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My mom treats me unfairly.
So today I had a really unlucky day...everything that could go wrong went wrong. I even didn't feel good today. I still have the migrain i had an hour ago. Anyways At the very end of the schoolday I took my phone out to text my boyfriend when I was done i put my phone in my pocket. When I was on the bus with my boyfriend I was about to call my mom and it figures my phone wasn't in my pocket so it must have fallen out. I called my mom on his house phone and told her and she got really pissed. She was talking so negativly to me about it saying i will never see it again. How does she know? Then she was telling me that i don't care about anything and I don't take care of my stuff... She was basically telling me its all my fault. Is it my fault for it falling out of my pocket? Then when I got off the phone she calls right back and tells me i shouldn't be with my boyfrined and that we need time apart. Now what does he have to do with this? She made my day much worst and made me feel like total crap. I can never confront her because she gets even more mad. She just loves pulling those guilt trips. I'm just so upset right now.
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Sweetie, I'm so sorry!
I know what those days feel like.
Just remember one thing, it WILL get better.
Your mom will sooner or later become sane again, she's probably just had a bad day too, just like you, but shes taking it out on you. I think if you apologize for losing your phone, even though its not your fault, tell her your mom you are sorry you really didnt mean to ,then maybe she will be calmer about the whole situation. Tell her it really hurts your feelings about what she said to you, especially her talking negatively about you. Wait a little though for her to calm down, communication is key though.
Good luck :]
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I can relate, and the only thing I can say to you is don't get upset, don't get angry, and don't get depressed.
Are you any of those things? (I don't think so)
Then as hard as it is to do so, let it go.
People will make a living out of speaking negatively to people when they've had a bad day, or just simply don't know how to respond to the situation. Mistakes happen, people lose things all the time. Just be as careful as possible and, if it helps to get her off your back, offer to help pay for a replacement phone by helping around the house, or with actual money.
Guilt trips are good for making you feel guilty, but that doesn't mean you have to stay that way. Everything's not your fault, and everyone makes mistakes.
That's what being human is all about.
(Hope that helps!)
(If you have anymore questions, feel free to contact me at cardenb@countryday.net!)
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gently talk to her about it. tell her it just happened accidentally. and i'm sorry about this but, you have to admit that you were a little careless on your phone. you can keep it in your purse or bag than your pocket. i can also not blame your mom because she have a deep point in her words. what i see is, cellphone is not a just. it is too expensive to have one. and about your bf, tell your mom he has nothing to do with it . tell your bf too that your mom want you to put a space between you but you don't want to and he too doesn't want to. be honest with it. also seek help or advice to your bf about it. do this after your migrain has gone..
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