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So yeah... Homecoming dance...
So I'm gay not like flaming gay, but gay none the less... Last night was our homecoming dance and I brought a date which was a guy... I slow danced with him and everything and apparently everyone was looking at us because my friends warned me that I might get some shit on monday about it... what should I do?
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iqnore the Rude peopLe if yur happy with yur life.
Yu was put on this Eirth to make yurSelf happy not other peopLe its yur Life live it how yu want to dont let judgementle people bring yu down
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Please follow up with your question. Did you get a lot of shit on monday?
Its funny, strange not haha, that you asked what you should do because in my opinion, you already did it. Now what? You just be.
Were you out before all this? How many people knew before? Did your family know or was this news to them also?
Now, as someone who is an older gay man and as someone who was just like you in high school, I want to address one more point with you. Be careful in the way you perceive what others think of you. I say this because you felt the need to start your question with a disclaimer that "you are gay, not like flaming gay, but gay none the less". While I applaud with a fully extended standing ovation that you are so assure of yourself and level headed enough to bring a male date to your homecoming dance, I just want to make sure that you don't stand in judgement of other gay males who might be "flaming" gay. I am in my early 30's, was an All-American is 2 sports in college and in high school, and gay, but I didn't fully deal with my personal life until my athletic career was over. I am not "flaming" in any way. BUT, I hope you are still able to appreciate other gay people who are not like you. Just like the rest of the world, the gay world is made up of many shapes, colors, and styles. I know first hand that some of the people who give advice on this website can be brutal, bigotted pigs, but still it wasn't necessary to start your question this way. Just say that you are a gay male and last night you brought a guy to your homecoming dance.
Lastly, remember that moment of dancing slowly with this guy. Remember the song. Remember the touching. Remember his name. If you were really worried about the shit you might get come next Monday, you would of been watching all of them watching you. Instead you were in your moment, enjoying it. You didn't give a shit then, so why give a shit now?
You are a very courageous young man that followed in the footsteps of many courageous gay men and women. You owe your pride to all of them, so respect them by living a respectful life. You ask what you should do, you should take your lifestyle this seriously. Just Be.
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I think you've got to make absolutely certain inside yourself how you feel about your sexual orientation. What I mean is, how do you feel about being gay? If you feel fine with it inside yourself, you'll be prepared to deal with all the curious questions, awkward glances, rude gestures, hateful remarks, and everythingelse that comes with being officially Different :P!
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Hey,
Do you like him?
Did you have a good time?
Was the dance fun?
Did it make you happy to have him there?
If the answer to these questions are yes than it doesn't matter what people think do what you want and what makes you happy
Peace out,
Askher
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you didn't sin, right? so ignore all the things that they will say about what happened. they're bullies and they are the ones who will sin. you are just being yourself and there's nothing wrong with it. be firm and never blame yourself in doing such thing and being such being..
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If people give you shit because you're gay, they have problems, seriously. They shouldn't be hating on you just because you like guys. That is YOUR business, not theirs. People shouldn't be in other peoples' business anyways. I suggest ignoring them. They don't have any reason for saying shit to you. Did you have fun at the dance with your date? It sounds like it. So, who cares? You had fun and you enjoyed your time with your date, there is NOTHING wrong with that. So people, who have a problem with that, have problems of their own. Just ignore them and do your thing. You shouldn't care about what others may think about you, as long as you're happy with yourself that is all that matters.
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It is estimated that about 10% of the population is homosexual or bisexual. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
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i think whatever you do you need to be confident and stick up for what you believe. Don't let people but you down.. and they say eww you did whatever just be like and your point
most people don't mean to be rudes. Its just akward. even for me, and my best friend is gay. I have nothing against gay people its just something you are just getting introduced in when you are in highschool. Most people are more curious over it then mad
Just be yourself and don't backdown
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Just tell them that this is 2006 not 1950. It's not like you were having sex with him in the middle of the dance floor. You didn't do anything that a straight person wouldn't do with their date. I don't know were your from (gay stero types is more common in the south) but people need to face the facts. over 11% of the population is gay. Good Luck. Hope I helped:)
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Seriously, who cares about what they think? People will give you shit for everything that you do because they're idiots like that. They spend more time worrying about other peoples lives but their own. Ignore them. If it bothers you, don't show it because that will make them act even worse about it. If you're okay with who you are and if your friends are, other people shouldn't matter. It's just their opinion anyways and you don't need their crap. You have people who care about you and that's all you need so don't let some immature people get to you.
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who cares what they say?
i am so glad that you arent ashamed to be gay.
some people are against gays but those people are just gonna have to deal.
stick with your group of friends. and eventually it will die down.
keep your confidence up and you should be fine.
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Don't do anything. Just ignore anything that comes your way; be who you are and don't be afraid to show it. Society nowadays sucks, they think anything that isn't normal to them is just so horrible and it shouldn't around. Well, that's not true. Being gay is just fine, and don't worry about what others have to say about it. Stick with the ones that support you and aren't against you. Be yourself.
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There will probably be those who will tease you or make fun of you. You will get that everywhere you go in public from some people I'm afraid.
There will be plenty of those who accept you as well. Concentrate on those people and not the negative ones.
What you can actually DO about it I don't know. I don't believe anyone has the right to tell another
how to live their life. Most of them are just ignorant and trying to explain will probably not even be heard.
Just stand your ground and don't let them get you down.
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hey who cares? thats the way i look at it. if your gay your gay. dont let anyone change that about you alright?
stay true and be yourself.
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