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my name is actually LAE and...

i'm not a good advicer but enough to be understanding,
i'm not always around but enough to depend on,
i'm not so sweet but enough to be so thoughtful,
i'm not your bestfriend but enough to be your true friend...

advice

I am really bored.People tell me to get a life.How do I do that.Please tell me how I should get a life,get rid of my boredom,meet new people and make new friends. Any answers are appreciated

try making scrapbooks. since they need no money, they are affordable to make and it makes our creativity and imagination tested. then if you've collected many, you can sell it and make it a hit to other people and eventually meet new friends...

lovelotzx
lae...

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13/female
i really like this guy at serbian dancing but we neva talked before but he alwayz asks his friend 2 ask stuff bout me and now hiz friend left so we hav no connectionn at all! Ive tried promising myself 2 talk 2 him and stuff but everytime i just chicke out and i usually hav no problem talkin 2 guyz! He usually smiles at me but neva talks 2 me i dont no wats goin on can u plz help????
p.s. im from australia

girls are patient and modest...ladies are not making the first move...they wait for men...for me, just let him make impressive looks on you..then seek help to your or his friends about getting close to him...if so, ask him common personal questions and make him feel you're 'next to special friends' (meaning, he's your bf!!!) until he will eventually fall for you...be impressive too to him...be loyal and trustful...

luvlotzx...
lae..

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14/f
okay well my friend said she didnt like this guy anymore but i like him a lot. he is everything that i look for in a guy and i am everything he looks for in a girl. would it be rude to start flirting with him.would it be mean if i dated him. i dont want to ruin our friendship.

since you're friends, explain to him little by little your feelings for him. prioritize in your talk that you really don't want your friendship be ruined. he'll sure prevail his feelings for you. do this in perfect time, manner, and place...

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There is this guy I have a huge crush on, and Im almost 100% positive that he feels that same way too. Only, he has a girlfriend.

They have been going out for 2 months and he barely gives her any attention. I rarely ever see them talking, and we all hang out. But I get the biggest vibe that he has a crush on me too. What should I do?

Wait around? Or should I say something?

while on a hang-out, tell him quitly little by little what you both feel with each other. something will sure pop out ..

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13/m ok i like this girl. I have a strong felling she likes me , but im not sure. is there any way of knowing without having to say anything to her. it sounds like im shy but im not i just dont want to mess anything up 'cause weve been friends for about 4 years. and that friendship is really important to me.thanx alot in advance.

since you're friends, appoint a hang out to your group (if you have) in a mall. then tell the girl you like to accompany him first because you want her to help you pick out a bag or dress for the girl you want to court (but this girl is she). tell her that she and the girl have similar likes or size so that she can be able to have what she want. then upon buying, find the others then act as if you can't find them already then you're tired. treat her in a restaurant or any other where you can sit down and talk. then open your real intention with her.

the day after, give the stuff you bought which she chose. put a note inside it that you like her..

i know for you this is a money-wasting thing to do but this is the only way you can get close to her and to make sure of her feelings with you..

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So today I had a really unlucky day...everything that could go wrong went wrong. I even didn't feel good today. I still have the migrain i had an hour ago. Anyways At the very end of the schoolday I took my phone out to text my boyfriend when I was done i put my phone in my pocket. When I was on the bus with my boyfriend I was about to call my mom and it figures my phone wasn't in my pocket so it must have fallen out. I called my mom on his house phone and told her and she got really pissed. She was talking so negativly to me about it saying i will never see it again. How does she know? Then she was telling me that i don't care about anything and I don't take care of my stuff... She was basically telling me its all my fault. Is it my fault for it falling out of my pocket? Then when I got off the phone she calls right back and tells me i shouldn't be with my boyfrined and that we need time apart. Now what does he have to do with this? She made my day much worst and made me feel like total crap. I can never confront her because she gets even more mad. She just loves pulling those guilt trips. I'm just so upset right now.

gently talk to her about it. tell her it just happened accidentally. and i'm sorry about this but, you have to admit that you were a little careless on your phone. you can keep it in your purse or bag than your pocket. i can also not blame your mom because she have a deep point in her words. what i see is, cellphone is not a just. it is too expensive to have one. and about your bf, tell your mom he has nothing to do with it . tell your bf too that your mom want you to put a space between you but you don't want to and he too doesn't want to. be honest with it. also seek help or advice to your bf about it. do this after your migrain has gone..

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15, female

so yeah I like this boy... and I think I wanna be with him.

So heres the story.

I have been friends with him since 7th grade. We used to hang out with groups of people. Yeah so we used to be pretty good friends. So then our friend group broke up I wasnt friends with them anymore, so we never hung out again. Then there was a period where he was rude to me and
i didnt like him but blah blah thats in the past.

Anyways this year we have been talking again and have gotten closer. The problem was he had a girlfriend for the first half of the year, but he broke up with her (yay =D)they are still really close friends. She was really clingy like calling and commenting him all the time, I think she asked him out. Thats the opposite of me im not good at making the first move.

I really want to hang out with him and be with him, but I dont know how he will react to that since we have been friends for so long. It would be kinda weird. Also we have absolutely none of the same friends so it probablly wouldnt work to go in a group. So that makes it double hard


So how do I reconnect with him and hang out with him, and ultimatly be with him?

sorry its so long.. =]

sorry but you really have to overcome your shyness in making a hang out with him. or know his e-mail ad then through it appoint a date with him without him knowing it was you being his date. make your meeting place simple like just in the park. then little by little ask light questions about his lovelife since you were friends. be always close with him..

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15/f
I like my brother's friend (17 years old), and he's really nice to me (says things like "You're magic" and "You're on fire") and he always opens my doors.

But he doesn't look at me much (unless he's talking to me)...even when he's sitting directly across from me, or when it's just me, my brother, and him. When I point something out to my brother, he looks at where I point but doesn't look at me.

By the way, he's very outgoing.

So, why doesn't he look at me? I'm not sure if he hates or likes me. And, could he like me?

tell your brother about it. also be honest to your bro that you like his friend. seek help to him in being close with his friend. then if he's enough that confident with you, ask little questions about him... something will sure make up...

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I'm a junior in high school, and it's now 2nd quarter. The past few weeks I haven't cared about my grades, and I don't know why. And, so they slipped. Now, I'm caring a lot more. I just need some good study habits to help me. What can get me motivated to study and do realy well on tests and homework? Anything good will help me. Thanks!

experiment first where your mind will be soothed in relaxed in studying. in your study room (or just study area), see to it that you have an alarm clock, all the things that you needed in making projects so that your time will not be wasted in getting stuffs, a well-lit area. remember not to study during and after eating. nothing will enter your mind. stretch every after 30 minutes so that your mind will not get cracked. sit straight with your back resting on the backrest and your feet flat on the floor. don't sacrifice your health for your studies. have your breakfast heavy and sleep early then wake up just right at time. when your teacher is discussing, jot down important notes on a leaf paper notebook and have your pen not skipping ink. scan your notes before going to school.

i know these aren't easy jobs but they'll sure work out with discipline...

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There's this guy that I talk to in a few of my classes and I like him, quite a bit actually. But we are sorta friends and I want to go out with him but I don't know how I should tell him. Because I don't wanna ruin the friendship we already have. What should I do?

i am currently experiencing that exact situation although he has an ex-to-be. what i do is i'm always hanging with him around and when we have practices in school i am always asking him if he can accompany me the way back home. and now we're real close although he doesn't notice the way i act days ago. i always talk to him about her gf it's kinda hurtin me but i'm doing it for friendship's sake and for it to be an advantage for us to get real closer. still nobody knows it except me, myself, and I. i'm patient enough to tell him my feelings-- at about college i'm gonna tell him thru texting. at least i made our friendship last long without him noticing my plans. it's up to you, friendship, or love. while waiting for the right time, it's just an infatuation.

good luck to the two of us in telling our feelings...

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Two of my supposed friends my friends have definitely been talking about me behind my back. How should I confront them?

i have experienced that already. it's just an instinct inside me that made me open to them the matter. and they remained silent but after that they stopped doing it. so i suggest to try talking to them in a perfect time, and perfect place, and perfect manner. be ready with tissue paper...

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so im 14 years old and i think i have a yeast infection. i alwayyyyyyyyys have this white looking stuff all over down there and its kind of smelly. its been doing this for months now and i thought it would just go away and im too scared to tell my mom to take me to the doctor for it or something. are there any ways i can get it to go away without her knowing? and can it go away on its own? and is it normal to have white stuff down there? are yours like all clean and stuff?

maybe you are going to have menstruation.. do already have? sorry for the words...

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why are people so deathly afriad of rats? like they scream and the rats wont even hurt them! i like rats.

so why?

i, too, am like that. i think it's because of the disgusting feeling of their feet or tail when it get on you..(sorry for the word, i don't know how to term it that's why...)

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So I'm gay not like flaming gay, but gay none the less... Last night was our homecoming dance and I brought a date which was a guy... I slow danced with him and everything and apparently everyone was looking at us because my friends warned me that I might get some shit on monday about it... what should I do?

you didn't sin, right? so ignore all the things that they will say about what happened. they're bullies and they are the ones who will sin. you are just being yourself and there's nothing wrong with it. be firm and never blame yourself in doing such thing and being such being..

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i think my best friend likes my boyfriend. they are friends but she calls him all the time talks about him comstantly and flirts with him when im not around .. what do i do .. ive confronted her before and she denied it, but my other friends have noticed too.

it's time to talk to your bf. make him tell the truth. bring your friends that also noticed the new relationship of the two. also be with your bestfriend in the talk. it'll sure be prevailed what's the truth among them.

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So I have this friend and we used to be really close over the summer, but we just started high school officially and now she keeps ditching me. I don't get it. We make plans and we say we are gonna hang out but then the day of she makes up this dumb excuse so she can go hang out with someone else, usually my ex-bestfriend. It's getting pretty annoying, what should I do?
O yeah, she's not very good with talking about stuff so there's not much to say to her.

talk to your ex-best friend about your present bestfriend. ask her if she's inviting your present bestf to go out on the day of your own hangout. ask her if what's wrong with her. ask her if she's mad at you. then appoint a hang-out in a unique place that she will sure go with you. and little by little ask questions about the problem..

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I've had 3 jobs in my life. One at a restaurant, one at a library, and one at Old Navy. They all were busy places to work. At each of them, I was always the "slow" person. I can't ever get tasks done in a timely manner. It takes me longer than everyone else. I don't understand it. It's not that I'm lazy. I get really good grades, too..Maybe I'm a perfectionist?

Why am I like this and how can I change?

a little adjustment to your busy and fast environment will help. continue working in those places.. it will make you better.

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I'm a freshman in highschool, and I've started hearing more and more about people drinking, smoking, doing drugs, etc. I don't know if it's just my school, or if it's normal... but it seems like if you don't drink, people are like, "OMG?! YOU DON'T DRINK?!" Is it like that elsewhere? Or is it just my school? Because I'm hearing a lot about it now. Also, why do so many people do these things to themselves? What to they get out of it? A hangover? They like that? Can't they have fun without getting drunk or high? I don't get it. Sorry so many questions, thanks in advance.

youth like are all over. especially those who speak of bad words are too annoying, right? just be firm. if somebody or something provoke you to do such mean thing, learn to say a strong NO. for them, ask or talk to them if why are they doing those things then say your part. if they will say, "Why, what's wrong with that?" or, "You're just my classmate, so get out of this!" make them reflect of what are they doing, if are there any good effects upon them in doing those things? such affecting question will make them enlighten a bit although you'll not see it yet so soon...

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okay well i broke up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago now. we were dating for 1 1/2 years. and now i'm dating this kid who i really like and he really likes me. but i sorta still have feelings for my ex.he was a real jerk someitmes and everything but then other times he seemed like the perfect boyfriend.and i think he still sorta has feelings for me and so does everyone else. like he always follows one of my best friends boyfriend's around becuase i'm always with her . and they think its becuase he wants to be near me again. and he is always looking at me and walking next to me in the hallway but not talking. and my best friend thinks that hes waiting for me to call him because he always has his phone on and when we were dating it was always off.but i dont know. and at lunch today he backed me up when this kid wouldn't pick something up that he threw.but the weird thing is, is we haven't talked since i broke up with him and i still want to be friends with him but i dont know.i'm so confused.and my new boyfreind is more of a perfect boyfriend but i dont know if i love him like i did for my ex. how am i suppose to tell ?and what should i do about my feelings for my ex?

you love your ex and you feel that your present bf is a perfect one.. get permission or a consent or leave a word to your present bf that you will just talk with your ex privately for the breaking to be cleared. then in your coversation with your ex, tell your real feelings to him and ask him too if why is he always in your back-up. also ask him if he still have feelings for you. then be honest to your present bf. if the result of the talk with your ex is that you both still love each other, go tell your present bf that you're confused with your situation. explain to him that you have the feeling that he's the perfect one for you but you still have this feeling for your ex. seek help to him too.

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there is this guy who rides my bus and he is sooo cute and sooooooo nice. he is a sophmore and i am a freshman and one of his friends who is also my friend says that he thinks i am hot and i like him so how can i possibly get him to ask me out because i really like him!!!!!

use your friend that is also his... he's the bridge to your mutual understanding..

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