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please readd. i need your help.
My friend, she has a cheerleading competition, on the same day as my halloween party. its like huge like 60 kids. & everything. I can't reschedule it, because its the only day they could do it.
Its our last year at the same school together, so its not like there will be another halloween party.
Anyways, I'm really mad.. that she'd rather go to some stupid cheerleading competition then be at my halloween party with me. is that being selfish? I mean there will be other cheerleading competitions. Right? Wouldnt you be mad, if that happened to you?
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I understand where you're coming from and everything, and you do have a right to be mad, but not like, full on angry.
Since you're in cheerleading yourself, you know how time consuming of a sport that is, and how dedicated you really have to be to remain on that team and be good and everything. I'm sure she feels horrible about missing your party and she really wants to be there and everything, but she knows that if she doesn't show up, she might get kicked off the team, and that it'll throw the whole routine out of whack, because you need every girl in every spot to the lifts and turns and everything. It wouldn't be right if there was one girl missing from all of it, they might even have to change up their schedule to adjust it without her.
Just remember ; even though she won't be there, you're still going to have a great time at the part and have alot of fun. And just because you two won't be at the same school next year, doesn't mean you two won't get to hang out together anymore or go to parties together anymore. You two can always still keep in touch and hang out together and everything over the weekends and even still invite her to your parties and she can do the same for you. You even said so yourself, you go to the same place she does now, so you'll all still get to see eachother.
I would just be careful of your friendship and might want to talk to her about the fact that she's already ditched you four times. Just let her know that makes you feel upset whenever she always keeps missing out on everything together, and that this is your last year together, and you're just worried you guys won't get to hang out as much anymore. That doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. I'm not saying she's a horrible friend or anything, it's just friends shouldn't ditch eachother once, not to mention four or five times.
I hope I helped.
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You shouldn't make a big deal out of this. You have the right to be mad, but cheerleading is a very time consuming sport that you have to be very dedicated to. It stinks that the party is on the same day, but she has to go to the competition. Missing one person could completly throw a team off, especially when stunting. You need to realize that. Yea, there will be other competitions, but without her, they may have to change their routine, and she may even get kicked off.
Sorry, but you need to realize this isn't her fault, and she probably feels bad as it is.
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I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, just wish her luck.
She did not set the schedule for the competition, so its not her fault its on the same day at the party.
Next, you need to be commited to sports and she just can't bail.
Plus, if you're just friends because you goto the same school, then maybe you're not really friends. It shouldn't matter that this is the last year together.
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you can't ask her to blow off cheerlieading to hang ouot with you. it's not necisarilly selfish, just a bit un-realistic. she woudn't exactly be blowing you off either, she knew she had to do that most likely before she knew of your party. okay, i guess it is selfish. if it's important to her and it's something she cares about, you shouldn't hold one party over her head. what's so important about her being there that night? you can always have a small 'party' between you and her a few days prior to or after. you need to realize that this isn't ditching nor is it that she doesn't care about you. so don't over think the situation, because neither event is big enough to be annoyed at eachother.
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You do have a right to be mad because she is your best friend and she should be at your party. But this is a cheerleading competion and you have to understand that if she misses, she's letting her team down, therefore screwing up all their lines and stunting groups.
However, you could ask her about it and see if theres a possibilty of her missing out on this competition and have someone fill in for her.
I would be mad but I was a cheerleader before and it's really hectic when you have someone missing and cant put your stunts up. It is your friends responsibilty to show up at that competition..
Good luck, hope I helped.. =]
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Most cheer leading competitions are not something you can just blow off. Its just bad luck they happen to fall on the same day.
I don't think you should make a big deal of it. There will be plenty of people at your party and maybe she could stop by after her competition if the party is still going on.
Even though you won;t be at the same school next year doesn't mean it is your last party together. You can still invite your friends to your party's even if the go to a different school.
If she has done it 4 times in the past, maybe she isn't as good a friend as you think she is. :)
You will have a good time even if she isn't there. :)
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