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Dating
Hello, I am a fifteen year old female. In the past I have dated two guys but broke up with them after a very short time because the relationships seemed boring, and I was (obviously) not ready for sex to "spice it up."
Now I feel like I do not want to date anyone again. I am unsure of the reason, it may be stress, nervousness or the fact there is no one whom I like. In the past I have been hurt a lot by guys, despite only dating two of them, and I do not trust anyone with my feelings. Nor do I think that anyone should be burdened with them.
I am wondering if I should try to look hard to find a the right guy, or if I should continue on as I am, basically avoiding relationships.
I want to have a good relationship and find someone who makes me happy and who I can make happy in return, but I also fear it. I know I feel lonely often, though.
How do I let myself trust / search for someone? Do I feel like this because I am young, haven't found the right person or what?
If you have any words of advice at all that relate to something I have discussed, I would really appreciate hearing it. Thanks so much.
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Okay first things first I totally know how you feel. I'm 17 and I've been in more than two relationships. Yeah they can be horrible, sometimes really horrable. However you can have a good relationship that makes all the heartache worth it. Don't close yourself up but don't wear your heart on your sleeve. The right one will comearound just don't look for him at 15.
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well yeah you're young but you need to work on yourself a bit before you try to be in any kind of serious relationship or else the next boy will just be paying for every jacked up thing the other guys have done to you in numerous ways.
i agree with the other person about stopping looking and stopping avoiding to. be open to whatever comes your way. don't go search for a boy you aren't ready for. someone will just get hurt
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All I can say is to stop searching, but don't keep avoiding. Live your life right now. Find something that you enjoy that doesn't have to do with guys. Focus on something that really makes you happy, and eventually somebody will come into your life that you really enjoy spending time with.
Another thing you could do is to look at all guys as friends. Forget about impressing them. If you become friends with a guy, and see him not a sex item, but just as a companion. Chances are something will spark later on. I don't know if this made sense. Hopefully I helped.
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Don't worry. We all go through that at some point or another. Unfortunately, as soon as I swear off dating, I always end up being asked out by someone...
Don't worry about not dating at your age. At 15, you don't need to date. It's a pain in the butt, takes too much time and energy, and it's restrictive! You're much better off spending time with your friends... If you ever feel lonely, spend time with them!
Plus, if you did find Mr. Right, would you really want to be with him forever? You're too young to be making any serious commitments, so just enjoy dating around when you're ready to.
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well..i am your age as well and know what your going through..but dont go seaching for him..live your life and have fun..dont avoid either.. your still young and more than likely your not going to find the "right" person now.. jsut dont do anything your not ready for. if you party....go out and party meet new people BE A KID! i hope i helped in some way !
-Bri
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Who needs a guy in life anyhow? Focus on things that make you happy. Don't avoid guys, but don't throw yourself at them either. Just let the right guy come to you.
Miss Meg
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