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my boyfriend leaving
I've been with my boyfriend since the beginning of January. He's the first serious guy I've been with. Gosh I love him so much. He's a sophomore, I'm a junior. He told me he is leaving in July to finish high school in a city 2.5 hours away. He said that finishing high school there would earn him a 2 year associate's degree along the way (it's a special program). I couldn't take it. I told him if he's sure he is leaving, I don't want to see him anymore. I don't want him getting my hopes up with "I love you"'s and kissing. He's basically leaving my life forever in a few short months.
Someone please help me. I'm very sad about this because I love him SO much and he doesn't seem to care! *tear*
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2.5 hrs isn't a long time. True, you won't be able to see him as often but there are ways around that. Ever heard of skype? Here's the website and see what you think:
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It allows you to call others with Skype (on computers) for free!!! And cheap prices to call phones and mobiles around the world. It's incredibly useful and plus, it's a free download with no hitches. Trust me on this, if you and your boyfriend get it, then you can call talk to each other to your hearts content and it would seem as if he's not that far (I can call my dad in Afghanistan for free and it's fantastic. The sound is so clear, it's as if he's standing next to me!!)
Plus, you should be happy for him, because he's managed to find a place which will mean that he can do what he wants to do in his life.
People can make long distance relationships happen if the couple work together, but it will be tough.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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You've been together 2 months.. not a long time at all, yet you still feel you love him and want him to stay by you forever. Forget his life and career - it's not important as long as he's near you, right?
How selfish can you be?
I know this is going to be hard for you, but this is your boyfriends future you are talking about.
I bet he doesn't want to leave you, but he's thinking about himself - which he should be doing.
It's not like it's going to be permanent, anyway. If you love each other as much as you say you do, you'll obviously find a way to make it work.
Try to be happy for him. It's a big step in his life and the last thing he will want is you holding him back and giving him ultimatums.
Just hang in there for a while. Hopefully you'll come round to the idea of him being a few hours away. It's not the end of the world. It CAN work if you want it to.
None of what I've said is meant to sound harsh. You just need to see things from his point of view, okay?
I wish you the best of luck.
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Basically what you're saying here is, "Boo hoo my boyfriend is going to school somewhere else and that means he doesn't love me anymore". Which probably isn't the case at all. He has the opportunity to finish high school ALREADY (which is very impressive) so clearly he's a smart kid. You're both in school, which occupies a fair amount of your time already. Make a date a couple times a month (or more if you can) to see him. If you love him so much, that should be enough to try and make it work. It's not like you'll never see him again. If so (like if he was gone for months at a time) then it'd be difficult to maintain the relationship. But if there's any way to make the distance work for you, do it. You love him so much, don't you? :)
Good luck!
-LM
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If you love him like you say you do you wouldnt have givin that ultimatum. Do you not think that your relationship could survive a short distance of 2 and a half hours? Or did he say he isnt ever coming back? Becuase if he said he isnt ever coming back then yes it may be good to leave him. But How do you love someone after two months?
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