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friend or foe.
So I have this friend and we used to be really close over the summer, but we just started high school officially and now she keeps ditching me. I don't get it. We make plans and we say we are gonna hang out but then the day of she makes up this dumb excuse so she can go hang out with someone else, usually my ex-bestfriend. It's getting pretty annoying, what should I do?
O yeah, she's not very good with talking about stuff so there's not much to say to her.
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Sadly, this is usually what tends to happen whenever kids go up to the High School and there's so many new people to meet. The old ones can tend to get the boot.
I would slowly just start to drift off from her. Since she's hanging out with other people, you might as well. Who knows? I might make friendships with others even stronger and closer. And try and make plans with her still every so often and see if she still wants to hang out and everything. Let HER come to YOU for once, and let her make all the calls and everything instead of you having to do it all the time. Then you'll know, if she misses you and wants to be friends, then she can do it.
If she notices you're starting to drift and what's happening, she might want to start making plans with you more and ask you why you're getting so busy all of the sudden and just explain to her,"Well, you were always going out and making excuses with me, so I just decided to go out with other people." I can see why she's making excuses, so you won't get mad she's hanging out with your EX-best friend, but she shouldn't even be ditching you for anybody, period.
She sounds like she might be changing a bit, and her loyalties to her friends aren't becoming so good anymore, and she's moving on. This'll adventually bite her in the butt later whenever she realizes what happened ( her losing you as a friend slowly ) and that she lost a good friend. It's her loss, not yours.
I hope I helped.
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Make new friends.
If she ditches you alot, theres a good chance she'll keep doing it. If shes not very good with talking abot stuff.. then, she also sounds kinda boring. So I'd definitely make new friends.
Don't tell her, that you don't wanna like not be friends with her anymore, it will start drama. Just start making new friends & then slowly move away from her (:
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talk to your ex-best friend about your present bestfriend. ask her if she's inviting your present bestf to go out on the day of your own hangout. ask her if what's wrong with her. ask her if she's mad at you. then appoint a hang-out in a unique place that she will sure go with you. and little by little ask questions about the problem..
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You will always drift apart from some of your friends. It doesn't even matter how close you once were.
This friend sounds like she's changed. She might just seem stuck up now and sometimes people will change like that.
You need to stop making calls or coming up to her first. If you've tried to make the friendship work, then you have to just walk away and move on with some new friends or catch up on old friends. If she wants to hang out with you, let her come to you, let her call you. The next time she calls and asks, just say, "I'd love to hang out, but are you going to blow me off this time?" Or something like that. It may seem harsh, but what she's doing to you is a lot harsher.
-TheTeenGirl
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