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I dont know what to do. Ok im 17 and pregnant and my boyfriend is 16 hes he father. some girl from school broke us up last year around september or so. i completely broke down. but we got back together in december. i love him with everything ive got. weve now been together almost 2 years. thing is. this girl is still trying to break us up. shes started a lot of lies and stuff. well now shes telling me all of a sudden that shes been having sex with my boyfriend and that she miscarried his baby. but i dont know what to beleive. i obviously wouldnt beleive her but then she sent me an AIM convo between her and my bf (sapposedly) but i dont know if its real or messed with. the words in it sound JUST like he would type them, but something dont make sense, but many of the things do. i had 2 of my best friends sleep over last night and they have known my bf for many years. and they say that it is not like him and that they doubt he would cheat on me and that they didnt even think he could. i dont know what to do or idk what to beleive. all i kno is i cant raise a baby myself. im goin to college. what do i do!? my bf says that nothing happened he crys all the time because hes scared hell lose me, but i dont know if they are fake or if he really is serious i dont know anymore. (link)
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If your boyfriend is scared he will lose you then why would he do something thats sure to cause you to give him the boot?
Some people get off on causing trouble. Sounds like this girl is one of those people. Your boyfriend
needs to tell her in no uncertain terms that he is
not interested and she needs to back off now.
He may be enjoying the fact that this girl likes him enough to do all these things, because guys like
having the old ego stroked, but he needs to think of you and his baby.
Then you both need to block her from AIM. Change phone numbers, and not let her into your lives anymore. Forget all convos she claims to have had with him, forget her claims of a past miscarriage.
Her word is unreliable. believe nothing she says.
If he doesn't have a job to keep him occupied, make him get one. He has responsibilities now and he needs to start taking care of them.
Remember you have some hormonal changes going on that may make you overly sensitive right now. Just
try to keep a cool head. :)
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met my guy early july. he lives in boston, i live 10 minutes away. i go there everyday and spend the day and night with him. we like eachother, without a doubt but agreed early on that we couldnt really "go out" because its illegal for us to date. it sucks because im truly crazy about him, and i never even like guys like this so im shocked. im very mature for my age and i think this is why.
he is moving back home tomorrow, an hour and a half away from me. i dont know what i am going to do. we want to still talk but we havent really figured anything dominant out. he says he would let me stay at his house (his familys home) on weekends but he doesnt know how is mom would feel about me being 17. im just kind of heart broken and its sad to say, but i wish i never had met him now because i dont know what im going to do when he leaves. i was thinking about if we stayed close this year, i could go to school near hm next year but i dont know if i should bring it up or not. any suggestions? thanks =( (link)
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I don't know what state you live in, but the age of consent in most is 16, which would make you legal. :)
You can find the age of consent for your state here.
http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm
He isn't moving so far away, you could still get in the occasional weekend visit. Separate rooms is better than not getting to see each other right?
Parents can sometimes be OK with visits if you follow their house rules. Even if he left early
Saturday morning and spend all day with you and returned home it would work. Plenty of time to hang out. :)
If there is a school near him that you'd like to attend next year, mention it. I'm sure he would be happy about it. If not, better to know now!
Good luck!
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hi what is a average or good weight
for a
14/f who is 5'5? (link)
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117-141 depending on weather you are small or medium frame.
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When we were in our 20s, my best friend "Debbie" was an actress in several movies and television shows. Then she married, started a family and retired to be a stay-at-home mom. However, when she was just starting out and was desperate for work, she had a nude role in a movie. It wasn't pornography, but it was graphic.
Her sons are now in high school and college.
Last week, I was searching for her new e-mail address and did a Web search on the Internet. I found several pictures of her that had been taken on the movie set -- and those pictures could definitely be called pornographic.
I doubt if Debbie knows they exist, much less have been posted on the Internet. She is not much of a Net surfer, but her sons are. Should I tell her? Or should I keep my mouth shut and hope for the best? (link)
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I think you should tell her. Don't let her be surprised should her kids come across the pictures.
Give her the chance to explain of their possible existence before they are found.
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I'm a 32-year-old female who has been having an affair during the last year with my 59-year-old married boss. I am madly in love with him and divorced my husband eight months ago to marry him.
He promised to divorce his wife, but so far there is no sign of divorce. I'm beginning to think I'm a big fool. What do you think? (link)
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I think you are a big fool as well. :)
You should never have started the relationship to begin with. You were both married AND he is not just another employee, which would have been bad enough, but your boss.
He isn't going to leave his wife no matter what he has told you. If he intended to do that he would have done it already.
You were just someone to play with. If you start making demands now you may be out of a job.
I know that probably wouldn't be fair and you could probably sue and have all your business made public, but that is the likely scenario. He will find a reason to get rid of you.
So, you have made a very big mistake here. See if
you can't find a different job and then keep all
relationships out of the workplace. :)
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***probably not a good idea for guys to read this question.
I'm going to start off saying that before my boyfriend and I became physical we both were COMPLETELY pure (we were each other's first everything). Now to my question....
It seems like every time my boyfriend and I have sex the inside of my thighs and vagina gets irritated. A few days later I feel like I have a yeast infection. We have tried different brands of condoms and the same thing happens every time. We've even tried different kinds (lubricated, not lubricated, spermacide...you get the idea). The only time I don't get irritated in that area is when we don't use a condom (don't worry, I'm on birth control!!).
So, could I be allergic to the latex? If so, why don't surgical gloves irritate my skin? (link)
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It is possible you have an allergy to latex. Since
you have no rash when not using one it is probably a pretty good bet thats the case.
The problem is that while they make non-latex condoms that work for birth control, they do not
protect against STDs and AIDs.
I hesitate to tell you not to use condoms since
they do protect from diseases. However continued
use while you have an allergy could cause you to
get some even more severe reactions. If you are in a long term committed relationship however, it is an option.
I heard on Dr Dean Edells radio program one time,
but can't find it on the internet to save my life at the moment, to do this. Have him use a regular condom, and then cover that condom with the non latex (usually sheepskin) condom. This may make
him a little less sensitive but it would protect you. The sheep skin condoms can be very thin from
what I have read, so it may not be to bad.
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Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?
xoxo
Thanks (link)
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Try to control your crying. Thats all you really need to do. Don't let them see you anyway.
You are dealing with 2 kinds of people. They are either bully's, and if they are just tell yourself
it doesn't matter what they think and ignore them.
They feed on making you upset. Just don't give them
the satisfaction.
If they aren't bully's then they are jealous or
threatened by you in some way. If that is the case just smile and go on. Don't let their insecurities get you down. Plus if you just smile and go on it will really make them mad.
So, just smile and go on about your business like you couldn't be bothered. :)
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what age do you start getting one???? what do they do to it and does your parent have to be in the room or will they talk to them about it??
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Before you start having sex (so you can get birth control) or by the time you are 18. Here is a site
that explains everything they do. It is also a great site for all kinds of information. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
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It's Tina, so you guys know.
Okay, so as some of you might know, my boyfriend died two weeks ago. A week & a half after his death, I got a rash due to how stressed out I was, and it hasn't gone away since. My mom made me a doctor's appointment, but she didn't feel good today, so I had to miss my appointment.
I've been using Cortizone 10 cream, and it works, but I hate the way it makes me feel all greasy & gross. I'm about to take a really hot bubble bath..Is there anyway I can try & get this rash to go away or at least calm down a bit until my mom can make me a new appointment? I'm really sick of being itchy all the time, and these bumps everywhere are pissing me off. =( If you guys know any home remedies, that'd be cool because I really, really need them.
I know that if I stop stressing out about this whole thing that it'll eventually go away, but me & his family have hardly any information about his death except for what I said in the mod forums, and I'm dying to know how he died, who did it, what happened & why it happened. And I'm just dying to vent, and I haven't been able to, so that's stressing me out as well. I'd love for this rash to go away, and for the stress to go away as well, but I honestly don't see my stress disappearing anytime soon. Any help? =/ It's getting to a point where I can't sleep at night because I'm so itchy..I'm at wit's end..Please help! (link)
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Hi Tina. It doesn't smell so great at first but plain old vinegar will help it stop itching. I
was skeptical until one of my grandsons got poison
ivy. It really helped him.
Regular old table salt added to your hot bath might help too. :)
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15/f. i had sex a couple days ago and i know im young i have a question im not here to be lectured that im too young to have sex. the kid i did it with he said the condom had a hole on tha side but he was told that if a condom breaks then it snaps at the top and rolls down. is there a chance i would get pregnant if it just had a hole on tha side of the condom? (link)
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Any hole or leak can cause pregnancy. I have
never heard of your guys broken condom theory.
Any leak will do it.
This site has a lot of useful information. It also has a section with signs & symptoms of pregnancy. Hopefully you won't need it,
but know what to look for.
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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what do boys like you to do when you give a handjob? i'd like to know because i told my bf i'd give him one :D
thanks in advance (link)
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We aren't allowed to give sex instruction on the site. Try this search. It has plenty of helpful sites to choose from. :)
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What websites can help me with making layouts,I have my own layout myspace but the thing is I don't know how to make them,like I'm really good at HTML but I dont know how to make them.HELP? (link)
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You need a good tutorial. There a hundreds out there! Since I don't know exactly what you are looking for, I will give you my search. That way you
can pick those that look interesting to you. :)
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I recently got a Yorkie. He's about 9 weeks old and I love him. The problem is that he waked me up in the middle of the night, EVERY night and I seriously can't take it. I play with him a lot so he can get worn out and sleep easier, but he still wakes me up by barking like crazy until I take him out. When I take him out, I take him outside to potty but then he just wants to play.
The other day he woke me up at 4:30 in the morning and then yesterday at 1:30 in the morning. If he needed to potty, I know he would of in his cage and his cage isn't small so I don't know what the problem is. We bought him one of those cages where he can walk around in so he has more space.
So, my two main questions are;
1. What can I do so he doesn't wake me up in the middle of the night anymore?
2. Everytime I pet him, he starts to bite and I know his little teeth are growing but he takes it for play so how can I teach him not to bite when someone pets him. I tell him no, but nothing.
Thanksss! I would appriciate any help that you can give. I mean I never had a dog before so I'm still learning. Thanks. (link)
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It might be best to put his crate in another room at night. He shouldn't need to go out overnight, he just wants your company. You are letting him out every time so he will continue to bark.
Believe it or not he will stop biting. Mine is now
8 months old and I was afraid he would be biting me forever!
No matter what you do he will bite. Not to be mean or hurt,
it just seems to be what they do.
The only thing I did was when he started biting, I
put him down and wouldn't play with him anymore. I
like to think it helped but it probably didn't very much. :)
They love toys. Especially balls and things that squeak.
Get him some of those if he doesn't have any.
Give him something besides you to munch on.
Mine has run of the house. If yours does for any time at all
watch your phone and computer wires.
He will chew them to bits before you know it. :)
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im in soo big of a pickle. ive been with my boyfriend for like 14 months. i love him alot and cant imagine being without him. were like peas and carrots ya kno but this is my first serious relationship [his second]. two weeks ago, i met this guy at school.. hes rlly sweet and funny and flirts with me sometimes and gives me butterflies every time he hugs me [which was 3 times today!] or smiles at me. im not sure if hes startin to like me or if thats just how he is. i dont know what to do. what if he does like me and asks me to hangout or go out or whatever? i dont wanna be like oh sry i have a boyfriend and ruin my chances. because i do like him. but at the same time i dont know what id do without my boyfriend. he just may be the one but i dont know since i havent dated a whole lot yanno? so its like i wanna give this other guy a chance without hurting my relationship now, even though i know that cant be done. if me and my boyfriend break up, we're done, he's said before he wouldnt take me back especially if its over another guy bc he doesnt wanna get hurt. and i understand that but at the same time its kinda not fair to me. i dont know, i guess im looking for something bc our relationship is kind of one-sided in the sense that i drive 13 miles like 2-3 a week to see him and drive us wherever we go [he has no car] and sometimes end up paying for the things we do bc "he has no money" even though he has a job. and if we dont do anything we just sit there at his house. and thats starting to get REALLY old REALLY fast. but even as im startin to like this new guy i cant imagine not having my boyfriend in my ife you know? ugh i dont know! any input? sorry for the length.
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At your age you really should be seeing who all is out there. Locking into one guy isn't always wise.
I wouldn't want to tell you to break up with your current guy, but to be honest it sounds more like a good friend relationship. You are doing all the
work and he is taking advantage a little bit. If
you decide to stay with your current, you definitely need to discuss his need to act more like the boyfriend. It may take a break to get that through his head.
If you feel this other guy might be someone you'd
like to date, then break it off with the current
guy and give it a try. Regardless of what he says about you being done, if it is meant to be, it will be when the time is right.
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
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15/f
Me and my boyfriend just started going out and he's great don't get me wrong there but its just that my parents are stricted and they don't let me go out and that's besides the point anyways everytime he asks me if we can hang out I've always been saying I don't know or I don't think so and he knows why but sometimes I feel like he's going to get tired of it eventually and ask to end it and I don't want to end it because I really do like him I've already tried talking to him about it so please don't say try talking to him all I want is some advice on how to make him understand that I can't go out all the time and to understand me. (link)
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Since you have already explained it to him
knowing why you can't go out isn't the problem.
He knows all that. Understanding and liking it
are two different things. If he really cares about you he will probably wait for you to be able to do those things. He will still ask though, if he didn't you would worry about why he wasn't asking anymore. :)
The thing to do is discuss going out, or I should say being able to go out with your parents.
If you could start going out as a group, with other friends, to public places, maybe they would allow that. Their main concern is probably you going out with a boy alone. Ask and see if they would let you go out with a crowd of both male and female friends. That approach may get you out of the house and able to see your guy. :)
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17/f
soo here's the deal...ive never had a boyfriend
and havent done like anything with a guy before
except madeout..and ive only done that with 2
guys and the last one was last year..
im always scared to do things with guys like
everyone thinks im soo gorgeous and they're always shocked when they heard ive never had a boyfriend or anything..but everytime a guy wants to makeout with me or something im always like no..or i'll try to avoid doing it because im scared im not going to be good at it..i mean a year..thats a long time!! and i'll be embarassed..and ive gotten asked or like i know guys have wanted to do stuff with me but its just that im scared..and there like the really hot guys and if im not good at doing something..i'll make a fool of myself! i just dont know what to do?! i feel like a prude..and i dont want to be ...im going into 12th grade..i think its kinda sad that ive only madeout with 2 guys..one going into 10th grade and one last yr..i never want to put my self in a situation that i think a guy is going to try to put a move on me either..like watching a movie or being alone with a guy...i mean i dont think im ugly but im not conceited..its just everyone thinks im pretty and is like WOW..cant believe you havent had a boyfriend or havent done much with a guy..its not that i dont want to..its that im scared! and im shy SOMETIMES..soo its like i dont wanna talk to the guy either and be like well i might be kinda bad..thats not like me!!
any ideas? thank you! (link)
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Stop worrying about how many times you have made out. Its not very important, and it really isn't anyones business but yours. So next time the subject comes up among gossiping friends, just tell them you like to keep your private life to yourself.
Actually making out is not a big deal either.
You will learn as you go along. Most will come naturally to you. There is no need to look like
a big expert to a guy. Most will be quite happy
to teach you should you want to make out with them.
They will feel pretty important. It won't at all
be a turn-off or anything. Just the opposite.
There are a lot of guys there who will go to movies and things with you without turning
into an octopus. Take time to get to know them a little before you go out alone with them and
you will probably get a good idea of who to avoid
if you don't want to get into that kind of relationship right now. There is nothing at all
weird about that. Just because everyone else
wants to risk their future, doesn't mean you have to. There is no time requirement for making out.
So don't be embarrassed, scared or worried about making out. You won't make a fool of yourself. :)
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Okay so I had oral sex with this guy and I guess he liked me a little bit. I dont know. But he'll talk to me sometimes and then other times he just ignores me. I mind you he is really shy. Like he'll talk to me but when we were having oral he seemed like i dont know nervous. He's 2 years older than me so I dont know why he was so shy ans stuff. Now he talks to me like he likes me and then he'll act like im some sort of freak. He calls me some stupid name thats not insulting its just something he likes to call me. I dont know if he wants some sex or he really likes me. I've never had sex before. So yeah I'm a virgin. But he really pisses me off. Why does he do that? I want to ask him but he's so confusing he may never talk to me again. I'm just sick of him. (link)
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He probably just wants sex. If you have oral sex with someone and don't even
know if they like you or not thats what you can expect. A relationship
where you give and he takes. Nothing romantic in
between.
He isn't being shy, hes keeping you on the string
for when he wants it again. Dump him and approach
your next relationship differently.
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someone else just answered my question, the one you answered as well, and they said you were wrong. haha thats why i was worried to ask for such important advice on this website because not all people know what theyre talking about. i trust that someone of your age knows better haha and i hope youre right. its just that, ive read that a sign of pregnancy was a short scant period. mine was actually normal. maybe slightly less heavy than usual but that can be effected by stress, and i think by the content of my question we know ive been under plenty of that! anyway, i was just checking, because i was hoping that someone older would answer. and you did, so thank you! haha (link)
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If it helps I am a EMT and have worked as a medical assistant. I also worked in an ER for 9 years. :)
I went in and edited the answer I gave you. I do
want to add that break through bleeding would really be more like spotting. Not much blood, and you would never even assume it was a period.
I looked all over the internet to see if I might be wrong. Nowhere did I find that you could have your period and be pregnant. The question was asked and the answer always no. The blood you loose while
having your period is the lining that holds the baby while you are pregnant. :)
They meant well I'm sure. Both of them were younger than you are. :)
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I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.
I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.
So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?
I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).
S_C
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I've been her for about 2 1/2 years. I found the site while messing around on bored.com early one
morning.
My first thought was... Yeah right, you can't do that.
I did though and was quickly addicted. :)
I really enjoy helping people when I can.
I probably don't answer as many questions
as I used to, I don't know a thing about
fashion and can't bring myself to give sex
instruction to you younger people. :)
But I answer when I think I might be able
to help.
I like to think I help make the upper level mods
seem not so unapproachable if you have a problem.
I have made some very good friends through this site.
Met some great people of all ages.
I guess I am old enough to be awed
by the fact that this little machine in my
living room makes it possible to help people
from places I never would have imagined
being able to communicate with. Amazing.
I will probably be around as long as I can be.
I enjoy it and the people here. :)
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i was just wondering how old you are..i know thats weird haha (link)
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50. Just turned 50 in June!
Very creepy because I don't
think of myself as 50 at all. :)
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