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Should I believe him ?
well yesterday a girl messaged me on facebook and she basically said my boyfriend was cheating on me and she sent me pictures of the messages between her and my boyfriend. so i screenshot what she said and sent it to him but he said she played his friend tim so he played her to get back. he put it on his moms grave, and god. i mean i dont know what to do should i believe him or what? do i keep questioning him ? and i know that he wouldnt lie on his deciesed mother but i dont know im just confused.
btw one messahge he sent said : aww baby i lov you. yoiu makin meh blush but i like it
2. when she leave but she taking a shower baby you wanna get freaky baby ( a while later ) do you baby
3. oh sorry i lost my fone baby dis my friends stuff but baby ima try too call you ima see if he tripping i love you thoo
but after he told me all that he messages her and told her he was just playing her and she sent me the messages. like wtf do i do ?
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Dear Should I believe him ?,
Believing him is not the issue at hand.
The issue at hand is that you would put up with any of this drama in the first place.
#1. He is a bad person for doing this to anyone. It shows that he has no problem going behind your back for revenge on someone else. The fact that he could do this to another person tells me has no respect for his mom or God.
#2. If he will play her, he will play you! What he is saying to you and her, he probably saying to three other girls right now.
#3. You sound too intelligent to be wrapped up with someone who talks the way he does. He talks like a player, he must be a player.
You deserve better and my advice is to run from this uneducated two timing horny fool. He is a baby maker and danger to your future. However, here are some URLs that help you tell if he is lying to you or not.
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You tell him he acted like an asshole.
Your boyfriend might honestly have only meant to be a complete, utter, cruel jerk to this girl. He might not have intended to betray his relationship with you.
So, he *might* not be cheating, in my opinion, but that doesn't mean what he did was okay.
Even if he was only trying to 'play her' what he did was awful. Immature. Disgusting and dishonest. He betrayed your trust when he lied to her about being interested in her.
I would be seriously pissed off with my boyfriend if he expressed such poor judgment and such cruelty to another person.
I think if you believe he cheated, you need to dump him.
If you think he probably only meant to be cruel to her, then you need to at least give him a very serious, no holding back, tongue lashing, where you express just how disgusting and low that behaviour was, as well as how unfair it was for his joke to 'cause you so much pain and confusion.
Even if you believe him, he needs to know that nothing like this can ever happen again.
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Ok whether or not he really was "playing" her, it's not ok.
He's going over your boundaries. It also shows other people that he doesn't respect you. It shows that girl he was talking to, his friend, and anyone that girl decides to show the messages to.
He seems really immature. All these people seem to be playing games. They're not talking this seriously. This girl he was talking to, she knew he was dating you and probably wants to screw up your relationship. He think it's ok to mess with other people just because they did it to someone else. None of this is ok.
Whether he was serious about this or not, he was cheating. That is what you consider cheating, you had no idea about any of this.
So you don't stay with someone who plays stupid games like this. You move on with your life and find someone who actually takes his relationship seriously.
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He's cheating... She even had the proof. It would be one thing if she came out and said it without evidence. However it sounds to me like she's a jealous bitch who likes to come between relationships. Unfortunately, She may have initiated the flirting with your boyfriend, but he didn't exactly tell her to stop either.
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I don't know what ages are involved here but it sounds like everyone you mentioned needs some serious growing up to do. Everyone seems to be playing games and not taking life seriously. But it could just be the age group you're in. Either that or you need new friends, both girlfriends and boyfriends. But then again, I don't really know them. I can't tell you what to do. I can only give you some things to think about.
Here's a scientific fact. The young people don't have the frontal part of their brain finish growing until they aree in mid 20's. The problem is that this part of the brain is what is responsible for us making good adult decisions. If it isn't fully developed yet, a good amount of young people are going to be making bad choices in life when they could be doing better. These may be things they say or do that only hurt themselves, and sometimes, it hurts others. If you and they are 25 or below, this may factor in to their behavior and drama. Then again some people no matter what age, choose to remain a kid (in their actions) in an adult body and they crave drama so they create it out of nothing.
The fact that your inner voice is suspicious and wondering if you should believe him means that very likely you should not. If you are a naturally suspicious person all the time, then your judgement may be off. But otherwise, go with your gut feeling, often it can be right.
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