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I can't stop loving you
So I really really like this girl, but she has me eating out of her hand. I can't stop, she's a master of manipulation. Or maybe I'm just nuts about her. Any thoughts that could help me out?
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One of three things is going to happen to you.
1) You will continue to fall head over heels for girls before they fall for you, and sometimes even when they dont. Girls like this will use you and discard you until you are bitter and so emotionally armored that you have difficulty with relationships for the rest of your life because of your deep seated inability to trust women you like.
2) You will be pushed past a point of anger with a girl and will focus all of negative emotions on her and completely blow up. You will be angry and distant with relationships, which ironically stands a chance of making you better with the ladies. Your ability to not give a shit the way you used to will attract women who want to "tame the beast".
3) You will become angry with yourself for letting people treat you like crap all the time. This will either result in suicide or serious self examination and positive changes to your demeanor and behavior.
Actually, you'll probably just keep making this mistake until youre like 25, and you'll either find a girl who treats you right by chance, or you'll end up with a domineering bitch who refuses to let go of her hold on you and you'll end up married either way.
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okay well its good if you know that she is taking advantage of you, so you could figure out a way to stop. Dont let her take advantage of you and walk all over you, Tell her that if this relationship is going to continue "we need a change. meaning no taking advantage of me. we will both treat each other equally," etc. and try not to be to available and dont look desperate or anything.
hope everything works out :]
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If you realize that you're eating out of the palm of her hand, she probably realizes this too. Use it to your advantage..stop being so "available" to her and she will definitely notice that someone who was always there for her isn't going to stick around and wait any longer..and maybe she'll realize that she wants you around.
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Advice? Nah. All you need is a swift kick in the ass.
The nice thing is, most munipulative people will take it too far, sooner or later, and provide you with that swift kick that you need.
Apparently she just hasn't really abused you yet. You seem to know that she will, so it's your choice: You can stick around and keep worshiping her until she finally takes it too far, offends you, abuses you, breaks your heart, betrays you or any combination of the above OR you can take a step back, not let it get that far.
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awww lol well i have a question to ask you before you i answer that, do you think being like whipped is a bad thing? because if you don't then it's no problem. but if you do, this is where i come in. you're going to have to distance yourself if you feel too obedient. i hope i helped, oh and PS... if one of your friends brought this topic up and you didnt realize it yourself, punch them in the face or something.
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