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My relationship makes my parents scared.
I'm 14 and I've been with my boyfriend since I was in 5th grade. They used to think that our relationship was cute, but now they're both annoyed and scared. They're annoyed because they didn't think I would end up really liking him and that I'm too young to have a boyfriend. They're scared because they think that I'm going to do something with him that I'll regret, but I know what's right and what's wrong. And they always tell me how responsable I am and that I've got a good head on my shoulders, but they don't seem to want to get to know him or talk to him. Am I in the wrong or should my parents try to get to know him?
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You should talk to your parents about him and why you like him and maybe they will understand you more. You should convince them that you know whats right from wrong and trust you and promise them you wont have any regrets. If you think you will have regrets maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Hope this helps!
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Why do you want them to get to know him better? It won't change their minds about you being too young for a serious relationship or for being too young to tie yourself down to just one guy and be missing out on dating fun with other guys or just putting off all that adult crap until you are older. You are still their little precious girl no matter what and no one will ever be good enough for you. They love you and will never be ready for you to grow up. You will grow up despite their lack of permission, and you will date many wonderful and horrible and wonderfully horrible men with or without their consent and make all your own decisions in life eventually. There may even come a time when you will understand why they were so silly, when you have your own kid. For now, continue to be a great kid, who is lucky to have great parents and a cute boyfriend, one of many that will come in and out of your life. They don't want to buy into your seriousness about this guy or to have you think they approve of your seriousness over anyone at your age, so don't bug them about it. Your pretty lucky you are allowed to date at all, so keep it "cute" for your parents, before they change their minds about you getting to date altogether!
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I think they should get to know him. I'm surprised they don't already.
I would ask mom about having him over for dinner sometime soon. If you don't know his parents that well, maybe you could trade back and forth every other Saturday or Sunday at each others house. It can't hurt and might help the situation a lot.
Parents are going to worry no matter what you tell them. Peer pressure and/or boyfriend pressure can be a hard thing for a young girl not to give into. No matter what your intentions are at the moment.
Discuss it with your mom should she bring it up. Tell her you know of all the pressure you may be under some day and reassure her that you will talk to her about it should you need advice on how to handle it. That may reassure her for a while anyway.
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I hope they let you sweetie. It would be great for them to get to know any boy you should date. Tell them that. :)
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