the amount and potency of the marijuana used.
This means that if you take one milligram of THC that has a half-life of 20 hours, you will still have 0.031 mg of THC in your body more than four days later. The longer the half-life, the longer the THC lingers in your body.
It can be detected by hair folicle tests for much longer. I'm thinking it can go back a year but I am not positive on that one.
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hey
i know this song, "come on eileen" by the clash
is it a remake of "come on eileen" by save ferris?
thanks a bunchh ♥ (link)
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Actually the song was first done by Dexy's Midnight Runners in 1982. All others are covers.
If you'd like to read more about it here is a website. I haven't heard the remakes but the original was great! :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Come_On_Eileen
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