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Suffering from Anxiety and post traumatic stress?
I was always a worrier ( if thats a word) I'm 14 btw. But, eversince, my bf and I broke up..it's been 1-2 months, I see that I've changed quite a bit. I'm sort of irritable, I find it very hard to fall asleep ( happened before too, but now it takes longer), I'm always tense about my homework or that I'm not putting in enough hardwork, I don't eat properly because of the fear that I'll become fat, I don't even feel like eating and I used to love food. Though I'm enjoying life in my own way, I get random headaches and I feel burned out many times. What is the reason behind this? It's not only after the break up but ever since I came into 9th grade. What can I do to help myself?
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Kitten lover had great advice dear. Meditation is helpful. Although I know how hard it is to do so...our minds can tend to wander back to the stuff we're trying not to focus on. So to help clear your mind, try a breathing exercise along with it. What happens is that changing your breathing pattern, like taking deep breaths and holding for just a couple seconds or taking in lots of short breathes before letting it go, is your conscious mind taking over the regulation of breathing which your subconscious mind does automatically. When something interferes with one of the jobs of your subconscious mind, it will then begin to pay attention. Thats what you want for meditation to be more successful. So focus on just the breathing, and eventually you'll be able to go longer.
The not feeling like eating is what my daughter went through when she lost a boyfriend. She had no appetite and desire for food but she was also suffering other symptoms of depression. So while you may naturally be a worrier, or what I call a "touchy-feely' person, one whose emotions are effected extremely easily both the good and bad, this time it could also be a case of depression.
Luckily medition is one of the remedies for depression as well. There are others proven to work. I told my daughter about them but she went to see a psychologist, her one free appt. thru work. He told her all the same stuff I will share with you. Laughter is a good medicine. Put on your favorite comedies. Movement helps such as running or jogging, even skipping works. Other movement that is more fun is dance. Just move to music. If you have any song which when you listen to them, the melody is one that makes your heart feel so light like a balloon as if its going to float out of your chest, then those are the songs to listen to now on repeat. Its not the words that are important but the melody that is personally healing to you. One such song for me is Clocks by Coldplay. I will listen to it 4 or 5 times in a row and by time I'm done, I am already feeling better but then I never let myself get so bad off that it takes days of self therapy to get feeling better. And lastly, hugging is a wonderful therapy. It is one of the best thing to raise the levels of neuro-transmitters in your brain which are low to non existant when you are stressed or depressed. Headaches and burn outs too can be indicators.
I don't really know you that well, but with the fact that you worry alot, you may actually have an ability that not all people have, being extra sensitive to picking up on things around you, especially other peoples energies, you feel the peaceful good energies but are even more able to pick up on peoples darker energies which added to your own concerns becomes an overload. People like this need to take time to ground themselves and cleanse themselves daily. So in addition to meditation as a daily practice to ground yourself, you may want to learn how to visualize your body, mind, energy field, being cleansed of other peoples dark emotions. There are many ways to do this. Picture whatever works in your mind for you. In could be seeing yourself standing inside a beam of white pure light that pours down into the top of your head, forcing all the heavier darker energies to flow out the bottom of your feet. Or give the job to your angels. Picture them with sprayers like at a car wash only theirs showers your heart mind and energy field with magic beams that totally fry/zap and destroy the worries, and anxieties in you. Hope this helps. It sounds silly I know but it works. Our minds are powerful weapons in the use of our own healing but it doesnt work if we dont visualize. Once we visualize it, it actually becomes reality over time. For some people its instant relief but I believe in angels and when you involve them in your imagination to get better, they will be there doing exactly as you imagine them to in your mind.
Good luck dear and if you need any more clarification, just write to my column and ask a question from there. If you ask where you can put a response to this post of mine, I can't answer it.
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Hello-the anxiety pro is here :)
I'm 18 but have an anxiety disorder too-so I have textbook knowledge of it!
So, what I'm telling you is what doctors have told me.
Anxiety is competency harmless, in small parts. It triggers the fight or flight response.
Most people with anxiety are highly intelligent and are perfectionists.
I'm guessing you've not had a panic attack before-you are after all 14 and they begin when you are 16/17. They are awful. Its basically like collapsing but alot worse.
To help yourself you need to start meditation. Now. Before your anxiety spirals out of control. Look up mindfulness online. It has helpful hints and tips on how to meditate. You see, people snort at meditation, but the embarrassing thing for them is that it actually works! Make sure you give yourself time and space to do it, and you will not be disturbed. Try this:
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The headaches may be coming with the sleeping problems. About that. I once went a week with no sleep. Then I had a night. Then none whatsoever. I wasn't doing it on purpose-it was my anxiety. And hey-I'm still here! I got help for it, so I think you should to. Either way, I think self help is great but it never can replace counselling. Maybe this is an option for you.
I know its easy for me to say. But don't worry about this. You will be fine-as someone from a helpline once told me: Nothing lasts forever.
You will get through this.
I think you need to get over your boyfriend by starting something new. You could perhaps try volunteering? Worked for me anyways!
Also, if you have facebook, why not join an anxiety group on there? They are closed so no one online will be able to see, and its a great way to interact with people like yourself (and me!) for free. Sometimes talking is the best therapy.
Try speaking to a relative about this. In the end, support will get you through this.
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