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Hello, I am a fifteen year old female. In the past I have dated two guys but broke up with them after a very short time because the relationships seemed boring, and I was (obviously) not ready for sex to "spice it up."

Now I feel like I do not want to date anyone again. I am unsure of the reason, it may be stress, nervousness or the fact there is no one whom I like. In the past I have been hurt a lot by guys, despite only dating two of them, and I do not trust anyone with my feelings. Nor do I think that anyone should be burdened with them.

I am wondering if I should try to look hard to find a the right guy, or if I should continue on as I am, basically avoiding relationships.

I want to have a good relationship and find someone who makes me happy and who I can make happy in return, but I also fear it. I know I feel lonely often, though.

How do I let myself trust / search for someone? Do I feel like this because I am young, haven't found the right person or what?

If you have any words of advice at all that relate to something I have discussed, I would really appreciate hearing it. Thanks so much.

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warning: this may be long!
well i am in 7th grade and i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for 1 1/2 months. he cant really go anywhere because his parents are kind of strict. we went to the park once because his parents didnt know and thats is where i got my 1st kiss and my mom found out and she wont let me go. and we hung out at a haunted house on saturday. but that is pretty much it, he said he made a deal with his parents that after either halloween or thanks giving he can start going places with me. but i dont know if that will even happen. i really like him and all but should i let something like that get in the way? i am the 1st person he has actually loved you know so he wants to kiss me a lot even though we have only kissed 4 times. he wanted to kiss me today at my locker but i was shaking in 7th period because i was so nervouss! is there any way that you could help me not be so nervous and help both of us because he has chickened out a few timess. we are both really comfortable around eachother except when it comes to kissing. and he doesnt know how to just do it, he always has to ask me if he can kiss me like a day before..is there anyway i can just kiss him because it really pisses me off when he plans it!!

thanks in advance! sorry it is so long!

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So I'm gay not like flaming gay, but gay none the less... Last night was our homecoming dance and I brought a date which was a guy... I slow danced with him and everything and apparently everyone was looking at us because my friends warned me that I might get some shit on monday about it... what should I do?

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Me and my ex were dating for about a year.
I broke up with him on the 19th.

This is because the past month his personality has taken a 180 degree turn on me. He ignored me 2 times, about 4 days each time. Both those times were completley unnannounced, like he just vansihed out of my life. After the first time he ignored me, he decided to break up with me on the 6th. The next week we started talking again, and he very subtly said that he wanted me back, so I thought he wanted another try, another chance. So he asked me back out, and I said yes thinking he was going to put more effort in to be the boyfriend he was not so long ago.

Well, last week, Monday through Thursday, He vanished on me again. Both of these random vanishing eras, he said he needed time to straighten his head out on account of him being very stressed. Weird.

So last Thursday I brok up with him, because I'm so done with his crap and feeling so hurt. And in the past month, he's broken nearly all his promises he made to me during our relationship.
I was tired of feeling so hurt, so I ended it, as I said.

He didnt talk to me Thursday and Friday, but we talked early Saturday morning, and he came over later on in the day. It was awkward. We both knew we had to talk, but nothing was said.

Yesterday online, he spilled his guts and said he wasn't letting something so special to him go, just because he's been an asshole to me... that he still loves me.. blah blah blah.. and some other things I would of wanted to hear last week when he was ignoring me. He sounded very genuine, though. You can never tell in IMs, but he did sound very genuine.

I dont know. I've asked my friends for advice, and I've gotten different answers from each person.
I've thought about everything he said to me on Saturday, as well as his recent actions that have left me feeling so hurt. And I honestly don't know what to do.

He's out of state for a while, so I don't have to make any descisions. But, I really don't know what to do.
We've had soo many good times. It's worse since he's my first love. We had so many plans.

Help?

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