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I want a baby at 15
I know that I'm apparently 'too young to have a baby', but I don't give a shit. Me and my boyfriend have just now started trying to get pregnant and I want some ways to get pregnant faster. I know for sure I would a great mom. School wouldn't really be a problem because I'm going to make sure I don't miss any school. I thought the good and the bad, so I know what I'm getting into.
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It's not the fact that you are too young to have a child, it's knowing that you can actually raise a child.
I don't know any ways to become pregnant faster. It's different with every woman's body.
So how are you not going to miss any school? I hope you know you're going to miss school during the last couple months of your pregnancy. I mean you can have people bring home homework but you're going to be exhausted and that's why women don't go to work while they're pregnant, even if it's a slow easygoing job.
Do you and your boyfriend have a job? Obviously you're parents aren't going to take care of your baby. You know that you'll go through 8-10 diapers a day? So if you get the biggest pack, it'll run out in only a month. Then of course there is food, clothing, doctor visits.
This has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with the baby and that's why people aren't happy when teenagers get pregnant. They can be there for the child but they don't provide it with everything an adult actually can.
The only part that screws with you is that you might be able to finish high school but you don't get the college you deserve. Then you and your boyfriend might split up. Not saying it will happen but it happens a lot even without a baby in the picture..and babies don't make boys stay.
It's just, I feel bad because you won't get the life you'll truly deserve..or the life that your baby truly deserves.
There's always a chance that high school relationships don't last, I'm sure you know that. Even if you guys did stay together, you don't get to go out and have fun together with your friends or even together. You guys will be taking care of the kid and having a baby changes the whole relationship. Then of course when you get out of high school people change and he might not be the same guy you want to spend your life with.
Just keep this in mind because it can screw up a lot of peoples lives. Not even some people in their 20's are ready and financially stable to take care of themselves and a baby.
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This is by far the stupidest choice you will ever make. You and your boyfriend are selfish and completely arrogant for wanting to being a child into this world when you are not even leval adults and live with your parents, you attend school, Do not pay your own damn bills and don't own your own car, live on your own etc.
Babies are NOT puppies, They require ALOT of money, time and attention. Diapers, Formula, medical coverage, crib, bed, high chair, clothes, and many many other things. They are up most of the night and when you want time to yourself, ITS ABOUT THEM.
You're 15, TOO YOUNG AND NOT READY. You are NOT an independant. This is to show how fucking stupid teenagers are now daya and gullible they have become. Yes, You and the boyfriend are one of them. Smarten the hell up
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It would be great if everything we planned for came out exactly as we planned. Unfortunately in the real world we live in things do not always work out as planned.
Lets start with your parents for instance. How are they going to feel when they find out their little girl is pregnant with her own little one? Will they be overjoyed at the prospect that you are pregnant. Will they be supportive or will they condemn you and throw you out of the house? You would be surprised how many parents have thrown their daughters out with the words, "you want to act like an adult and have sex and have babies before your financially able too," then have at it; or words to that effect.
What about his parents. Are they going to feel you entrapped him, that he was an unwitting participant. You would be surprised how differently parent react when they find out that their babies are about to become parents themselves.
I'm sure you will make a great mother when you are old enough to be one. That will be when you have finished school and been to college and have a secure job and a home of your own. Babies and young children are totally dependent on their parents for everything they need in life.
When its 2AM an the baby is being colicky and you want to sleep and it can't. How are you going to feel needing to go to school without any sleep and then to work after school. This can happen night after night with some babies.
Can you exist and function properly on 2 to 3 hours sleep a night according to most studies done on teenage sleep needs and patterns. Teenagers and young adults require 8 to 10 hours sleep a night.
Then there is the fact that in many ways you yourself are sill a child. Over the next 3 years you will change both in mind and body. You will grow and mature in many ways. You are nowhere near the you that your are meant to be as puberty has not finished with you. Which may be a reason you are not getting pregnant. Your body may not be ready to support a pregnancy therefore it will not allow itself to become pregnant.
All in all you are not ready to bring a child into this world. If not for yourself and you really want to be a good mother then think of the child. You are not prepared to give a baby all the necessary things a child needs either monetarily or supportive care. You will grow to resent the baby as you miss out on many of the things others are doing and as your plans fail to materialize.
This is not the time for you to have a baby, it is wrong for you and it is more wrong for the baby. While I don't think you should be having sex I'm not going to lecture you on the fact that you are. I will suggest that since you are old enough to ask your doctor for birth control that you do so. A law called HIPPA gives you this right at your age. Stay on birth control until your old enough and financially capable of supporting a child.
I know this is not what you wanted to hear. As I say on my column page. I will always speak the truth to you. Then it is up to you to decide.
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Is this a joke? By the way, you have not even asked for a specific piece of advice...
Or course you'll have to miss school-there will be days where you are exhausted after spending nights wide awake, feeding your baby.
Bringing up a baby is also very expensive. Are you going to pay for its upkeep? Or is the state? Or your mom?
I have seen first hand how expensive raising a child is. In my opinion you need to be financially secure. It wil be impossible to focus on your school work when you have a hungry mouth to feed at home.
Its your choice, but if you have a child at 15 with no job, no real stability, you young lady are in for a very big shock. Then again, I don't think this is a serious question.
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