I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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I've been with my boyfriend since the beginning of January. He's the first serious guy I've been with. Gosh I love him so much. He's a sophomore, I'm a junior. He told me he is leaving in July to finish high school in a city 2.5 hours away. He said that finishing high school there would earn him a 2 year associate's degree along the way (it's a special program). I couldn't take it. I told him if he's sure he is leaving, I don't want to see him anymore. I don't want him getting my hopes up with "I love you"'s and kissing. He's basically leaving my life forever in a few short months.
Someone please help me. I'm very sad about this because I love him SO much and he doesn't seem to care! *tear* (link)
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2.5 hrs isn't a long time. True, you won't be able to see him as often but there are ways around that. Ever heard of skype? Here's the website and see what you think:
http://www.skype.com/intl/en-gb/
It allows you to call others with Skype (on computers) for free!!! And cheap prices to call phones and mobiles around the world. It's incredibly useful and plus, it's a free download with no hitches. Trust me on this, if you and your boyfriend get it, then you can call talk to each other to your hearts content and it would seem as if he's not that far (I can call my dad in Afghanistan for free and it's fantastic. The sound is so clear, it's as if he's standing next to me!!)
Plus, you should be happy for him, because he's managed to find a place which will mean that he can do what he wants to do in his life.
People can make long distance relationships happen if the couple work together, but it will be tough.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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15/f
theres a kid in my class whos really hot and he seems so much cooler than other guys. i dont really talk to him inperson alot but online we would talk everydya for like 4 days, then all the sudden he stoped i.ming me. he commented a picture of mine saying it was cute. he seemed kind of intersted now he doesnt. at a dance yestreday i wanted to be around him so bad just to like get to know him more but i dont want to look like an idiot if he thinks im a loser. i already asked my friend to talk to him but i dont think he did and i dont know what to do. should i keep i.ming him and being annoying? help! (link)
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Being annoying is likely to drive him away from you because it would make you sound desperate and that is the last thing you want to happen if you like him.
It could be that there is something which has happened in his life (e.g. a relative dying or very ill) or something has happened at his house (e.g. he might've had a big fight with his parents). Just let him be for the moment and see what happens.
I don't if you want to hear this, but he might have a girlfriend. Just keep that in mind because that could be the case.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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alright so basically theres this girl who is really annoying to me. and she doesnt even do that much that is annoying but for some reason every time she talks i think shes annoying for it, even if shes just asking for the homework or something. dont be mistaken though, she does a lot of annoying things that really ARE annoying.
now im getting so insecure that everything i say comes out as annoying as what the girl says. i know that deep inside, im not really like her, but im still worried. every time i open my mouth i revise what im about to say so i dont sound as annoying as the girl, and its really taking a toll on me. opinions? what should i do? (link)
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Just ignore her. Don't let her influence conrtol your life. It's your body, your toungue, your mind, don't let somebody else have that kind of control over you.
I board at my school and i've got one annoying room mate whose successfully managed to get me down to my last nerve and i loose it which is an achievement because that only usually happens once or twice every year, but it's happened at least once every term!!! But what i did was to relax (which helped) and tried and ignore his doings but after i found that it was useless (the ignoring), I got used to it and here i am, a term later and still in his room with the craziness still going on around me!!
Live your life the way you want and don't be worried by what you say.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Okkay, Me and my boyfriend started dating like a week ago.
I think I already love him but im scared to tell him. Im scared because I think its too early to say it. Should I wait for him to say it or what?
Thanks. (link)
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I think you're right about waiting till you can identify as to what you're feeling for this guy. A week is a little early to tell him how you feel for him, and even worse because you're not sure! Let him find out how he feels and how you feel for him, truely.
Love can take time to develop, only until you can tell in your heart that you love him should you tell him. It's nerve racking, not only because you're telling him what you feel for him, but because you don't know what his reaction is and how he will take it.
It's best to wait for him to tell him how he feels for you because you'll know by then how you truely feel about him, and he feels about you and then there will be nothing to worry about as to how he will react. Leave the professing of feelings till later on in the realtionship and see you've got to see how that goes first!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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13/f
Well my friend isn't really hanging out with us anymore. Actually we had a pretty big group of friends but its kinda split up now. We have all talked to her but she seems like she has split off now. She hangs out with 3 other friends (they are all our friends) But she keeps saying its really important and we can't know. I mean I get it if its really important. But when I'm with the other half of our group they are all just laughing and stuff. I mean they are not even talking about anything important. She still comes up and gives us hugs but then she goes off. All of us think that except the ones that are with her. The only time she hangs out with is when she has no one else to hang out with. Its stupid and I'm tired of it. I mean I like her alot, I don't hate her. So please help me out. Thanks a whole lot! (link)
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People change in different ways. It could be that she wants to still be friends with you, but she wants to have some other friends as well, if you get what i mean.
If not, let me eloborate. Being in a big group of friends in good for you and everything, but after, you get the urge to go out and meet other people and hear their views on things. So let's take at look as to what she may be thinking (this is an educated guess): 'I have a large group of friends and after a while, i keep on feeling that I should 'move on' with my life and not restrict myself to the same group of people. Though i'm expanding, i still want to remain friends with the group whilst forging the new friendship between the new people. And if they aren't around, i can go to the group where i still know people and care about'.
Hanging out with you just because there's nobody else shouldn't be annoying; you should be grateful that she's keeping in contact with you. Some people just leave their old friends behind, so coming to hang out with you is a sign (to me anyway) that she still wants to be friends, even though she's hanging out with others.
I hope this helped and don't block her out, accept her when she comes back,
triquetra
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my parents gave me a good luck charm which was a small statue of a god in my religion to take with me to the nj state forensics tournament on friday. well, as soon as they gave it to me, i put it right into my purse and put the purse right into my tote bag. not once did i take the charm out.
when i got back last night i was very tired and took out all my stuff in my purse & tote bag and put everything away in the correct spot. even when i'm extremely tired, i know i'd either put everything in the right spot or keep everything on my table, and i put everything away in the right spot & didn't misplace anything... i hope. well, this morning i was awoken by the thought... "why don't i remember taking out the charm from my bag?" so i got up to look in my purse.
and -- conveniently -- the charm disappeared. i had NO idea where it went. i mean yeah the typical answer, "duh, you left it at the forensics tournament" but it couldn't have just WALKED out of my purse. and the odds that i was taking something else of of my purse & the charm got stuck on the item and fell ... are unlikely because the charm is heavy for its size.
so i now need some advice.
should i just look through ALL my stuff (again)?
should i just tell my parents right off that i lost it?
should i do a combination of the above?
what should i do if they ask me for it? (should i stall and say, "ohh i don't feel like getting it now"?)
should i just hope that they forget about it and never ask for it again?
i feel so terrible. they told me not to lose it and i LOST it.
and no, it's irreplaceable. it's not from this country so i can't just BUY a new one. (link)
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I usually would double check all of my stuff, and then i'd begin to look in places which it could be in and then the unusual places (but it usually turns up in the second point). There could be a slight possibility that it could've fallen out, so don't rule it out yet.
Check around your table and see whether it feel out when you put your purse out? It's a thought.
Next, think back over the day and try and remember whether you did take it out and put somewhere else. I sometimes find that going through the day again, i can remember where i last saw the object and see whether it's there. Now, seeing that it was in your purse, i would recomend that you go and check every place where your tote bag was or where your purse was. Maybe you bought something and you popped the charm into your pocket? Anything is possible.
If you still can't find it, then go to your parents. You've looked everywhere and you've tried your best to find but you couldn't. Lying gets people nowhere, so does stalling. Just tell them and they'd be a bit more sympathetic, whilst if they found out later, they'd be a little more angry as to why you didn't tell them. And i can tell that this charm meant a lot to you and you'll do anything to have it back. They can help you try and find it again, 6 pairs of eyes searching tend to do better than 2 pairs.
I hope you find it,
triquetra
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15/f
so as it always starts...there is this guy that i like. A LOT. i've liked him for about 4 months now, but never actually started thinking about him until a month and a half ago. well i told him i liked him the week of valentine's day and he still hasn't gotten back to me if he likes me back or not. not only can i not stop thinking about if he does or not (b/c he really seems like he does and my friends say he's shy but you still can't tell or judge completely) but i also just can't stop thinking about him period.
how do i stop being so 'obssessed' (lack of a better word) and how do i find out if he likes me without actually asking him straight up if he does or getting a friend to do anything? (you know, cause i don't want to mess anything up.)
thanks in advance. =] (link)
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When a guy hears that a girl likes him and it comes directly from that girl, it does tend to give us the nerves and we've got to figure out how we really feel about that girl.
Now, some guys can just identify that they love that girl quickly and say what they feel. But some others take their time and ensure that what they're feeling is really for that person and this seems to be your guy. Starting a realtionship is big for guys because it could become life long or it could end in a break up and feelings hurt and guys don't like to go through that (neither do girls I'm sure!).
Let him come into his own in his own time and let him tell you his feelings directly at you, because if he passes it through a friend, it might not be the truth. Asking him directly could put pressure on him and he could say something which could make him uncomfortable or something else may happen which he may regret later.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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hi, my bffs dad shot himself thursday and the wake is monday and the funeral is tuesday. can someone explain to me what you do at a wake and funeral, whats the difference? i have never been to either one and i never had someone in my life die before and im worried i wont be able to handle it or something like that. im a strong person, but im not good with helping people with there sad emotions. any advice at all would be appreciated! (link)
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I'm so sorry for your friends loss.
A 'wake' is a viewing of the person who's died and a service for that person where you talk about that person's life and their achievements and also what their funniest moments were. A funeral is when you watch that person getting buried.
I had my first last year, for one of my class mates whose dad died suddenly in the night and even though i didn't know him that well (only by sight), i couldn't stop crying and I view myself as a strong person but when somebody cries, you cry as well. Not a lot of people can handle it, it takes a really, really strong person to hold it together and to support others. Just comfort them just by putting your arm around that person and just being there for them in their time of grief. Remember, a wake is to celebrate the life of that person, not to grief about the loss of that life.
Once again, my condolences,
triquetra
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Can anyone help me convince my parents to let me be me? They are like trying and telling me to live a decent life and doing what's proper for me to make me happy, but the problem is I don't like it! I wanna have fun and do what I wanna do. My style is emo by the way and my parents don't know that and I don't think I wanna tell them cause I don't think they will ever understand. Right now I'm trying to get a mohawk and color it blue but my parent's say no and I don't understand why. One, I don't care what people will think of me, and two just cause I'm looking like those teens that they see out in the streets doesn't mean I'm gonna be like them! And if I become one then it's their own fault. I mean not all teens are like that, there are some who have cool parents who let them do what they want and plus only reason I think they are out on their own is cause probaly their parents are probably like mine so maybe I should go out on my own if I have to. I just don't understand why my parents are like that. I know what they are doing think is gonna make me happy but it's not. I basically need help fighting for my independence and ways to convince them to let me have my god damn mohawk LOL. Sorry but I seriously want them to let me live my life my way. I'm already sixteen and I wanna live my life to the fullest and while I'm still young. (link)
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This isn't a lecture, just a reminder.
I can see that your parents care for you very much. They are fearful as to what you're going to do with your life and they don't want you to turn into these street kids (and i do know that you don't want to be one of them). Remember, they've got your best interests in heart and what they're doing is what they feel is right to help you grow up.
You're at a critical stage in your life where you thinking about where you want to go and what you do in your life and your parents still want to be part of that life and to do that, try and guide you away from the streets. You can have a decent life and have fun at the same time, there are no boundaries between the two and you can still do what you want to do and still have a decent life. It not engraved in stone that all of these are seperate and you can only choose one, they're intergrated with each other.
The people whom you see out on the streets are there because of their parents caring, it's because that they don't give a d**n about what their kid does and that child will grow up alone without anybody to support them in what they do. So they turn to others who are in the same situation as they are and they become sort of a 'new family' to them and they loose respect for their parents.
Yours aren't like that, they're loving, caring and they want the best from you. That kids out their don't have what you've got: two loving parents whom don't their daughter to be like the kids in the street.
Mohawks are great and all, but you've got to remember that it will set you apart completely. Whether this is what you want i don't know but just consider this: do you really need it? How will it be able to help you do what you want to do or have a 'free and happy life'? I'm not saying that you shouldn't get one but just to re-consider. You can ignore this paragraph or take it into consideration.
So, how to get it. Tell your parents about why you want to get it. It helps to have the life that you want. BUT you must remember that what they've been doing was to help you get a good life. So promise them (and you MUST keep it) that you'll never turn into one of these kids in the street, you only want this mohawk to let you discover who you are. You're 16, and you want to find out what's in the world and the only way would be to express whom you are.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok, this is really weird. The girl I like, well, helped out a boy get my attention I THINK because she likes me. Ok, here is what happened. These are fake names.
Bob (Boy who wanted something from me), wanted a sharpie marker to use from me. I couldn't hear him, as he is in the back of the class. Here is basically what happened in actions and speaking.
Girl I like (Let us call her Mary for now)
Ok, I was sitting down coloring in a project when across the room I hear Mary calling my name, kind of stretching out one of her arms and stumbling on my name as she repeats it. Now no one else did this. Then she smiles at me and points her thumb to her left, which where Bob was. He asked for the sharpie marker, I gave it to him.
The part I found interesting was the way she called my name. She sounded nervous calling my name as she smiled and stretched her arm. She didn't even look at Bob, the whole time she was calling my name it was at me. Even with pointing her thumb at Bob. She also stuck up for me in class this morning. You know how I said that one girl was really annoying to me right? Well she tried to pick a fight with me (Verbally) and she said "*Girl name here*, why are you always trying to pick fights?" and she stopped trying to pick a fight with me. Yay! Also, one day in language class, she started staring at me with a smile for 3 seconds, then looked to her right.
After she looked at me for the 3 seconds she continued smiling and looked to her right. Does that mean anything? I am sorry for this, I really want to make sure and not embarrass myself.
Thank you all for your help! If this goes successfully, I may come back and ask what I should get her for an easter present.
Cheers to a great site! (link)
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It means that she's got the hots for you. I mean, she's looking at you, sticking up for you and she's nervous calling you by your name. Now people don't tend to do that unless they like that person.
Ask her out and see what she says to you (most likely it will be a 'ok')
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay so i met this guy at a party, and i started talking to him over the internet. a month later, i invited him to a kickback and he came and we kissed and stuff. then i went to the movies with him on valentines day, and after he took me to the beach and asked me to be his valentine and i said yes. we're going to sadies together too, in a few weeks. i think i kinda like him, but iono. i never get to see him. even though he lives like 15, 20 minutes away from me, we almost never see each other, and we don't talk much either. and i also know that he's been talking to some other girl that goes to another school (not his or mine) and lives like 20 minutes away from him. so i guess my question is, what should i do? it seems like the only time i see him or talk to him is when i make an effort. he doesnt make much of an effort, but when we're together its like if we're bf/gf. we hug, hold hands, kiss, etc., and i just love being with him, but i don't know what to do now bcuz i never see him and i hardly ever get to talk to him. what do you think? what should i do? (link)
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Well, have you talked to him about having a realtionship with him? Because if he knows that you're intrested in him (and he should), then you might start talking to him more often.
Also, call him more often or walk to him house and hang out with him; he only lives 20 minutes away. You were making the right signals originally, so now show them again. You like him and he may like you, so ask him out and see how he responds (plus, tell him how you feel about him).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I guess i'm lucky. I feel I have the perfect boyfriend, he's loving, caring, supportive and he accepts me the way I am.... only one problem. He wants to get married, in a church too & he wants to have children... Normally most girls dream of this. But I never have, it's just strongly against my own personal beliefs, but I won't get into that.
We talked about this and came to the conclusion that we shouldn't worry about it because there MIGHT be a SLIGHT possiblity that i MIGHT change my mind in the future... only i highly doubt it.
I'm scared he'll leave me, if I never do give in. I really love him, and I think love is more important than any of that stuff, but he doesn't agree. He feels he NEEDS it to be a part of his life.
So what do you think? Am I worrying too much? Or am I just wasting his time if we have no "future" together? Any other advice? (link)
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Like you said, he accepts the way you are and that would include your beliefs upon having a family. And like you also said, you aren't worried about it so there shouldn't be any problem there.
Don't worry about the future, only worry about the present. I don't think that there is any reason for him to leave you because you love him and he loves you. True, he wants to have a family and get married (which isn't unusual) but if you're not ready for that, then he should wait until you are.
You two have got a future a you've got to believe in what you've got together. Some people dream about what you've got and you're living those people's dream. If one isn't sure, then the other isn't and the realtionship falls apart. Faith in the realtionship is what keeps it together.
People change what they think all the time and when they do what they thought that they didn't want to do, something amazing always happens (if you get what i mean). For example, i didn't want to be an advice columnist because I thought that it would be waste of time...but as you can see, i changed my mind about it!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Hmm ok, I live in a country, but I'm Finnish (I'm not gonna tell you where exactly I live :P)
So since there are quite a lot of us, Finnish, around, there are some Finnish events going on.
There's this one guy who I've always been really good friends with, and we have fun when we hang out at these events.
Last night I had a dream that me and him were hanging around with the Finnish people like we do sometimes, and we ended up kissing, and spending the whole weekend together.
What the f*ck?? I haven't seen him since August, and we had a small fight over MSN as well.
So what am I meant to interpret that as? (link)
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Well, could it be that you've still got some feelings for him that you're not aware of?
Dreams are ways in which they relay to us what our emtions are and how we want them to pan out or they tell us what we're feeling at the time.
Here's an interpretation of what kissing means in dreams (http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/k.htm):
'Kiss
To dream of a kiss, denotes love, affection, tranquility, harmony, and contentment. To see others kissing in your dream, suggests that you are too involved in their personal lives and relationship. You need to give them some space. If the dream ends just about you are about to kiss someone, indicates that you are unsure of how he or she really feels about you. You are looking for some sort of relationship with this person but you are not sure about how to go about achieving it. If you are heterosexual and you dream that you are kissing someone of the same sex, then it represents self-acceptance. You are acknowledging the feminine or masculine side.
To dream that you are kissing someone's hand, signifies respect.
To dream that you are kissing someone else's boyfriend or girlfriend, indicates your wish to be in a relationship and to experience the energy of love. You may be sexually acting out and desire to awaken your passion. Alternatively, it indicates a lack of integrity on your part.
If you are kissing a close friend, then it represents your respect and adoration for your friend. You are seeking some intimate closeness that is lacking in some waking relationship. It may or may not signify a romantic interest for him or her.
To dream of kissing an enemy, signifies betrayal, hostility, or reconciliation with an angry friend. Consider also the saying "this kiss of death". If you are kissed by a stranger, then your dream is one of self-discovery. You need to get more acquainted with some aspect of yourself.'
Approach him and see whether the two of you can make up and see if you can start a realtionship if that's what you want to do (along with him)
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok so for the past pear or so my mom has been very negative towards me... She is always putting me down and telling me I cant do things. I can even ask her a simple question without her turning it into somthing bad and yelling at me for it. I used to be able to talk to her and now Im afraid to say anything. I tried talking to her about it but she turns it all around and makes me feel guilty for telling her how I feel... Let me tell you that I have had depression since I was 12 and have gone through some very tramatic things that kinda makes fear anything sexual which my mom doesnt seem to care because her and her boyfriend are worse than a couple of hormornal teenagers and they are loud... It gets tot he point were I start crying and have to turn music up really loud.... She just yells of course If I ask her to not dot hat stuff when im around.... Im honestly lost here and it doesnt help that I have this depression hanging over me! I dont know what to do... and im sorry this is so long hahah I just keep alot in (link)
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When did this start? Was after something your mum went through? Nothing of this sort starts without a reason, you just need to find out and see how you can help.
Now i know that you're going through a tough time and by the sound of it, so is your mum even though you may not think so. She's eveidently (well, to me she is) going through something difficult and she can't find a way to let it out and what people do is to try and find a scapegoat and blame that person even though they didn't have anything to do with it. Now i don't know what it is, but it could be the cause of this.
You've got nothing to be guilty about, she's the one whom has got the guilt which she's trying to get rid of but can't. Talk to the boyfriend if you get on with him because he's the one seeing your mum and if you can't get her to listen to you, then maybe she will listen to him. Plus, you can tell him what you're going through and see whether he'll help you.
As for the depression, why don't you go out with your friends when they invite you out? Go and have fun with them and don't let any worry cross your mind. Another way to realx is to try meditation. Now you can do this if you want to, i find that it helps me to relax.
Sit in a chair which supports your back and sit up straight. Place your feet six inches apart and place your hands on your lap. Take several deep breaths and acknowledge how you feel, don't dimiss it, just accept that it's there. Now close your eyes and whilst you breath, say a quite mantra under your breath of your own choice (such as for example: as you breath in say 'Mara...' and as you breath out '...natha' These have to be deep, slow breaths) focus upon the mantra to focus your brain to think of nothing. Then focus on something (like the ticking of a clock) and just relax your body muscles mentally (face muscels, shoulders, arms, legs, chest, neck, back etc.) If you hear a sound, just let it pass by, don't focus upon it and don't try to block it out, just focus upon the clock. Then you can come out of it when ever you want.
REMEMBER: Nothing is your fault, you've got nothing to fear. If it gets out of control, see if you can stay with some friends or close relatives.
I hope this helped and good luck with the future,
triquetra
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Ok, i'm having my birthday party on Friday, and I thought that, instead of buying party invites, i'd make them! Ok, first off, I need some ideas. I'm just having a sleepover so there isn't really a theme. There are going to be a LOT of people there though so maybe an invite that I could make kind of quick? Also, I was thinking about pputting a cute poem in the invite. However, I am NOT a good poet, so I was hoping someone could give me some ideas or a link to a website with birthday invite poems on it. Here's some info about my birthday, just in case :]
-I'm turning 14
-It'll be a sleepover
-My name is Jessica Smith
and that's about it! :] Thanks SO much! Feel free to ask anything else! (link)
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"On Jessica's very special day, come and celebrate without delay. Turning 14 is all in that, so come and celebrate, how about that? Come with blankets, come with fun which is soon to happen once the sleepover has begun".
"14 years ago i was born upon this day. So come over and have a sleepover and i hope you can stay. For Jessica's Birthday is nearly here, so let's gather together to give one big cheer"
Not my best but I hope you like them.
Happy Birthday!
triquetra
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okay well this boy whom i've known not that well but hes on the football team and i'm on the cheerleading team and he keeps asking me to come over his house but does he mean to have sex or just to chill?? i think he means sex and if he does i want to but i dont want to have sex with him cause i really dont know him that well.should i go over there on friday xoxo gossipbabe (link)
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I don't think that he wants you over at his house just o have sex. Think about it, you barely know him and (I'm assuming)that he doesn't know you that well either. So to have sex with a girl you barely know is kinda weird, don't you think? So it's most likely that he wants to chill with you.
Besides, if he begins to do something which you're not comfortabel about, just tell him to stop because it makes you feel uncomfortable and you know that you don't want to so make it plain.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok so its pretty much a fact that I'm slow whn it comes to jokes. But seriously -- does this one make sense? Really? Cause if it does someone better explain it to me!
Q: What do you get when you have a pencil + a pen?
A: Pen-N-Cil?
What the heck? lol
Is it like "Pen And Cil?" cause in that case - what the heck is a cil? (link)
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It's just taking the begining of 'pen' and adding it onto the last three letters of 'pencil' just to re-create the word (in this case, it would be the word 'pencil' again).
This is really bad joke which was clearly thought up very quickly and desperately. You're quite right not to know what it means, even i didn't at first!!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i just transfer from privite school back to public, but all my grades went from Bs to C's. now my mom is telling me if i dont pull them up i have to go back to privite school. but ive been recently reading The it girl novel, about a girl going to boarding school. & now ive been thinking if id rather go to boarding school. oh by the way, im in high school 9th grade. but does anyone know any good/fun boarding schools? (doesnt matter where they are located.) and does anyone know if boarding school would be good for me? im a average student, if i dont study for a test i fail.
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All boarding schools are fun. I board and i'm having a great time (Worth School)!! But i do have to point out the cost, private boarding schools cost a hell of a lot of money (£21,000 (give or take £1,000) per annum and £7,000 (give or take £1,000)each term).
Boarding is an option which most people like to take because it allows them to know their peirs better and learn how to literally live in a community and that is good because it gives you a sense of control over your own life and not having to depend upon your parents so much.
When i first started, i found it tough because i used to be a day student and always went home in the evening. But suddenly, i'm not coming home as much as i used to and that was tough. But i got over it and adjusted to my constantly changing environment. You get to know others whilst they get to know you (but in my case, they think they know me).
Books can give insight to what life is like in a boarding school and some can be accurate whilst others aren't. It just depends upon how relevant the book is upon the subject of Boarding schools.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well, it all depends upon the school. At Worth, they've got socials with other girl schools (such as Mayfield etc.) and they're really fun to go to. In the sixth form, they've got invites and you've got to dress up nicely and all of that.
At different schools, they or may not hold socials but ask and see what they say.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My boyfriend's friend kept poking fun at my boyfriend. It's really complicated, but to make it simple. Boyfriend didn't believe me about something, friend kept making fun of something that I did over a year ago even when I corrected him not so long after it had happened, then he made fun of me because I kept avoiding telling him off. I just didn't want to be a bitch about it.
But then I got tired of my boyfriend lecturing me about not defending him when I did. He just didn't believe me.
So I sent his friend an email. I insulted him, told him to knock it off, and made fun of his own disorder!
It just really hurt me to find out his friend kept making fun of him AND he was doing it on purpose to make me pissed off.
Ever since the email, apparently my boyfriend says the kid is weirded out by me. Boyfriend doesn't want me to hate him and such. I don't think I do. I'm just still angry. I just don't know if I should forgive him. He caused us so much distress. (link)
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You should tell him directly as to what you think. Sending e-mails is good and all but there isn't a seriousness behind them and people take them ligthly (I've had some experiance in this). But telling them directly shows that you're serious about this and that you really want him to stop.
Yell at him, scream at him. Do whatever you think is nessesary to get him to understand. If he's that immature, then he needs to understand that he's ruining a realtionship which seems to be going pretty well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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hey there.
i just want to ask you for advice on your first loves. do you remember them? do you remember exactly what it was like? how did you know you were in love for the first time? how old were you? did it work out, if not what happend? details are important to me so please only answer if your passionate about 'first loves'. thanks.
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You certainly do remember your first love, since it was the first time you felt love.
You don't really know that you're in love until you analyse your emotions. You just know. I know because i recently had these emotions annd i still feel them now.
For me, it is a sort of heart ache for somebody when you think of them and you want them. You get this feeling in your stomach, as if it's butterflies along with the ache and you're overwhelmed by what you feel that you can't explain it properly, just what it feels like. I'd first thought that they were nerves, but i discovered that it was something much deeper, deeper than i'd ever experianced and will never forget.
But i didn't manage it, i knew that the person was out of my league and there was not a chance. There was somebody out there worthy of that person and i had to let her go. Painful, but you can still remember it and will always, throughout your life. And even though you want to forget, you can't because of your emotions you had for that person, who ever it was because they were the ones who captured your heart, your soul, your mind.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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