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Upset over a teacher
Basically a teacher left my school at the end of the year and I was very upset because I was really close to him. It'd taken me a while but I'd finally come round to the idea of him not being there - although I still miss him a lot.
Anyway, then I went into school yesterday for exam results and he was there (he'd driven 7 hours from his new house). I kind of knew he'd be there and I'd been looking forward to seeing him but it still surprised me to actually see him again. I didn't speak to him an awful lot (not like we normally do anyway) then said goodbye and left.
This event has left me really upset and I'm missing him even more now - When he left at the end of the year I'd said a nice goodbye and ended things well but yesterday really messed things up and it was awkward. Also, I guess now I know that I really won't ever see him again... and a wave of realisation has hit me - he's out of my life now.
I don't know what to do to in order to feel better. :(
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Realize that he was a teacher, Nothing more. This man is just doing his job. It is okay to like a teacher but it is not okay to let it effect your daily life. We meet people in our lives that come and go, Just the way life goes. Teachers are not ment to be our best friends, They are hired to be educators and mentors.
If you feel saddened to this degree then it may be best to acknowledge you may becoming a bit too attached and this space may be good for you.
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It's hard when that happens, isn't it? The same thing happened to me at the end of the school year. I was really close to one of my teachers -- and I even had a little bit of a crush on her -- but then my school had to close. When we said goodbye, it was a little awkward, so I know what that feels like, too.
It hurts to care deeply about someone and not be able to see them again -- trust me, I've been there over and over again. But when you find yourself thinking about this teacher, try distracting yourself with a puzzle or something. If you keep yourself busy with other things, you might find that it's easier to move on.
Remember, there will be other amazing teachers in your life, and you will be able to find someone else to think about. Find something you enjoy doing or someone else you like to hang out with, and the feeling will pass.
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You'll be fine. It's a part of life. People enter your life for a season and then it's over. This is just the beginning of many people entering and leaving your life. You need to realize this is just one part of it. If your life is so dramatically affected by the absence of your teacher then you probably have other issues going on in your life that need to be addressed. He's not your best friend, he's not a relative or a boyfriend so I'm very confused why such strong emotions over someone who is most likely not giving you a second thought. Find someone and/or something else to occupy your time. The world is much greater than this one teacher.
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Did you fancy your teacher? It sounds like you were very fond of him. Firstly it may be helpful to realize that the border between teacher and student is quite a strict one, and you should try to get any of these thoughts romantic or otherwise out of your head.
In my high school, one of my teachers died of cancer. This loss is very hard to take, especially as it wasn't announced just how ill she really was. at least you're safe in the knowledge he will continue to grow in his life.
But you must remember, teaching is a caring role. He cared for you whilst you were a student. Now you got to thank him and move on with your education, so he can carry on caring and teaching other students.
I also find you think you'll miss certain teachers alot, but when you go to the next steps or whatever, you realize that you don't miss them as much as you thought. I think its because you mature.
So he may be out of your life now, but if you let that get you down then you're not going to advance very far. Instead, it helps to refocus your mind back on your studies, and try to get a really good career, bearing in mind all the time 'I want to make them proud'. If you get high enough in your career-they'll learn of your successes most probably.
School is like a charity. And whilst people are grateful when they receive help from a charity, most want to move on to better things. Now you have to-even though its hard!
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