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do you think its ok if your friend dates your ex?
Would a true friend date your ex even as much as they desire and wish to, is that nice.
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I think that you should be the bigger person and get over it. Everyone has that certain someone they are supposed to be with, and eventually when you find them you won't even care who dates your exes. What if that special person for your friend, was your ex? Would you want to deny them the chance to be happy? No. You wouldn't. I don't think it's a problem.
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As long as your ex was not abusive towards you. Did not try to rape you or harm you in any other way. Why should you care if a friend is dating your ex or not. You two broke up for reasons of incompatibility. Something about you two didn't click, the chemistry wasn't right. He wanted more intimacy from the relationship than your were willing to give. All valid reasons to break up.
It is possible that your friend and your ex are more compatible, have a better chemistry and maybe she will be more intimate with him. That is her choice. Shouldn't she have a chance at being happy. What if you and her ex were more compatible shouldn't you have the opportunity at finding someone to love.
TO be brutally is like throwing out an unwanted appliance. Someone drives down the street and see it sitting at the curb waiting for collection. Is it not better that this person take it and make use of it rather than it go to the landfill. Where no one gets use of it again.
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I think it's fine for a friend to date your ex, to an extent.
If the person you were dating was abusive or anything along those lines of harmful behavior, then of course you wouldn't want that friend dating your ex.
If you and your ex broke up because you two just didn't click, something personal going on between one of you, you guys fell out of love, argued too much, ect, then there is nothing wrong with a friend dating your ex because maybe they'll get along better and maybe they are the right match. You might be holding them back from something great and you wouldn't be a true friend if you did that.
Sure, it'll be awkward and slightly uncomfortable and maybe even some jealousy going on there but obviously you need to be the bigger person and be the good friend and be supportive. You shouldn't hold your friends back. Dating is a learning experience.
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Yes, it should be okay but often people do not realize what they are dating for and that is what causes the problem with being jealous if a girlfriend dates an ex of yours.
One or the other of you wasn't totally happy with the other. Dating is to find out if we are a good match and have enough in common. First we are attracted to what we see, so we talk, maybe we're attracted to what we hear, so then we date, now its getting to know more about each other and its sometimes at this point that eventually a person realizes, gee they are awfully nice but I dont have that spark, that chemistry with them, theres no romantic feelings towards them. This is something you cannot make happen. Its there or it isn't. Or one or the other see's a behavoral trait they cant stand or tolerate, one is verbally abusive, or has low self esteem and is too needy, etc... so one will break up with the other. If you broke up with him because of something you didn't like, its possible it wouldnt bother you as much to see your girlfriend date him unless you feared for her welfare cus he is abusive. If he split up with you, and you aren't sure why, then it makes you feel like you were lacking in some way. No one is ever lacking, we are all just different. You, just as you are right now, will never make a perfect date for every guy at school or at your job. That's not how it works. If you can realize that you and he were not a perfect match somehow, but perhaps your girlfriend is, then wouldn't you want her to be happy? Even if you don't have someone interested in you at the moment.
The problem is, too many people date cus it seems to be the social thing to do. Makes them feel they are doing what is normally expected at this age. If a person is dating just so that others know they are part of a dating couple and can be socially seen together, and its not for the purpose of beginning to learn who is the right person for you and who are you right for, then just about any Tom, Dick or Harry will do. If you are dating just for the social reason, then yes, if he and your girlfriends also believe in dating only for the social reason, yes it is in bad taste to date your ex. Because the same applies for her in this case, any Tom, Dick or Harry will do so she's got plenty of choices, it didnt have to be him.
So you see, it kinda all depends on what mindset you're coming from and why you date to begin with.
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