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My friend
13/f
Well my friend isn't really hanging out with us anymore. Actually we had a pretty big group of friends but its kinda split up now. We have all talked to her but she seems like she has split off now. She hangs out with 3 other friends (they are all our friends) But she keeps saying its really important and we can't know. I mean I get it if its really important. But when I'm with the other half of our group they are all just laughing and stuff. I mean they are not even talking about anything important. She still comes up and gives us hugs but then she goes off. All of us think that except the ones that are with her. The only time she hangs out with is when she has no one else to hang out with. Its stupid and I'm tired of it. I mean I like her alot, I don't hate her. So please help me out. Thanks a whole lot!
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People change in different ways. It could be that she wants to still be friends with you, but she wants to have some other friends as well, if you get what i mean.
If not, let me eloborate. Being in a big group of friends in good for you and everything, but after, you get the urge to go out and meet other people and hear their views on things. So let's take at look as to what she may be thinking (this is an educated guess): 'I have a large group of friends and after a while, i keep on feeling that I should 'move on' with my life and not restrict myself to the same group of people. Though i'm expanding, i still want to remain friends with the group whilst forging the new friendship between the new people. And if they aren't around, i can go to the group where i still know people and care about'.
Hanging out with you just because there's nobody else shouldn't be annoying; you should be grateful that she's keeping in contact with you. Some people just leave their old friends behind, so coming to hang out with you is a sign (to me anyway) that she still wants to be friends, even though she's hanging out with others.
I hope this helped and don't block her out, accept her when she comes back,
triquetra
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Many people change over time. It's her time now. You don't need to be BFF's with her but you don't have to ignore her either. I would just keep saying hi to her you can keep hugging her but don't worry about that other group. just stick with the people who don't just use you. If your boerd to then hang out with her but don't feel the need to ALWAYS say yes to give her what she wants. She might be going through some tough times at home and just need some people to laugh with. i understand your tierd of it but just take my advise and don't start a fight whatever you do. i've done that before and i ruined my friendship with my whole group.
hope i helped
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