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I like showing my ass off to complete male strangers
I know this may sound a little funny and crazy if you want, but I'm really worried about this situation since it's gotten out of control. I just love and cannot help showing off my buttocks. It's like I need to do it; it fills me with so much pleasure and adrenaline. The men who pass by and get to watch it pretty much cannot believe it. I tend to wear a thong anytime I go out in the middle of the day or night to put up this obscene show on the streets. Today I locked myself into the bathroom and burst into tears. I'm running a terrible danger and I cannot talk to anyone about this. I have a boyfriend, who of course does not know anything about this. I'd appreciate any kind of help that helps me get rid of this nasty and dangerous habit. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I need help..
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Yes this is a dangerous activity, one that could get you seriously hurt or worse. From what you have written and the way you have written it I do not think this problem can be overcome without professional help.
In one sense what you have is a sexual fetish. Most sexual fetishes are harmless as they are not harmful to you or anyone else. Sometimes a sexual fetish can even be enjoyed between you and a romantic partner. While this particular fetish might be shared between you and the right partner it is still a very dangerous fetish for you and a partner if you were to share with one.
I would suggest you seek the help of a qualified sexual therapist, a psychologist to help you find out why you need to do this. One of the reasons is the reason you write about; which is the pleasure you get from the adrenaline rush you get when exposing yourself.
Adrenaline and the rush they give can be quite addictive, even more so than some illegal drugs. There are better safer ways to get this type of rush. More importantly is to find out why you need this kind of rush which is what working with a psychologist can help with. Once you find out the reason you can also find out how to harness the reason and find a safer way to get that same adrenaline rush.
I hope you will take my advise and seek help with a qualified therapist. Your EAP program at work will pay for the first few sessions. Everything that is said in therapy stays in therapy as it is totally confidential. No one will ever know what is said between you and your therapist unless you tell them.
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Well obviously this is not ok. It makes it a bit worse since you have a boyfriend and it's not respecting your relationship.
Also it's getting you the wrong type of attention as it can also be sexual harassment.
I think you need to stop dressing the way you dress. I think that's a start. Don't wear thongs all the time and don't wear clothes you can easily pull off your body.
This is more about self control, and you don't have it. So that's what you need to learn. You can find other non-harmful things to do that give you adrenaline.
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You are already on the way to getting help as you acknowledge your behavior.
1, You have a boyfriend, It is very uncool to go around flashing yourself while in a relationship. This should be something that is strictly between you and your boyfriend only.
2, Flashing yourself also can attract the wrong type of attention and give off terrible impressions. Excuse my honesty, But some may find you show yourself no self respect and are desperate for attention.
The way to fix the problem is to maybe try dressing more appropriately. Imagine how your boyfriend would feel to know you do this. Learn to value your relationship and yourself. Therefore you may need counseling
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