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I got stood up, and now I feel like he's not interested.
I am casually talking and getting to know this guy at my college named Anthony. He's older, works at the bookstore, and very cute. We text back and forth and I see him Monday and Wednesday around noon and he usually gets off at two, so we hang out until my ride comes.
This Sunday, he agreed to go to the movies with me at 1:50. My phone was out of service so I wasn't able to contact him. He seemed like he'd for sure be there. It hits two o'clock and he's not there, so I wait a little longer. At 2:15, I call him on the cinema phone over and over, but he doesn't answer. At this point I am very upset and don't even see the movie. I decide to call my ride, and as I'm walking away in tears, a cinema employee says that Anthony is on the line. I ask what happened, and he said he crashed at his grandparents and they left early. He didn't get a chance to go home and shower or anything, and his parents aren't answering the phone for him to get a ride. He has no car because his got wrecked, and he's paying off a lot of loans. I offered to give him a ride home, but he said his morals were against it. I begged him, but he still refused and told me to go home. He kept saying "I'm sorry sweetheart." and he seemed genuinely sorry. We stayed on that dang cinema phone for about 40 minutes.
The next day, after feeling hurt, I went by the bookstore to pick up an order. I said hi to him, and he was very friendly, but I was so upset. I think I am just overthinking that he's not interested. He was at work, and I just had lunch with him a few minutes ago, but of course he was rushing. He's still flirty and sweet, but there's this feeling that I am just a bother. He didn't offer for me to sit with him even though he saw me in the lounge, and I sat with him once I saw him. I just feel like I'm annoying, but he insists he's not. Is this just a weird feeling and I'm overthinking it, or does he seem not interested? Am I just being a worry wort?!
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Gotta go with Razhie on this one...
If he was interested, He wouldn't have lost track at his grandparents. Also, He had a way of getting there and he shot it down. Yes, Sounds like he's a bit of a prick.
People get rides from people all the time, Too say "it's against your morals" while agreeing he'd go is bullshit. Too bad he can't be honest but at the sometimes he IS a jerk afterall.
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I think you're over thinking it. Honestly, he should have had better planning on his part about his grandparents though.
If his story is legit and the next date goes fine, then you shouldn't worry. If you guys are still texting and talking normally, then he's probably still into you.
I find it extremely weird that he didn't accept your offer for a ride though.
Anyways, it's ok to be upset. You were looking forward to seeing a movie with him and he couldn't make it. But you don't have to obsess over it or worry too much.
You said he's still flirty and sweet..so why would he be not interested? That's how you can tell if someone is interested in you in the first place.
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First of all get yourself a reliable cell-phone at the next possible opportunity. You need it for emergencies. Hell, even a pay-as-you-go is a better option than none.
For all you know this guy probably dialed your broken number expecting to confirm things or remind you why he wouldn't be there at 2. Then because of this your phoning over and over when you didn't see him on the cinema's phone came across as needy.
That's how I think he sees you now. Doesn't matter about your phone being out. Also, nice of the cinema to allow you to use their line for that long.
I think what you need to do is realize that he's no longer interest and or if you think he could still be WAIT. Don't text, call, or go to where he works and now let him do the initiating.
The fact he had a date with you that he suddenly forgot the morning of and had an excuse about grandparents and not getting up on time is BOGUS. You're not dumb and he should know that. If he cared he'd remember. This is his way of brushing you off, standing you up and trying to look good afterwards.
He ain't worthy of you and just isn't in to you and that's okay. You deserve much better but yes, when it comes guys or vice-versa guys with gals don't overdo texting, phoning or anything that can be taken as needy even if not intended as such. It's all about his perception and not the facts you laid out about the phones.
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I don't think you are overthinking it.
He sounds to me like he he either
A.) not that interested
or B.) Is a jerk.
Guy who stands you up 'cause he wasn't paying attention while at his grandparents? Jerk.
An older guy who needs a ride from his parents, but is too proud to accept a ride from you, the younger woman he supposedly wants to spend time with? Jerk.
Personally, I think if he was really interested in you, he would have suggested an alternate date right away. If he hasn't asked you to hang out agian - I'd say let it go. He's just not that into you.
It hurts, but it also sounds like you are better off without him.
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