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Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?
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I`m the same way. Everyone just always tells me I`m a really sympathetic person or something, haha, so I guess that`s why. But trust me, there`s nothing wrong with it -- hey, at least you care about people. =]
Just tell yourself, "They`re no better than me. If they actually took the time to say that to me, they must be pretty desparate for some attention." & walk away or tell them off -- whichever you feel more comfortable doing. But whatever you do, don`t cry...that`s why they said that to you in the first place -- to make you cry.
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I know exactly how you feel. When i see people upset it makes me upset as well. I dont know why it just does. But when someone tells me off i just think of it as i need to be the bigger person. stand up for yourself. people tell other people off because they think that they wont say anything about it and will just be scared of them. I have had people tell me off and they do it because they think that i wont say anything back, but difference is i will. You just have to stand up for what you believe is right and you have to stick up for yourself. Dont let people push you around like you are some little kid. Another reason they may be telling you off, maybe they are jealous of you in some way. You never know. when people call you names, you cant let that bother you. Because chances are they are doing it because they know it will hurt you. And by hurting you they are getting a kick out of it. just be like whatever, you cant let words like that hurt you. Ive been through the same situation nad i guess im still learning how to just ignore them. But it has to be done.
if you need anymore help,
dont hesitate to ask :]
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I know how you feel. What you need to do is love who you are and have confidence! People you put people down have problems with themselves and that makes them insecure and thats why they act like that. First, you need to realize that it isnt true and you need to try not to let it bother you. You only need your own approval and dont need it from everyone else. Have a "whatever" attitude, dont let people rule you and tell you who you are.
Dont ever be afraid to stand up for yourself. Everyone has their own opinions. Take deep breaths or remove yourself from the sitautions when you start to feel upset. Good luck!
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Try to control your crying. Thats all you really need to do. Don't let them see you anyway.
You are dealing with 2 kinds of people. They are either bully's, and if they are just tell yourself
it doesn't matter what they think and ignore them.
They feed on making you upset. Just don't give them
the satisfaction.
If they aren't bully's then they are jealous or
threatened by you in some way. If that is the case just smile and go on. Don't let their insecurities get you down. Plus if you just smile and go on it will really make them mad.
So, just smile and go on about your business like you couldn't be bothered. :)
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Sounds like you have some confidence issues. Learn to love yourself: Dance around in your underwear in front of the mirror..just admire the things you like about yourself. That way when someone calls you ugly, even if you don't stand up to them, y ou know that they're wrong, and you can disagree with them. You know you're not a bitch because you're too nice to fight with anyone. And if you want to become tougher..listen to angry music, take a kickboxing class, and don't be afraid to get angry when someone tries to walk all over you. Hormones might also be what is making you so upset..If you get really moody around your period you might want to try a birth control pill that controls your hormones..even if you are abstinent, certain bc pills are geared toward making girls less moody.
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heres the best advice wel,, maybe not the best but it will work; just dont care about what other people say about you. If you show that you dont care, they'll see that it has no affect on you. Just be confident . And dont believe anything bad that people say about you. Just be confident and ignore. (:
i hope i helped!
-speakfreely
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These people are probably just jealous of you. Try to develop thicker skin.
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