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I have a friend with a very difficult family and personal situation. His mother has cancer, his little brother has heart problems, his relatives are cruel (possibly abusive), and his father walked out among other things. I am a female in the same year of school (high-school) as him. We're friends, but not terribly close. Today he was in a hallway crying after school (never seen him show any emotion beyond mild anger before), I approached and asked if he was alright, but he told me to go away so I left, and when I came back later, he was gone. I'm not sure if he's suicidal or not, and something in my gut tells me I shouldn't have left. I do have both his phone number and his email address, but I doubt he'd respond to either. I don't really know what to do at this point, but I care about him quite a lot and am rather concerned. Suggestions?
If you suspect your friend is suicidal you should tell a teacher or the school nurse. It is better to error on the side of caution than to do nothing in these situations.
I'm sure your friend is distraught with the situation he is in. I'm just as sure he may not totally understand the situation. Cancer is not always a death sentence today. Many cancers are curable if caught early enough. Still we all hear the word and think the worst.
Talking with a trust teacher and telling him or her what you suspect and what you know of his home life at the moment can be very helpful. The school may not be aware of what is going on at home. He may feel he has to bear the brunt of the problem on his shoulders when fact is if he asks for help there is help out there.
If he hasn't told the school what is happening at home and you do. The help that is out there can be gotten for him and his family. A great deal of this help comes from the department of social services. There job is not just to help the poor and indigent. There job is to also help families like your friends. TO do so someone has to inform them that help is needed. The school system can make the proper notification once they are informed by you.
Your instincts about his possibility of suicide may be more correct than you think. Here again the school system can take the lead in getting him the help he needs to relieve the stress that is causing him the depression he is reacting too. Depression is the cause of any suicidal thoughts he may be having. So I urge you to inform your teachers. You might also inform your parents. They in turn could inform the local police depart about your concerns.
1. Please, i had sex a day after my mensuration, do i stand any chance of getting pregnant. (but i saw my ovulation)
Young lady your questions give great concern as to how old you are. If you are old enough to be having sex and just how knowledgeable of reproductive system you are.
To answer you question: The answer is it depends on certain factors.
First: You can not see your ovulation as that takes place inside your body. You may feel a cramping sensation when it happens but you definitely cannot see it.
Ovulation is when your ovary sends and egg into your fallopian tube where it can be fertilized. For 80% of women this occurs some time between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. Meaning 7 days after their period and ending 7 days before their period starts again.
Somewhere in this 14 day time span an egg is erupted from your ovary and is viable for 3 days to be fertilized. If you have unprotected sex during this time or are not on birth control you could get pregnant.
For the other 20% of women they can ovulate at any time during their cycle. Even during their period. It is important to know when you ovulate in order to become pregnant and to keep from becoming pregnant. The best way to not become pregnant is not to have sex. The next best way is to use some form of birth control, like a condom.
Not knowing how your body is designed and how it works can get you into trouble you don't want. I would suggest before you have sex with anyone again that you learn more about how your body is designed and how it works. A great deal of this information can be found on the web.
1. if you meet a man after your mensuration and eventually took in will you still see your ovulation?
I'm not sure what your asking. Ovulation is a natural part of the menstrual cycle. The only time you stop ovulating is if you become pregnant or when you reach the age of menopause.
Without you being more specific as to the information you want. This is the best answer I can give you for now.
I'm a 13 year old girl and I am not self conscious about my weight.... I weigh 50 kg for a 13 year old, is don't know of that's good or bad and frankly I don't care. But my mom tells me off for being so fat, and she has for years... Lately its been getting to me and eat a considerably less amount than normal but we keeps saying it. My friend noticed and asked why, and that's when I realized that the only reason I reacted is because I am adopted and I felt that my mom choose me to be perfect, and I'm not showing her Enough gratitude and changing myself when I'm So obviously letting her down. My friend says its wrong, but I don't know how I approach either if them about it. Is what I'm feeling right? Can my mom even love me even though I'm not her real daughter? If she does why does she say what she does and hit me for it? I would be so grateful for any help....
The fact that you gave your weight in Kilos tells me you do not live in the USA. Because of this and the fact you do not say where you live I cannot be certain of the laws in your country. Your English is very good which allows me to believe that the child protection laws are similar to ours. Because I believe this I will give you the following advice.
What mom is doing, by trying to withhold food and harassing you about your weight. Can and may very well be considered child abuse.
The fact that you were adopted has nothing to do with anything. When your parents adopted you they signed a contract to raise you according to the laws of your country and treat you as their own child. If you owe them anything it is nothing more than any other child may feel they owe their parents for raising them and caring for them, nothing more or nothing less just because you were adopted.
What I suggest is you talk with a trusted adult. One of your teachers at school or the principal. If the laws are as I believe they are they will have specific guidelines to follow in an instance like this to help you.
I am a 15 year old female. I weigh 188.5 lbs. and am 5'7 tall. Lately, I am finding myself with a shorness of breath and irregular heartbeat. I can just get up from a chair and my heart will be racing and beating harder than usual. About a month ago, I would occasionaly have a strange feeling in my chest. I don't really know how to describe it, but it felt like my heart skipped a few beats. Am I showing signs of a heart attack? Please help me, I'm scared.
We are not doctors and can not give medical advice or make medical diagnoses.
What you have described could be a number of different issues. Depending on you frames size you are either grossly overweight for your height or border line grossly overweight if you are large framed. Your doctor who knows you best can answer that question for you.
What you have written about could be life threatening or it may not be. Only your doctor after running the proper diagnostic tests can tell for certain. You need to see a doctor ASAP.
IF you have one of these attacks again before you can see your doctor I would suggest you call 911 for help. Paramedics and EMTs are trained to care for you in just these types of emergencies and to know if you need to go to the hospital for care and treatment. You do not need parental or any other adult permission to call 911 if you think you need them.
Hello advicenators, I am a 15 year old male and have struggled with self harm for 4 years and various eating disorders and I think I may be gay. Yes that is quite a handful of things, but I am bulimia binge free for 3 months and haven't cut for 6 days ( after a 3 week clean). I'm frustrated about my sexuality in general and feel different in the backwards little town I live in. I honestly just want to cut and fall asleep for a while and wake up and know for sure if I will be accepted and if I am more than bisexual. I grow weary of all this uncertainty, but I understand how there is no 100% way to know at my age. My mother knows, and she has been making offensive jokes about it and sneers at the very fact of it all... I want this to stop more than anything.(I am on Zoloft by the way for
depression)I used to go to counseling. I want to be on for five fucking minutes for once. That is my plea for help, and I'm not sure if anyone will even read this let alone have any solutions for my questions.should I be in counseling again, and is there anyone out there I can trust enough to let them help me?
I've been doing this for a long time and I'm a lot older than most advisors on this site. In fact I'm old enough to be your grandfather Please read what I'm about to tell you with an open mind.
In your letter you say you're a male age 15. In your profile, I'm a site moderator I can see certain portions of your profile, it reads female age 14. Which is correct or are you using someone else's computer?
First: There is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual. In fact at 14, or 15 I have found that most teenagers are still finding out just who and what they are sexually. I don't know of anyone who went through their teenage years that did not experiment sexually with their same sex. Why, simply because it was safe and easy to do so. Parents trusted two people of the same sex being alone in a bedroom together especially for a sleepover. It is absolutely normal for this to occur in your teenage years and does not mean you are gay or bisexual. There would not be anything wrong with either if that is what you find you are.
If you are gay you were born that way. You did not wake up one morning and decide you were gay. It would be wrong of anyone in this enlightened age for anyone to put you down, tease you or bully you for your sexual identity, especially your mom. You would have known you were gay from early childhood, it is not something that comes out with puberty. Being bisexual is different. Scientist are not quite sure if this is a learned experience or as with being gay you are born this way.
My feeling is that since almost everyone and this includes your parents, starts their sexual identification and awareness by experimenting with the same sex. Then bisexuality is a learned experience.
As for your eating disorder and the cutting. These are products of your depression. You should be being treated by a Board Certified psychiatrist for medication. No your not crazy; clinical depression is caused by the lack of chemicals or insufficient chemicals secreted into the brain that controls mood. Since this is so a psychiatrist who is also a medical doctor is best trained to prescribe medication.
You also need to get back into therapy with a clinical psychologist. This is the trick part as you need to be comfortable in talking to the therapist. If you are not comfortable enough not trusting enough to be assured that what you tell him or her stays with them. Meaning total confidentiality of your therapy sessions, then the therapy will not work. If this is the case with your past therapist you need to find a new one and you keep trying until you find one you are comfortable with. The therapy works I know for I have suffered with depression and I went through three therapists until I found one I could trust and work with.
I really cannot tell you what to say to your mother. If you get back into therapy as you should, make this the first topic you discuss with the therapist. Your therapist can, without revealing anything you don't want revealed talk to your mother about this and how hurtful see is being. Moms attitude is also a direct cause of your depression to my way of thinking.
People my age are not as liberal as I am in accepting of alternative sexual lifestyles. People of your moms age are and should be. As I said earlier I do not believe at your age, unless you have felt this way for as long as you can remember, that you are gay. If so you were born that way and mom should understand it. It was nothing either of you had control over.
I do believe if this is something you are feeling since puberty came on that this is based on experimentation with your sexuality. Something all teenagers go through and if mom will admit to it she went through herself. Mom should be more accepting of how you feel and help you sort out what must be very confusing to you at this time. These are the things a good therapist can help you with.
recently in music its Miley Cyrus who used to be Hannah Montana on Disney Channel but when Disney Channel stopped her show she had her music career writing such awful songs and recording overated albums also she became a slut by riding the wrecking ball naked and worse of all shes bringing her crap to nashville and my barber does always ask me if i have any concerts planned or if i got new cds and he might tell me that hes gonna go see Miley Cyrus i wonder how do get the music company to fire her is it possible .
First you wrote one long sentence. Punctuation would make understanding you a lot easier.
As for Miley Cyrus as long as her music sells her label will keep her. She reminds me of another singer, Madonna.
Hi. I am 26 and I have a 26 year old Muslim boyfriend. When I first met my boyfriend, he wasn't a muslim yet. Last year he decided to become a Muslim, and he became really devoted to his religion. I'm a Christian. At first he told me he wouldn't push me to convert as a muslim. But these past few months, we are always arguing about our faith. He doesn't respect my faith and being so discriminating towards other religion. I told him I respect his faith but I don't want to talk about it anymore cause I don't want to argue. But he wouldn't stop. And tonight he told me that he will give me time to think about converting. I told him not to expect cause I'm really not going to change my religion. He said it will not work abd broke up with me.
I tried to understand this guy so much but I feel disrespected. Please help. I don't want our daughter to grow up without a father. Am I still going to accept him when he comes back to me? I'm sick of tired of arguing about our faith. I accepted him the day he told me he wants to be a Muslim but why can't he respect my faith? I was born as a Christian and I want to stay as a Christian forever. He told me too that he's not going to marry me if it's not in an Islamic way. Don't know what to do. :'(
Thank you for all your answers
Let him go, this relationship cannot work. If he has become that devoted to the Muslim religion that you must convert for him then you will not be happy as I see him as of those converts that become overly dedicated.
He will have you wearing a Burqa and treat you as all devout Muslims treat women. You may also find that your once loving boyfriend was converted to the Muslim religion by factions of terrorist groups to become a jihadist. Something that law enforcement is finding to be more and more common. I'm not saying this is a fact, it is something that law enforcement is having to deal with to a much larger extent with converted Muslims.
As hard as this is for you; you in the long run will be better off without him.
Well right now I am fairly new and inexperienced with sex. But I have this situation where I go limp whenever I apply a condom. This has happened twice with the girl i'm with and it has been frustrating and embarassing for me. I have been practicing on how to put the condom on with ease and less focus from the sensation but I still can not keep the erection with it on. It's able to get right back up once I'm stimulated again, but when the condom comes i lose the moment. So I was wondering if using Libido max is safe and will help me with my situation?
I'm confused; in your opening line it says "young 21 year old male," but your profile says you are 14? Are you 21 or 14?
My advice to anyone on this type of product is that they are a waste of money and don't work. If you are 14 then you are still in the throws of puberty and taking something like this will most likely do you more harm then good.
If you are 14 you should not be having sexual intercourse in the first place. The loss of your erection could very well have more to do with psychosomatic guilt then the condom.
Regardless of why; erectile dysfunction is an embarrassing problem for all males regardless of age. Over the counter products will not correct this problem. To correct this problem you need to seek the help of a urologist or one of the clinics that advertise in the specialty of erectile dysfunction.
If your between 14 and 18 your saying, how do I tell mom or dad I need to see a doctor because I can't maintain an erection? You don't have to tell your parents if your under 18. As long as your over 14 there is a law called HIPPA that covers this type of problem.
Within the Federal HIPPA law there is a section covering young people age 14 and older for the health and well being of their reproductive system. When it comes to their reproductive system the are granted total medical confidentiality. Meaning they do not need parental permission to seek medical advice or treatment for anything related to their reproductive system. Erectile dysfunction would fall under this category.
You start by going to your family doctor, you do not need parental permission. Tell the doctor you invoke your rights under HIPPA for this visit. You are still covered under your parents medical insurance. Your doctor is not allowed to tell your parents why you are there, what you are being treated for or anything else about this visit without your written consent. To do so without your consent could put the doctor or any one in the doctors employ in jail for up to 5 years.
Then you do as the doctor tells you. If that means you are referred to another doctor make an appointment to see the other doctor. All you need is your health insurance card, which as a teenager you should be carrying on you at all time now in any case.
If you are 21 follow the same instructions on seeing your family doctor first. You are still covered under HIPPA as that is the law of the land know for all adult patients. As far as anyone seeing your medical records, your parents lost that ability when you turned 18. Under the affordable Care act (Obama Care) you could still be covered under your parents insurance. This does not give them the right to see your medical records or make medical decisions, or speak to your doctors to get medical information about you without your written permission to the doctor
I think I ovulated, I'm not quite sure exactly what date, but I got that sort of sticky mucus discharge, 2 days after the mucus stopped, I had unprotected sex. 8 days after I had unprotected sex, my period came, which was a couple of days early. My period was like a normal period, I had the cramps, sore breasts and back ache. I stopped bleeding for a couple of hours and I had brown discharge, it was only noticeable when I wiped after using the toilet, then I started to bleed again, I stopped bleeding yesterday. Now today, I have a bit of brown mucus, only when wiping though. I've not bless ice yesterday, and I still have sore boobs (not too sore) and I'm experiencing waves of sickness, they last for about 10 minutes, it's almost like I'm about to throw up, but I feel much better after 10 minutes. I'm still experiencing little cramps, they're bearable, almost like wind! Could I be pregnant? I've read articles of women who experienced bleeding in their first trimester, implantation bleeding, there's were like a normal period and they didn't know they were pregnant until the next month. Can any mothers share their pregnancy experiences? Thank you!
You are not pregnant.
Fact: If you have had a period then you cannot be pregnant. Your period is the cleansing of your womb to prepare it for the next time you are fertile and the implanting of a fertilized egg if there is one. If you were pregnant you would not have a period for if you did you would be aborting any pregnancy you might have had.
The problems you are experiencing are either psychosomatic or there's something wrong. They very well could be psychosomatic because of your concerns over being pregnant, which you cannot be.
Now that you know this the symptoms you are getting should clear up. If they do not then there is another organic cause for our problem and I suggest you see your doctor.
my boyfrined cummed in my mouth and then wanted to finger me I said no he washed his hands and then like a half hour later he fingerd me he washed them in hot water could there be a possibility I'm pregnat. I haven't had my period yet I think I'm late . is there a chance it was under his finger nails
I really wish schools would do a better job at teaching sex education. It seems to me that today's generation of teenagers are less informed about sex then the generation before sex education was introduced in school. Sorry I needed to vent.
Your not pregnant, between washing his hands and the time between then and the time he fingered you any sperm that might have been on his fingers were either washed away or died.
If you want to proof that to yourself. Take some of your boyfriends sperm, put it on a slide and look at it under a microscope. The microscope does not have be very powerful. One of the ones that come in a children's toy science set is powerful enough to see what I am saying. The sperm will stop trying to swim in short order.
There are many different reasons for missing your period and this will not be the last time you miss a period during your menstrual life. The most common reason is stress. Stress causes a great disruption with in us. This disruption very easily disrupts the delicate balance of your cycle. If you are concerned about being pregnant, which you must be to write us. This is just enough stress to throw your cycle off.
Illness is the next big cause of missing a period followed by the taking of antibiotics. Then there is exercise. If you have had a change in your exercise routine or increase your exercise routine, this could throw of your periods.
If you are truly concerned and want to relieve your own stress take a home pregnancy test. If you are over 14 the drug store cannot refuse to sell it to you and you do not need parental permission. This is granted under a federal law known as HIPPA. You can also buy condoms under this same law.
I know you don't want you mom finding the test kit. I as a general rule do not suggest lying or hiding things from parents. This is the one exception. Find the test kit you want to use. Purchase it the night before you are going to use it. Make sure it is a school night. Put it in your purse and take it home. In the morning take it into the bathroom for you morning shower. Carefully open the kit and follow the instructions. When done put everything back in the kit and back in your purse. Dispose of the kit at school. I'm positive from what you have written the test will be negative.
If it is not don't freak out, there are more false positive then negatives. Purchase a different kit and test again. There is no way from what you have written that you should be pregnant.
So I'm 15 and i don't plan on having sex until marriage. This is a serious question though... Are guys turned off by girls who have not had sex? Like do they think it's weird when a girl hasn't done it or are they okay with it?
I will let you in on a little secrete about boys in general. At your age boys confuse love and lust. To boys love and lust are the same thing. You can expect one or more boys you date to say to you; "If you love me you will have sex with me." To them having sex is proof of love.
Hold on to your principals because when boys become men their ideals change. For when a boy becomes a man he will chase all the women he can bed but when it comes to the women he marries he would prefer a virgin or at the very least a women who has not slept with everything that has a front facing zipper.
With your ideals your the type of girls who can expect to be brought home to meet their moms. Their moms will take one look at you and know if you have been sleeping with their son. The fact that you haven't and are still a virgin will elevate you immensely in her eyes.
The short answer to your question though is: Boys your age in high school will probably come up with some not so flattering names for you such as the ice queen. Don't let this bother you and don't give into them. You will actually be more popular as all the boys will want to be the one to take your virginity. Don't let them, just enjoy watching then try.
You say no one time and if they continue to try, remind then they are now committing a crime and to take you home.
Before I begin, this is going to be a question regarding "flirtacious" acts between a manager of mine and I at work. I know that doing anything with someone in authority above me is wrong and I in no way, shape or form am trying to pursue anything, I am just trying to figure out if he is flirting with me or not and from there, I will decide what to do if there is anything there.
I am 20, work at a grocery store part time while working two other jobs and attending university. I go home to my cashiering job every other weekend as I work at school the weekends that I do not come home. I am currently on Thanksgiving holiday and have been for the past week, meaning, I have been at home working everyday for the past six days and will work again tomorrow before heading back to school. Now, my manager is not technically the "cashier manager" he mostly works in the back in the offices and closely with electronics but when there is an issue with a complaint or anything involving customer unhappiness, he will be paged and come to the front for further consultation.
On with it, I just feel like there are some things that go on between us that don't go on between him and other cashiers. He smokes so he frequents the outside for smoke breaks a lot, however, before he goes outside, he always walks by my register and I swear when he walks by that I see him look at me out of the corner of his eye and smirk. I work self checkout quite a bit and there is a few smaller registers next to me and then a path that goes straight to the doors, he goes in the path between the self checkout and the small registers when I am on self checkout, asks me how I am and then goes outside. He will always smile at me first, ask me how I am first, say anything first. We do not talk a lot as he is very busy around the store. However, today when he came up front to take a complaint, he noticed I was on 11 and when he was finished resolving the issue, he walked by my register slowly while talking to one of my supervisors, stopped right in front of my register and talked to my supervisor that was standing at the end of another register. There were also times when he would come up front and work with customers and I would just gaze around when I had no customers and I would catch him glancing at me, the other day, I was finishing up a break and asked my one supervisor where she wanted me to go and finish out my shift, my manager was with her at the time and I was standing behind him to ask my supervisor that and his head turned so quickly and for the duration of the conversation with my supervisor, he was watching me. I also kinda would notice that he doesn't even really talk to the other cashiers, he will talk with other managers and other supervisors but none of the other cashiers. I would pass him some places and he would make small talk but I would pass him other times when he would be with a "higher up" and he wouldn't say anything. I then go back to thinking that maybe he is close to me because I went through training with him. When I was doing computer tests to train, I did them in his office so I would go in every day and sit there with him while he worked and I trained and everyday he would say to me "you're gonna hate it here, worst job ever" then on the last day of my training, he said "I was just kidding, this is a great job, I really love it here" so maybe that's why he and I are somewhat closer because I went through 16 hours of training around him. I know I didn't really give you a lot and I probably sound like a petty six year old like wow, he looked at me, we're getting married but I just feel that there is something there how he would always make small talk and usually walk by my register before going outside or back to his office and looking at me when I'm not paying attention and even when I am. Please, again, don't lecture me on trying something out with my manager because I know that it breaks a lot of company rules. I am just trying to decipher whether I am playing the whole situation up or if there really is something there.
Thank you.
From what you have written I do not think there is anything there for you to be concerned about. I feel he trained you, you spent a considerable amount of time together in close proximity to one another. It would be to my mind normal for him to be more outgoing and somewhat interested, if that is what you want to call his glances, with you then with a cashier he didn't train.
I don't see anything in your writing to be concerned about. He is not harassing you in any way. He is not asking or demanding you date him or in any way provide him with sexual favors so there is no sexual harassment either.
IF it escalates to where he starts taking his lunch break with and starts asking you personal then it is time to be cautious around him. If he should start to push you for a date, then it is time to go to management and report him if you feel pressured to date him.
I love to read. I visited the school library a lot and read books ALWAYS returning them on time. I checked a book out and was going to return it but a rule stated we couldn't go to our lockers in the morning or at lunch. So, I tried to figure out a way to get it back but I never had enough time. I just got a letter from the librarian (whos always nice) saying that I couldn't use the library anymore. My parents got really mad and I don't know what to do because I am so embarrassed and afraid that he'll yell at me....What do I do?
Also, if I tell him what I explained he probably won't believe me..(Plus we only get 4 minutes between each class.
I too do not understand this rule on lockers. The whole purpose of having a locker is so you can store your books between classes so not to have to carry all your class books throughout the day. When I went to high school back in the sixties my school was the size of a small community college and was held in two buildings. Yet I was able to get to my locker several times a day including lunch time with only 4 minutes between classes, for same building classes and an extra minute for those of us who had to change buildings. There was an archway of the roadway between the two buildings which meant you went up one flight to cross over to the other building.
As for using the library. This was done on your own time. If you had a study period you could request to use the library. Sometimes your English teachers would take you to the library during class time to check out books for a book report the teacher might want written. Any other use of the library was before or after school. So I am a little confused as to when you had time to checkout the book but did not have the time to check it back in.
The rule about not using your locker during school hours might be for security reason, If so I don't agree with it. If a student is bent on mayhem and needs to get to their locker a rule is not going to keep them from it. All that rule does is keep good student honest just as a good lock keeps honest people honest.
People who believe rules and laws protect us from those who seek to harm us or cause some type of mayhem are living in a fools paradise. Criminals are criminals because they do not obey laws. Reality says most every parent is a criminal. You don't believe me. Speed limits are laws. How many parents exceed the posted speed limits. Almost 100% at sometime or another. This makes them a criminal all though not a felony type criminal as they broke a law by speeding.
Just as sure as I am that just about every parent exceeds the posted speed limits at sometime or another. The rule against going to one locker is broken by some student(s) on a daily basis. If that student is bent on mayhem or destruction that rule won't prevent it.
Parents and students alike should protest to the Board of Education to have this rule rescinded. There is no reason a student should be forced to carry all their class books around during the day with their lock being a place to store their coats. What about kids that bring their lunch to school are they forced to carry them around all day?
I wanna talk to my dad about dating but don't know how to and convince him in meeting my guy friend . What should I do ? I am a junior
Moms may be a little more sympathetic when it comes time to ask for permission to date. Though if dad is the one who has final say on when you can date this gets a bit tricky. One thing you do not want to do is compare yourself to an older brother if you have one. It is unfair but dads do not treat their daughters as they do their sons. You see sons grow up to be men but daughter will always be daddy's little girls when when they are all grown up and have children of their own.
Every dad dreads the day our daughter will come to us for permission to date. The only thing we dread more than that is the day some boy turns up on our door step and asks permission to marry our daughter. It is not that we don't trust you; if we have done our jobs right as parents then we do trust you. What you have to remember is that every dad was once a teenage boy and we remember what we were like at that age. This is what you are contending with.
In what you have asked us I would suggest you use an old salesman trick. Instead of asking dad if he will meet this young man say to dad. "Dad I have a guy friend I would like you to meet would Saturday afternoon be good or is Sunday afternoon better." You are giving him a choice but not the ability to say no specifically all though he could say no to both in which case you give him two other dates to chose from.
If dad is like me and most other people I have dealt with he will give in and pick a date to meet this boy. Once he has met him and sees the boy is not the devil and is not out to harm his daughter. Then you ask dad if it is okay to date him.
If I were your dad I would be impressed that you did not try to hide something from me. hat you brought the boy home to meet me before you tried to date him. These would be major points in your favor. Keep this in mind when ever you date a new boy; bring him home to meet dad first.
I would most likely give you permission to date with certain restrictions such as a curfew. Make sure that you are home at least 5 minutes ahead of curfew. Most everyone today has a cell phone. Make sure it is fully charged before you leave on your date and it is in your purse. If for some reason it is not possible to be home before your curfew; you call dad and tell him.
There are many reasons why you could miss your curfew. The one reason you do not want to use is; "I lost track of the time." This would be seen as irresponsible and would hurt you in dads eyes. So be responsible and call dad if your going to be late even if you think your going to be late.
One other thing, something I told by son and my nieces. If ever you get in a situation you don't want to be in or your afraid of; Call me I will come and get you no matter where you are. You will not be in trouble for calling me and this includes not getting in a car with someone who has been drinking. You are too young to be drinking and could be in trouble with the police just for being with under age people who are. I told them they would not be in trouble with me. That advice still stands to day and they are all in there thirties. If they need a safe ride they are to call me.
I believe if you do as I have written your father will allow you to date and as his trust grows in your judgment. He will lift what ever restrictions he places on you to begin with.
My boyfriend and I were fooling around, and it just so happened he pre-came on my stomach. I was not naked, I just did not have a shirt or shorts on, but I did have underwear on. As soon as he pre-came, I wiped it off completely. It also so happens he came, but I made him cum in his hand but he got a smudge on my stomach. With all this information, I must include that I was on my period at the time, and I still am. What are the chances of me getting pregnant from the precum? Is it even possible since I had underwear on and a pad that were pretty tight?
I agree with Zane. The chances of you being pregnant from what you described are basically zero.
I believe you were giving your boyfriend a hand job or he was dry humping you at the time. In the future when you might not have the protection you had this time. Make him wear a condom for these activities. Then there is almost no chance you will get pregnant and you can let him ejaculate into the condom and complete the act.
Would a true friend date your ex even as much as they desire and wish to, is that nice.
As long as your ex was not abusive towards you. Did not try to rape you or harm you in any other way. Why should you care if a friend is dating your ex or not. You two broke up for reasons of incompatibility. Something about you two didn't click, the chemistry wasn't right. He wanted more intimacy from the relationship than your were willing to give. All valid reasons to break up.
It is possible that your friend and your ex are more compatible, have a better chemistry and maybe she will be more intimate with him. That is her choice. Shouldn't she have a chance at being happy. What if you and her ex were more compatible shouldn't you have the opportunity at finding someone to love.
TO be brutally is like throwing out an unwanted appliance. Someone drives down the street and see it sitting at the curb waiting for collection. Is it not better that this person take it and make use of it rather than it go to the landfill. Where no one gets use of it again.
My ingrown toenail is what I wouls say badly infected..... Could my toe need to be cut off? Is there anything i can do to prevent this from happening?!
No they do not cut your toe off just because you have an ingrown toe nail. The doctor in some cases may have to remove your toenail but that is the worst extent to which they have to go to correct an ingrown toe nail.
Now just to be fair and open with you. If you ignore the problem and the toe becomes infected and you still do not seek treatment. Then yes you would be lucky if only the toe is removed. Untreated infections can turn into something called a gas gangrene infection for which most times the only cure is to remove the area affected. In this case it would be the toe and anywhere up the leg that the gangrene has migrated.
The best thing to do is to make an appointment with a podiatrist. This is a medical doctor who specializes in treatment of the feet. The doctor will examine you toe and advice you of the best course of action. In most cases the doctor can fix your ingrown toenail right there in the office.
Lately,my mother has been flirting with me!!! She is 42,and im 21. We have always been very close,but now I see her in a new way!! As soon as my.stepdad leaves for work,she changes clothes!!! She will wear tiny shorts,low cut tops etc. and acts normal!! My cock betrays me and gets huge everytime!!! She sees how hard I am and just smiles !!! My mom looks alot.like Sharon Osbourn,and has big full british tits!!! She loves showing them off,almost completly!!!! What should I do??
Take cold showers, masturbate if you need to but do not consider having sex with your mother. While I realize there are numerous stories on the web about boys having sex with their mothers. They are for the most part just that; stories.
Having sex with a close relative, mother, father, sister, brother, first cousin and even grandparents is consider incest and is not only wrong in the eyes if god. It is also illegal in all western countries and all states in the U.S.
Talk with your mother about the way she dresses around you. Tell her you find it provocative and would like to know why she must dress like that when it is only you and her at home. Make sure mom understands that while you find her manner of dress provocative nothing will come of it between you. That if need be you will take care of yourself with Miss thumb and her four sisters. Yes, I would be that blunt.
Should your mother say anything about wanting to fulfill a fantasy of having sex with her son. Suggest to her she find a therapist to work this out with for it is wrong to have these thoughts.
Your also 21 if you cannot work this out with your mother there is no reason, other than monetary, why you can't move out. If this is the only reasonable solution then the most cost effective solution is to find a room to rent in someone's house.
I'm 7 months pregnant and my husband keeps joking that I'm fat and I need to loose weight. I gained weight in my face. I was skinny before I was pregnant & I know I won't be skinny after I give birth. But he keeps calling me fat it really hurts my feelings because I feel like he thinks I am disgusting. What should I do?
Pardon me if I'm direct but your husband is an ass. The most beautiful thing in the world is a pregnant woman. You are preparing to bring a new life into this world. If all he is concerned about is your appearance then if I were you I would be seriously thinking about seeing a lawyer and making sure that me and the baby were properly cared for before serving him with divorce papers.
This is not a man who has ever looked beyond the exterior you. He is wanting a trophy wife and is not interested in what lies beneath the exterior, the real you. The caring you, the wife and mother. I know this sounds harsh but this is what I see.
I also do not see him making a good father. If all he wants from you is a trophy wife. Then all he will want from his children is for them to be seen and not heard. To be trotted out at the appropriate time to show off; that he is a true family man. The rest of the time you will be on your own caring for the child or children.
Not knowing your husband I cannot say why a trophy wife is important to him. In general men who want Trophy wives are in high profile jobs where having trophy wives are a great help in moving up the corporate ladder. The same with children. Most large corporation or firms such as Law or accounting want to show off their Partners and Senior associates as family men.
As far as being skinny again after the birth of your child. You may not get back to your original dress size as being pregnant can cause hips and pelvis area even your ribs to be pushed out some. The weight you gain can be lost and that is up to you.
I said I was going to direct and I believe I have been. I did not like your husband comment I think it is cruel and I think it says a lot about him. I could be wrong and for your sake I hope I am. Unfortunately I have been doing this a long time and I don't feel that I am wrong. That fact that you felt the need to write us for help tells me I just may have called a spade a spade.
In any case I have given you something to think about. If you want to expand upon your husband or have other questions feel free to write me in the private message area and I will respond.