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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
advice
Chest Bicep Day-
• 15 min stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten on bench press
• 5 sets of ten for bicep curls
• 5 sets of ten Russian twist (slip in abs)
• 5 sets of ten six inches
• 15 min on stationary bike
• jog
Triceps and back day-
• 15 min stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten of triceps extension
• 5 sets of ten of shrugs
• 5 sets of ten of tricep dips
• 5 set of ten of military press
• 5 sets of ten on barbell rows
• 5 sets of ten stiff legged barbell dead lifts
• 15 min stationary bike
• jog
Legs Day-
• 15 min of stationary bike
• 5 sets of ten Barbell Full Squat
• 5 sets of ten leg extensions
• 5 sets of ten Russian twist
• 5 set of ten six inches
• 15 min stationary bike
• jog
Off day-
• Jog
• Jump ropes
im 15 male. 6'0 and about 175 pounds i have done weight training before. any suggestions are welcome
I don't know half the things you mentioned on here to be frank. Haha. But it seems like you're doing a great job with things. And I don't need to tell you to take it easy unless you wnt to be cramping for a week >.>
Try to alternate your days, though, so that your body won't get used to it & later on have no effect.
Hmm, yeah. You seem to know what you're talking about so gj for being active and healthy =)
~Emily
15/f
14/f 102 lbs. (idk if that helps)
I'm going to start doing tricep excercises where you bend your arm back, so your elbow is pointing to the ceiling and then you curl your arm with the weight. How many do you recommend I do? Everyday or Every other day? I want to tone my triceps as soon as possible, preferably by next summer. I know that's a long time, but I want to start now because forming muscle isn't an overnight occurence. any help you can give me on this would be great :)
thank you
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
Hehe, I have that exercise in my Toning Exercises topic.
Make sure you have the right weights:
Do it 8 times and if you start to feel a little burn or tiredness on the last 3, you're doing it with the right weights. If you don't, it's too light. If it hurts before the last 3, it's too heavy.
I suggest you start with 2 reps of 8 and hold it back with your arms straight back for 8 seconds. Then when it gets to get too easy for you, increase the weight.
i like junk food too much to lose weight for long =[ i always eat way too much in a day. but i want to lose weight so bad. especially from my face. TIPS PLEASE.
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
That's my forum and I have 3 topics, well 4 I guess, on losing weight. It should really help you of you read "Lose Weight" "Toning Exercises" "Stretching" & "Fats, Protein, Carbs wtf???" [Or whatever order the three ar in]. As for the junk food, I guess I'll be adding a new topic about that right about now.
Leave a feedback please on my topics =)))
~Emily
15/f
tonite my stepdad was really drunk [[nothing new]] but im on vacation in south america with family and everyone was drunk too [[again nothing new]] and they were saying stuff about how i wasnt talking to the adults only the people my age and its soo stupid..but my sdadand me are alone
and my moms back in the u.s. working...
tonite he got mad and said i was acting bad the whole time which he didnt get mad at me once.
then he started to ask my cousin to dance with him and she said no and he started yelling at her and shes younger than me so i told him ''hey be cool theres other people to dance with and she said no, no means no '' yah know and he started telling me i didnt know anything and calling me stupid and stuff which IS new
and then i walked away to avoid anything and he pulled me by the hair and shoved me against a wall and hit me .. i fell to the floor and then ran upstairs before he could come back
.. the question is should i tell my mom ??
or let it go cuz he was drunk??
cuz i mean when hes sane hes fine and hes soo great
but i dont want to cause more problems between them .. sorry for it being too long
♥christina
Drunk or not, physically/mentally/emotionally abusing someone, regardless of their age or gender, is not acceptable in any case. Tell your mom right away because once he does that, there are no guarentees he won't do that again in the futurre, drunk or not.
14/f/nebraska
ok i live in a pretty calm town, and i have been to PLENTY of parties before of people in my class.None of them have been with any alcohol or even spin the bottle. wel i just got invited to a party that is going to have alcohol. all my friends are going, and all excited about it being their first time. The thing is, i am not very comfortable being around alcohol. like i dont know, i just dont like it, it just seems to ruin a lot of peoples lives, especailly when we are only 14. i REALLYY want to go, but i REALYY dont want to drink. but i still want to be cool. waht should i do?
If I were you, I wouldn't go no matter how much I wanted to. I'm a straight edge kid, meaning no drugs, alcohol, smoking, or casual sex. Anywhos, you will end up drinking no matter how much you refuse. For all you know, you could be drinking spiked fruit punch. If you're not going to feel comfortable, don't go. And if the house gets busted for alcohol, you're in a whole friggin lot of trouble, too. And if your parents find out, wow. You're really screwed then. It's great that you don't want to drink alcohol and you should be proud of that. If you want to be cool, do NOT drink alcohol. Underaged drinkers [esp around 12-16] are more likely to become alcoholics when they grow up. Nothing cool about that. Nothing cool about drinking and becoming wasted and rotting your brain away. Get the drift that I'm trying to get it through your head that drinking doesn't make you at least a bit cool? Good. Don't go if you don't want to drink. But if you feel the need to go, find someone among your friends & make a promise with him/her that you won't drink nor won't let the other drink. Keep your drink in your hands at all times and don't let someone pour it for you. Try to drink from bottles that haven't been opened.
ok so basically umm i started smoking and well i just wanted to know cause i wanna be healthy and live for quite a long time and be able to play with my kids when i have kids and grand kids and possibly even great grand kids so if i smoke not even that often just every once in a while will that be able to happen at least be able to run around and play with my grand kids and i know smoking is addictive but i mean yeah
I'm gonna flat out tell you to just quit. If ou want to live a long, helthy, normal life, quit smoking. It's a legal drug which is addictive. Just a few here and there will eventually turn into a few every 5 minutes.
If you want to be healthy and live for quite a long time and be able to have even up to great grandkids, stop. If you want those things more than dying from cancer. Both my grandpa and uncle died from cancer. My other grandpa, recently deceased, used to smoke and I'm guessing that it played into the factor of his death. My dad smokes and I'm paranoid he's going to die soon. So don't smoke. It's going to harm others around you too. Not just you.
whats the most important thing when having sex
There are a few important things:
1) Actually loving your partner. Not just some teenage impulse or one wanting to have sex and blackmailing by threatening to break up if you don't want to have sex or vice versa.
2)Protectiong. D*mn number of people are always asking "Am I pregnant? I didn't use protection." BC pills, condoms, whatever you need. The pull out method doesn't work by the way.
3)STDs. Another thing that bothers me. Everyone's asking if they're pregnant and they don't even take a glimps at the fact that their partner may have a STD that he doesn't know about or is hiding form you. [Hmm, sorry. It could be a she, too.] I mean come on, he/she may actually not know. And even if she/he does, do you think that she/he will tell you "Oh, yeah. I do herpes. Let's have hot sex!" Not likely. `
I went out with a lad who treated me horrbile and now he is say he still loves me and he going out with my firend and i don't know what 2 do should i get back with him or not..??
stuck..
1. He's taken.
2. He treated you horribly.
3. He's taken.
4. He treated you horribly.
5. He's TAKEN.
Get my drift? Good.
Just because he says he loves you doesn't mean that he actually does or that he will treat you any differently. He''s your ex. He's gone. He treated you terribly. Move on from him and let him have your friend.
hi,how do i say to my girlfriend 2 dress nice so she can meet my parents with out been rude?..im 17 by the way
Just tell her that you want your parents to like her and they have high standards so she should dress nicely. Or just flat out tell her. Haha. I wouldn't care. Plus girls are already gonna be nervous to meet someone's parents so I'm hoping she'll dress nicely without you having to mention it =)_
hi,im 17 an im still a virgin my girlfriend knows but i no she wants to have sex some time but i dont no what size i am i mean i dont wana have sex and put one on when my girlfriend is there couse it might not fit..what do i do? thanks
1. Don't have sex b.c your gf wants you to. Do it if you're comfortable. Key word: YOU
2. The manufacturers should have a chart type thing that helps you with finding your size either on the boxes or their sites.
i heard that americans can shoot people if they are tresspassing on their property. if its true, i have a few questions:
1.can you shoot someone without warning?
2.what if you are renting the place? you just live there, and you dont own it. can you still shoot someone?
3.what if you are at your freinds house, and youre freinds not in? can you shoot the person trespassing?
thanks a lot. british fella.
There are people that shoot people for various reasons, one being that they're tresspassing.
But it is not at all legal. I mean tresspassers can get arrested but not shot at legally.
And why would you be at your friends house if they're not there??
And so, I'd say not a lot of that goes on. At least not where I live. I have never heard anyone being shot for tresspassing where I live >.>
~Emily
15/f
Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law??
To be frank, I think that your state law is a wonderful things. There are so much obesity going on, even in younger kids, that it's not even funny anymore. And not many people are willing to take steps to prevent it. Blame it on the kids. Blame it on the parents. Blame it on the school. Blaming won't do anything to prevent it.
At my school, we have gym every other day until you're in 9th grade and half of 10th grade. 1hr and 30min long, too, thank you very much. We run at least a mile, we do sports, weight lifting, gymnastics stuff, and various other exercises. Compared to that, having only 15min of "gym" time in school everyday is nothing.
And I'm getting the feeling that you don't want to do these exercises because you're "fat". Well, instead of complaining about people staring at you, why don't you just stand in the back, thus no one will likely turn around to stare at you. Also, since you are "fat", you should be thankful that they actually did put the law. It's going to help you with your jigglies. And it's going to get you that exercise you've deprived yourself. You're thinking that this is stupid and pure torture. But if you think about it, they're trying to help people who may not have an average body and prevent people from getting overweight. Not to torture little school kids.
I mean, seriously. Will you do exercise by yourself with no one to strictly tell you to do so? If you said yes to that, then you wouldn't be complaining right now about the law or people looking and making fun of you. If they make fun of you, F*CK THEM. They're stupid, immature, and not at all sensitive. You don't need to be put down by others because of the way you look.
"Be yourself. Don't take anyone's sh*t and never let them get you alive" - Gee Way
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt
Get up and do those 15min of exercise. It's not going to kill you and it will certainly bring you one step closer to a healthier life. Don't complain about what you brought on yourself.
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
My forum with weight losing tips if you want to go look.
I know I sound harsh and b*tchy. But I'm just telling you my view on this.
i have tried and tried putting a picture up on my advice column but it keeps saying its too big
i have to make the picture like TINY TINY to make it actually work and rawrr its making me mad
all of my pictures are jpg's
is there anything i can do?
i don't want to download any programs =P
thanks in advance!
I just copy and paste the pic I want to onto the Paint program on windows. Then I click Image in the tool bar above and click Stretch/Skew [aka Ctrl + w] and put it down to 50 or 30%
i was at a camp last week, and i had forgotten about the pic of a penis that a guy sent me in december but then i remembered it was on there and some other girls were looking at my pics and they saw that, then they told like the director of the camp and this whole ordeal happened.
but the girl who saw it had a pic with all these different pics of ppl giving blow jobs and stuff.
and i got in so much f-ing trouble it wasn't even funny.
i'm back from the camp now but i just still feel like crap about it, i just feel so worthless.
it's not like i was the only 1 with porn on my phone. god.
Where is the question?
All I see is ranting going on and not much more.
Why didn't you report the other girl, too?
Or why didn't you keep a closer eye on your phone.
Those could''ve prevented it.
Next time, please clarify a question.
quick question.
i want to streach my ear hole, but the hole i got when i was a baby the 1st piercing its a standerd earing probly done with a gun.
what guage is a standerd ear piercing????
thanxx
i want to up to a 00 gauge but, from a standerd ear piercing, what guage shall i go up too the 1st time i use the tool to streach it?
srry if this is confuseing
Standard guns probably have 20G or 18G.
I suggest you go to a piercing place and ask them what guage you have in, if they can find out. Then try and get more safety tip information on guaging your ears.
You can go to Hot Topic and get guages of all different sizes. I suggest you go to a 16G the first time then move to the next one [14, 12, 10, 8, 6, 4, 2, 0] Make sure that you do it safely and be patient. Make sure everything is sanitary when you guage! If you want, you can go to a piercer and they should be able to help you with guaging it. But know that your ears won't get back to the normal size after you go past 14G or 12G.
Good luck!
~Emily
15/f
i chewed this gum.. uh i think it was like Dentyne Ice, and then i chewed it in bed and when i woke up.. the gum was everywhere! i guess i shouldnt have chewed it all at once, and then in bed.. but thats in the past.
my issue is that one of my bedsheets and a pillowcase has some gum stains on it. like the gum has been there for about a week now, too. i couldnt ask this question before, because my mom blocked the internet for a while and i just fixed it now. so.. whats the best way to get rid of this problem?? my mom suggests putting ice on it, but i dont get how that will really work, since gum has gotten on my jeans before, and ice didn't help much, really. and putting it in the washer wont help.. it will come out even worse that way; personal experience.
so.. please help me!!
By putting ice on gum stuck somewhere, you're freezing it, thus making it hard. And it would pop right off =)
My face looks oily. I've always had dry skin or combination skin. My face is shiny and even after I wash it.
I don't want harsh products that would irritate my skin. I don't want any products that burn the skin, you know?
I also have small bumps on the side of my cheek. How do I go about treating this? It's a lot of small bumps so I don't want to irritate the skin and make it worse. They sort of popped up last month while I was on the pill :/
I've been putting benzoyl peroxide medication on the small bumps for the past week. it's done nothing but bring it to a slight white head.
any tips/tricks?
also, can i buy proactive without getting the whole monthly supply? [i already tried it and my mom doesn't want to pay for it every month] They do sell over a counter in the mall, right? If they do, how much for each bottle?
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
Read Acne Topic.
Don't put benzoyl peroxide. It will only irritate your skin more and cause mor acne in the end. And when you stop, well, you're screwed.
As for the oily skin, I mentioned a Neutrogena lotion product I use. it helps with the oiliness, even though it does sound ironic. It has something in it that absorbs oil on your skin, thus leaving it less oily. You should be able to buy it in CVS & it comes in a rectangular box .
my boyfriend has fingered me a few times, and every time he's washed his hands immediately before. also he told me that he hadnt masturbated since the previous day too (every time.) and he hasn't touched himself at all while he's fingering me. but my period is a week late.
i'm just thinking its stress, because i was stressed about it being late in the first place, but please reassure me that i can't be pregnant.
thanks
Of course you're pregnant.
I mean, come on. No sperm. No fertilization. The two key things to get a girl pregnant -_-
NO. You are most definitely NOT pregnant.
Chill. There are factors that can delay your period:
-Recent pick up in exercise/vigorous exercising
-Weight lose/gain psignificant amounts]
-Stress *cough couhg*
-nutrient deficiencies [sp???]
-Bad eating habits
-Lack of sleep
-It's not regular?
Haha. Chillax.
i need to loose around 10lbs.
i'm looking for 3-5lbs per week.
do you think that eating a low-calorie (1300) diet and an hour of excersise will help??
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
You're looking to lose 3-5lbs per week. You should only lose 1-1.5lbs per week if you want to do it the safe way AND keep it off. Even if you do eat only 1300 cals and do an hour of exercise, you're going to gain all those pounds back when you reach your goal weight. Why? Because you can't eat 1300 cals and do an hour of exercise EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. And you're going to end up depriving your body of those much needed proteins, fats, and carbs, and that's not good.
Go to my forum and read the topics on Lose Weight, Toning Exercises, Stretches, and "Fats, Carbs, Protein wtf?" Topics. It should really help you out one understanding how to lose weight and keep it off. =)
Good luck
~Emily
15/f
how do i quit? i've been at this since i was little kid, and everytime i see like a nail growing in i have to bite it. =[
There are two things that work:
1)Put a thick coat of nail polish [clear, red, purple, rainbow, whatever color]. You'll stop when you taste the nasty taste of nail polish in your mouth.
2)There is this one product that you put on your nails [clear] that has this really bitter and horrible taste, thus helping you to stop biting your nail. I don't know the exact name but you can probably get it at CVS =)