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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Okay. So. I met this guy named Maik( but you just pronounce it Mike) I met him on Omegle. Its a online chatting thing. And well he looked older.. He lookes about 16.. So when he asked me how old i was. I said 16.. But turned out he was 14. And im 12.. I never knew that we would become such good friends.. But we did... And i want to tell him. But i dont know how. I just dont want to loose him..
Be honest, You get nowhere by lying.
In fact lying, Can actually make people NOT wabt anything to do with you. Liars come across as being "fake"
You need to realize that the internet is definately NOT a safe olace to meet people or even lie about yourself. Never ever give out personal details to someone you do not know personally. No name, address, phone numbers and NO PICTURES. You don't know who is really on the other end. Also, As a 12 year old IF you were to send partly nude or nude photos of yourself it would be child pornography.
Be careful and tryst NO ONE
If He Says He Wants To Give A Bad Kiss. What Does That Mean ?? 13 Female
It means he's sick in the head
This young man is your family, Not a stranger. You think you like him because he is giving you attention but it is 100% completely wrong for him to act this way. You are his sister in law. Tell him to cut it out or tell your parents about his behavior he needs help
If he is behaving like this towards you, Tell your sister. Your sister is married to this man and him flirting is not a good sign. It means he is a potential cheater, He is lying and hurting your sister. NEVER go out of your way and choose a dumb ass over your own family. Tell someone
I am casually talking and getting to know this guy at my college named Anthony. He's older, works at the bookstore, and very cute. We text back and forth and I see him Monday and Wednesday around noon and he usually gets off at two, so we hang out until my ride comes.
This Sunday, he agreed to go to the movies with me at 1:50. My phone was out of service so I wasn't able to contact him. He seemed like he'd for sure be there. It hits two o'clock and he's not there, so I wait a little longer. At 2:15, I call him on the cinema phone over and over, but he doesn't answer. At this point I am very upset and don't even see the movie. I decide to call my ride, and as I'm walking away in tears, a cinema employee says that Anthony is on the line. I ask what happened, and he said he crashed at his grandparents and they left early. He didn't get a chance to go home and shower or anything, and his parents aren't answering the phone for him to get a ride. He has no car because his got wrecked, and he's paying off a lot of loans. I offered to give him a ride home, but he said his morals were against it. I begged him, but he still refused and told me to go home. He kept saying "I'm sorry sweetheart." and he seemed genuinely sorry. We stayed on that dang cinema phone for about 40 minutes.
The next day, after feeling hurt, I went by the bookstore to pick up an order. I said hi to him, and he was very friendly, but I was so upset. I think I am just overthinking that he's not interested. He was at work, and I just had lunch with him a few minutes ago, but of course he was rushing. He's still flirty and sweet, but there's this feeling that I am just a bother. He didn't offer for me to sit with him even though he saw me in the lounge, and I sat with him once I saw him. I just feel like I'm annoying, but he insists he's not. Is this just a weird feeling and I'm overthinking it, or does he seem not interested? Am I just being a worry wort?!
Gotta go with Razhie on this one...
If he was interested, He wouldn't have lost track at his grandparents. Also, He had a way of getting there and he shot it down. Yes, Sounds like he's a bit of a prick.
People get rides from people all the time, Too say "it's against your morals" while agreeing he'd go is bullshit. Too bad he can't be honest but at the sometimes he IS a jerk afterall.
My situation is quite common I think, however, I have no idea what can I do about this, so need your professional expertise, please.
I broke up with my 2 years pakistani ex boyfriend in April 2013, During our relationship he would ask me to pay for something small from my card, first he has said he lost his, then it was in overdraft, then he could not use it as he has bad credit history, he would ask now and then for 100-300 in cash, he could sometimes check my bag for money first to make sure i have it, Then in August 2012 he has persuaded me to sell my car in order to cover his office rent, through the garage he knew (I have contract of that sale), part of the money in cash they would give him straight into his hands, the other part as bank transfer on my bank account, from which I've made a transfer to pay to his landlord to cover the office rent, at that moment I was helping and working in his office, they have family-run cab office. Also I have got hand written and signed by him contract, that states that he will give me all the money by the end of the 2012 year, by small amounts every week and the rest in lump sum at the end of the Olympic Games season, as he was waiting for big payment, plus he promised to give it back with percentages, however by today he still owns me the full amount, and would give me back only what he offered on a top and only after long chasing, and through one of his sister (I have insisted on bank transfer from her), also i have text messages from him where he mentions the amount and other evidence, at the same time tried to cause me other harm of non physical nature. I have agreed for him to transfer small amounts of money and was in touch with his mom who would tell me that he will give it all to me, but very slowly,( from 2nd Aug 2012 it was over a year!) now they just ignoring my calls or texts, I do not mean to cause any harm for him or his business as he is supporting his big family, and in April opened another business. I know that I was very naive to trust him but at that time I just genuinely wanted to help my boyfriend..Overall it's been eyeopening experience, therefore I feel that if I can do something about it I would like to know what exactly!
Thank you in advance and highly appreciate any given advice.
Sincerely,
A
You were given a run for your money, Likely it's long gone.
Added to what Razhie saud, Depending on how much is owed, Small claims court could cost you more. If you feel it's worth fighting, Go for it. Keep all evidence
Good luck
Can a girl be virgin again
No
I know that I'm apparently 'too young to have a baby', but I don't give a shit. Me and my boyfriend have just now started trying to get pregnant and I want some ways to get pregnant faster. I know for sure I would a great mom. School wouldn't really be a problem because I'm going to make sure I don't miss any school. I thought the good and the bad, so I know what I'm getting into.
Here it goes...
This is by far the stupidest choice you will ever make. You and your boyfriend are selfish and completely arrogant for wanting to being a child into this world when you are not even leval adults and live with your parents, you attend school, Do not pay your own damn bills and don't own your own car, live on your own etc.
Babies are NOT puppies, They require ALOT of money, time and attention. Diapers, Formula, medical coverage, crib, bed, high chair, clothes, and many many other things. They are up most of the night and when you want time to yourself, ITS ABOUT THEM.
You're 15, TOO YOUNG AND NOT READY. You are NOT an independant. This is to show how fucking stupid teenagers are now daya and gullible they have become. Yes, You and the boyfriend are one of them. Smarten the hell up
I hope someone out there it familiar with Second Life! I have to use it for a class and I'm last.
I have a couple of questions:
A. Is it safe to buy things from the Marketplace? Like clothes for your avatar? I can tell that anyone can list stuff but the site handles all of the transactions so random people can't see your information?
B. I accidentally left a box of stuff I bought on a... sandbox? People won't be able to see my credit card info or anything right?
C. Also, even though my internet runs fast second life runs very slow... anything I can fix that with?
Hello, Welcome to SL
I am a 7 year resident :-)
The marketplace is associated with Second Life, The transactions are hooked up to your account in world. When you log into the market place you will see your ($L) balance. It is a legit website and I have used it many times, In fact I shop there more then I do inworld.
The sandbox is used for building and rezzing (loading) items from inventory. Most sandboxes have a 4-7 hour policy before items are automatically returned back to your inventory. Therefore you did not loose your item, Check your inventory and look for the object in your "object" folder. In order to open or take back rezzed (loaded) items you can right click on the items.
Linden Labs (Creators of Second Life) have a privacy policy. Your credit card information is secure and will not be seen by other residents. I have used my credit card to buy $L (money) in world for the past 7 years without any problems.
Second life does frequent updates, This can cause second life to load slowly. You can read the grid status by logging into secondlife.com Also, Make sure your computer meets the requirements to run second life. Graphics card, Video card, Ram etc. A basic computer may not be enough to handle it. If you are trying to run SL off the motherboard (no graphics card) your computer will eventually die and could burn the hard drive.
Anymore questions, Message me in world at Jezzy Ricardo I am more then happy to answer any questions regarding your concerns.
if a boy asks you out and says he loves you how do you know if hes joking or not.
Does this guy know you personally? Are you close with him? Do you share any sort of history such as a past relationship/ friendship?
If you don't and he just randomly asked you out then no, He doesn't really love you. Unfortunately, It takes a long time to fall "in love" with someone. We don't just look at someone and love them out of the blue. Likely he was just kidding
I have a friend and she's been like my best friend since kindergarten, I think (let call her T)! But this year we had like maybe a couple of little bickerings, I guess you can call it. And this summer our friend came back from Texas ( let's call her C). That just made T a little uneasy because when we were little T got jealous of me and C's friendship!
Finally I got T and C to get together and we had a sleepover for C's birthday. It was fun but T got offended when me and C laughed when T told us she was going to start a photography business (we are only 12 that's why I laughed).
A couple days later we talked about it and i tried to say sorry and explain why I laughed but my phone died and we didnt talk for about 3 days because we were busy. Finally we talked and we didn't pick up were we left off she acted like everything was fine! But after that it felt weird. Are text would always go like:
Me: hey
Her: hi.
Me: wats up
Her nm.
Me: oh Kwl LOL
Her: LOL.
It's just weird because after everything she would put "." and we don't normally do that when we text unless we are mad cause that's wat I do when I get mad and I text. I don't kno what to do because I just want me friend back :(
It's typical drama
Why can't you just all be friendly with one another? T, Needs to stop being jealous because what it all comes down too is nobody wants to be friends with someone who has jealousy issues. I have friends who have friends etc. I am not "friends " with them but I still say hi and act friendly when I see them.
Talk to her about it but don't apologize. The problem is her jealousy, Not you. Explain to her that you didn't mean to offend but was hoping you all could get along. Tell her you wanted to all hang out as a group of friends.
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Beauty is not about how someone looks. Someone can be attractive and be a hardcore bitch on the inside.
A good personality is what makes someone attractive. Dies this person have nice features? Sure. However the important question is, Does this person treat others with kindness? Etc.
If this person is suck up and treats people like shit, Then no she is not attractive.
i want a pair of black combat boots, but not the kind with the lip. The boots that are more girly looking are the kind i want. where can i get some cheaper ones ($25 to $40)
thanks for all your help
Khols has them for $35
I literally have no idea where to turn anymore. I'm 5 months pregnant with no job. I've been trying for a month to get hired and nobody has even interviewed me. My rent is due September 1st and my bank account is in the negative. My parents are already paying for a car and my insurance and don't have any money to spare. My boyfriend spent every single cent of his check and didn't even bother trying to help me. I just want to give up, what's the point of trying? I have nowhere to go. What am I supposed to do?
Try fast food, I know this isn't exactly a dream job but they are usually the ones to hire.
As much as it isn't what you want to hear, I think at this point you may want to consider adoption. From what you have written, The timing doesn't seem right for you.
Raising a child now would put more stress on you and would be unfair to the child as at this time you aren't able to give it what it needs.
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In order to qualify for section 8 housing you must have a source of income. They will not take you if you are unemployed or not on disability. Also, I am sorry for this, but why everytime someone gets pregnant and can't afford to take care of themselves that they turn to welfare? If you can't take care of the child at least give it a chance with someone who can.
I know this may sound a little funny and crazy if you want, but I'm really worried about this situation since it's gotten out of control. I just love and cannot help showing off my buttocks. It's like I need to do it; it fills me with so much pleasure and adrenaline. The men who pass by and get to watch it pretty much cannot believe it. I tend to wear a thong anytime I go out in the middle of the day or night to put up this obscene show on the streets. Today I locked myself into the bathroom and burst into tears. I'm running a terrible danger and I cannot talk to anyone about this. I have a boyfriend, who of course does not know anything about this. I'd appreciate any kind of help that helps me get rid of this nasty and dangerous habit. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I need help..
You are already on the way to getting help as you acknowledge your behavior.
1, You have a boyfriend, It is very uncool to go around flashing yourself while in a relationship. This should be something that is strictly between you and your boyfriend only.
2, Flashing yourself also can attract the wrong type of attention and give off terrible impressions. Excuse my honesty, But some may find you show yourself no self respect and are desperate for attention.
The way to fix the problem is to maybe try dressing more appropriately. Imagine how your boyfriend would feel to know you do this. Learn to value your relationship and yourself. Therefore you may need counseling
My friends and I are going to St louis for the weekend. One of our friends invited himself to go. We're goin to the cardnial game and he doesnt have a ticket, but yet he still coming?? Our friend can't take a hint..... Background he has red hair and his name is Keith and wears everyone out! PLEASE HELP
Just be nice about it, Tell him that you made plans with so and so and maybe you guys could plan something when he gets back. If you didn't want him to go then why tell him? What does his hair color even have anything to do with this? Sounds to me maybe you are being a bit of an asshole toward your friend? Be nice about it, He doesn't get it because nobody explained it too him in a NICE way.
Basically a teacher left my school at the end of the year and I was very upset because I was really close to him. It'd taken me a while but I'd finally come round to the idea of him not being there - although I still miss him a lot.
Anyway, then I went into school yesterday for exam results and he was there (he'd driven 7 hours from his new house). I kind of knew he'd be there and I'd been looking forward to seeing him but it still surprised me to actually see him again. I didn't speak to him an awful lot (not like we normally do anyway) then said goodbye and left.
This event has left me really upset and I'm missing him even more now - When he left at the end of the year I'd said a nice goodbye and ended things well but yesterday really messed things up and it was awkward. Also, I guess now I know that I really won't ever see him again... and a wave of realisation has hit me - he's out of my life now.
I don't know what to do to in order to feel better. :(
Realize that he was a teacher, Nothing more. This man is just doing his job. It is okay to like a teacher but it is not okay to let it effect your daily life. We meet people in our lives that come and go, Just the way life goes. Teachers are not ment to be our best friends, They are hired to be educators and mentors.
If you feel saddened to this degree then it may be best to acknowledge you may becoming a bit too attached and this space may be good for you.
I wanna get rid of my bad smell in vigina and my mouth also stinks a lot so I wanna get rid of these two things.
Bad breath - Make sure you change your toothbrush every 2 months. If you are suffering bad breath try switching toothpaste and use mouth wash. It is also known that certain medications can cause foul breath also. If changing your tooth brush, toothpaste and mouth wash don't seem to be effective you may want to talk to your dental hygienist.
Vaginal odor- Avoid thongs and lace as lace is known to trap odor. Hair is also known to trap odor too, Try switching too 100% cotton. There is also female deodorant spray at Walmart. This can be found near the pads/tampon isle for about $2.00 this is specifically used to help with vaginal odor as well as wipes if your not comfortable with spraying.
What is the best energy drink to have dureing a tournement ??
None
Energy drinks are know to have a dangerous amount of caffine, In fact I have read several articles where people have gone into cardiac arrest due to caffine overdoes. Go with Gatorade or even Powerade as they contain electrolytes and will keep you hydrated. Stay away from that caffine crap
well yesterday a girl messaged me on facebook and she basically said my boyfriend was cheating on me and she sent me pictures of the messages between her and my boyfriend. so i screenshot what she said and sent it to him but he said she played his friend tim so he played her to get back. he put it on his moms grave, and god. i mean i dont know what to do should i believe him or what? do i keep questioning him ? and i know that he wouldnt lie on his deciesed mother but i dont know im just confused.
btw one messahge he sent said : aww baby i lov you. yoiu makin meh blush but i like it
2. when she leave but she taking a shower baby you wanna get freaky baby ( a while later ) do you baby
3. oh sorry i lost my fone baby dis my friends stuff but baby ima try too call you ima see if he tripping i love you thoo
but after he told me all that he messages her and told her he was just playing her and she sent me the messages. like wtf do i do ?
He's cheating... She even had the proof. It would be one thing if she came out and said it without evidence. However it sounds to me like she's a jealous bitch who likes to come between relationships. Unfortunately, She may have initiated the flirting with your boyfriend, but he didn't exactly tell her to stop either.
Hi, I'm a 18 year old girl in a college in the US. I'd REALLY appreciate any advice.
I am not sure what to do this Saturday. A few days ago, I invited two girls I met at church called Sally and Christina to hang out this Saturday. Sally is Chinese and in charge of international outreach at church, and she wanted to invite my 4 hallmates who happen to be Chinese International students too. I said that was fine and we decided to hang out downtown and have lunch together this Saturday.
Now one of my hallmates wants to invite her Chinese friend, and Sally wants to bring along about 3 more Chinese students. I like Chinese people, especially my hallmates, but the problem is whenever they are together they like to speak Chinese to each other. I'm Asian but I can't speak Chinese, so I prefer to spend time with just 1 of them so we can speak English and communicate. I don't want to spend my Saturday with 8 people who insist on speaking chinese because then I can't understand what they're saying to each other. Christina and I will feel isolated.
The problem is, last week I tried to organise a get together with CHristina and Sally last week but then I had to withdraw at the last minute because I was sick that day (I get migraines).
How can I get myself out of this Saturday get together that I myself started? I don't want to offend anybody or burn any bridges. Am I stressing too much over nothing? Should I just tell Sally and Christina the truth about how I feel?
There's another girl called Mandy who's only free on Saturday this week, and if I can withdraw from this large group gathering, I'd much rather spend time with her because I barely get to see her.
Hope that wasn't too confusing. Thanks for reading!
Tell her how you feel, Yoy feel uncomfortable because you do not speak chinese.
Let her know you would feel more comfortable hanging out one on one. Make plans for another time, Should be fine.
Im 18/f and I've been dating my boyfriend who's 21 for 4 years now he's rude and selfish and I've been forced to live with him for two years cuz I have.no family where we live. I've recently been cheating on him and I confessed to him and he forgave me because I forgave him in the past and to be fairly honest I did not want him to forgive me. I want to be with the other guy because he is the sweetest and most kindest man I've ever met. But my boyfriend treats me lime a five year old he needs to babysit and is smothering me I hate being around him but I feel guilty when I think about leaving how can I get out of this or make him leave me..hes so bad his own family doesnt come around
You arent being forced to live with him, If you wabt ti leave then leave. Stop making excuses for yourself.
This relationship died a long time ago, Your boyfriend is insecure and that is why he took you back.
If you are nit happy then stop stringing him along, Grow some balls and tell him. As long as you pretend to be happy, You will be miserable.