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first love.
hey there.
i just want to ask you for advice on your first loves. do you remember them? do you remember exactly what it was like? how did you know you were in love for the first time? how old were you? did it work out, if not what happend? details are important to me so please only answer if your passionate about 'first loves'. thanks.
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No one ever forgets their first love, and if they do forget then that certainly wasn't their first love! I knew I was in love with this kid, the day I layed eyes on him. So I believe there is such thing as "Love at first sight" , you get this feeling of over-whelming happiness when they come around and you can't help but smile. Nervousness, butterflies in your stomach when they're close to you. First loves, are full of suprises. Sometimes you can't get words out to say to this person, you're just in complete awe, there can be silence even. First love has so much meaning to a person, you don't even have the exact words to describe it. You really can't describe it. And even if it does come to an end for whatever reason, they're your FIRST (and being FIRST always means something) , you'll still get that certain "feeling" of happiness because they were your FIRST. In due time, so whether your in a current relationship with somebody else or not, you're still going to remember your first love.
My story: I was 14 and in 9th grade. He was a friend of one of my best friends and one day he walked beside my bff, and my best friend commented on how he got a hair cut. I looked at him for the first time and I was "OMG, how cute he is! I still didn't make a comment about his cut but we were both smiling at each other and kept looking at each other. Even if we didn't talk, and he had left I felt that instant connection to him. So I asked who he was and she told me. The next day, my bff wanted to introduce us to each other, and when she did all we did was stare at each other and smiled. We never talked, really (lol) but the next thing, he drew me a pic. with my name in it with roses all around it. My name is Rose (so it went with the pic.) I was really suprised, I kept it. After he drew me that pic. he drew roses everywhere literally, he bought me lunch, outta nowhere. Every thing he gave me I kept, except for a bottle. I bought him a x-mas gift. It didn't work out in the end,sadly, I felt he was pushing farther away from me but then I found out, it was because he was moving and he didn't want it to hurt me. When he told me I didn't believe him because most of the time when a person said that to me, they don't move anyway. It didn't phase me til I came to school the next yr., I didn't see him. I couldn't believe it, it hurt twice as bad to find out that way/ But I will never forget him, compared to all the guys that came after him, no one compared to him. And to this day, I still have that pic. he drew for me ,I laminated it and put it 1st thing in my poem book. Even we haven't seen each other in yrs. I'll never forget him. And I wish him the best and hope he finds a good girl that treats him right.
Your first love, (if it has ended) you could only wish them the best in life and hope they find the right person, because at one point in time indeed you were in love this person and thought they were " officially "the one", but it didn't end that way. REMEMBER, FIRST of ANYTHING ALWAYS means something.
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Oh boy do I remember my first love. He was my best friends cousin and we had started to talk on-line and you know all that. Well he was from a diffrent state but he came down one summer and wow! Just looking at him sent my heart racing I couldnt breath everytime he was near me and when he kissed me i got dizzy (and usally tripped) it was honestly the most amazing feeling ever. But of course it came time for him to go home and I sorta knew things wouldnt work out and it crushed me... Still to this day I have major love for him and have when i hear he gets hurt It upsets me. But yea I could never forget him
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Truthfully, I don't think you ever forget you first love.
For me, I have kind of had two. I had the first 'love' when I was younger. You know, the guy you think you love and it's the first time you ever feel anything close to it. What I class as my REAL first love, is the man I am with now and have been with for the last nearly five years.
In both cases, I remember exactly every little detail of the most significant moments. The nice things both guys did for me, the way I felt, the little ways they showed they cared and the moments that were particularly special in some way. The first guy, it was as close to love as I think you can get at that age. I thought about him all the time and wanted him to be happy, but especially with me! We were good friends and I remember always wanting to be at school, because that's where he was. I had what I came to call a 'thing' for him for about two years, when I was 11 and 12, although I didn't really get over him until I was about 15 or 16. It didn't work out with him because a 'friend' deliberately screwed it up for me. I was devestated and cried for a very long time. Thankfully, I bumped into him some years later and realised I actually had a lucky escape...!
My current love, my one true love, is very different in many ways. I knew I was in love because..it's like nothing I ever imagined because it's a million times better. I want to be with him as much as possible. I can talk to him about literally anything. We support each other and don't judge each other. I look at him and I know my present and my future are with him and could never be with anyone else. I was 17 when I met him and am 22 now. We started off as very good friends, fell in love over time and now live together. We aren't engaged as there is no obvious hurry and we are very happy with each other as we are.
I truly believe that first loves are very important. The difficulty is in distiguishing those feelings that seem like love from true love. It's something nobody can describe accurately, because it's something you feel. Something you just know.
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You certainly do remember your first love, since it was the first time you felt love.
You don't really know that you're in love until you analyse your emotions. You just know. I know because i recently had these emotions annd i still feel them now.
For me, it is a sort of heart ache for somebody when you think of them and you want them. You get this feeling in your stomach, as if it's butterflies along with the ache and you're overwhelmed by what you feel that you can't explain it properly, just what it feels like. I'd first thought that they were nerves, but i discovered that it was something much deeper, deeper than i'd ever experianced and will never forget.
But i didn't manage it, i knew that the person was out of my league and there was not a chance. There was somebody out there worthy of that person and i had to let her go. Painful, but you can still remember it and will always, throughout your life. And even though you want to forget, you can't because of your emotions you had for that person, who ever it was because they were the ones who captured your heart, your soul, your mind.
I hope this helped,
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