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Manager flirting with me?
Before I begin, this is going to be a question regarding "flirtacious" acts between a manager of mine and I at work. I know that doing anything with someone in authority above me is wrong and I in no way, shape or form am trying to pursue anything, I am just trying to figure out if he is flirting with me or not and from there, I will decide what to do if there is anything there.
I am 20, work at a grocery store part time while working two other jobs and attending university. I go home to my cashiering job every other weekend as I work at school the weekends that I do not come home. I am currently on Thanksgiving holiday and have been for the past week, meaning, I have been at home working everyday for the past six days and will work again tomorrow before heading back to school. Now, my manager is not technically the "cashier manager" he mostly works in the back in the offices and closely with electronics but when there is an issue with a complaint or anything involving customer unhappiness, he will be paged and come to the front for further consultation.
On with it, I just feel like there are some things that go on between us that don't go on between him and other cashiers. He smokes so he frequents the outside for smoke breaks a lot, however, before he goes outside, he always walks by my register and I swear when he walks by that I see him look at me out of the corner of his eye and smirk. I work self checkout quite a bit and there is a few smaller registers next to me and then a path that goes straight to the doors, he goes in the path between the self checkout and the small registers when I am on self checkout, asks me how I am and then goes outside. He will always smile at me first, ask me how I am first, say anything first. We do not talk a lot as he is very busy around the store. However, today when he came up front to take a complaint, he noticed I was on 11 and when he was finished resolving the issue, he walked by my register slowly while talking to one of my supervisors, stopped right in front of my register and talked to my supervisor that was standing at the end of another register. There were also times when he would come up front and work with customers and I would just gaze around when I had no customers and I would catch him glancing at me, the other day, I was finishing up a break and asked my one supervisor where she wanted me to go and finish out my shift, my manager was with her at the time and I was standing behind him to ask my supervisor that and his head turned so quickly and for the duration of the conversation with my supervisor, he was watching me. I also kinda would notice that he doesn't even really talk to the other cashiers, he will talk with other managers and other supervisors but none of the other cashiers. I would pass him some places and he would make small talk but I would pass him other times when he would be with a "higher up" and he wouldn't say anything. I then go back to thinking that maybe he is close to me because I went through training with him. When I was doing computer tests to train, I did them in his office so I would go in every day and sit there with him while he worked and I trained and everyday he would say to me "you're gonna hate it here, worst job ever" then on the last day of my training, he said "I was just kidding, this is a great job, I really love it here" so maybe that's why he and I are somewhat closer because I went through 16 hours of training around him. I know I didn't really give you a lot and I probably sound like a petty six year old like wow, he looked at me, we're getting married but I just feel that there is something there how he would always make small talk and usually walk by my register before going outside or back to his office and looking at me when I'm not paying attention and even when I am. Please, again, don't lecture me on trying something out with my manager because I know that it breaks a lot of company rules. I am just trying to decipher whether I am playing the whole situation up or if there really is something there.
Thank you.
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In my opinion, it doesn't sound like anything going on. Since you did spend a good amount of time with him, then like you said, he may just feel closer to you.
I mean at most he possibly could be interested, possibly just find you attractive or you're a person he just likes to be around but he's not flirting.
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From what you have written I do not think there is anything there for you to be concerned about. I feel he trained you, you spent a considerable amount of time together in close proximity to one another. It would be to my mind normal for him to be more outgoing and somewhat interested, if that is what you want to call his glances, with you then with a cashier he didn't train.
I don't see anything in your writing to be concerned about. He is not harassing you in any way. He is not asking or demanding you date him or in any way provide him with sexual favors so there is no sexual harassment either.
IF it escalates to where he starts taking his lunch break with and starts asking you personal then it is time to be cautious around him. If he should start to push you for a date, then it is time to go to management and report him if you feel pressured to date him.
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