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met my guy early july. he lives in boston, i live 10 minutes away. i go there everyday and spend the day and night with him. we like eachother, without a doubt but agreed early on that we couldnt really "go out" because its illegal for us to date. it sucks because im truly crazy about him, and i never even like guys like this so im shocked. im very mature for my age and i think this is why.
he is moving back home tomorrow, an hour and a half away from me. i dont know what i am going to do. we want to still talk but we havent really figured anything dominant out. he says he would let me stay at his house (his familys home) on weekends but he doesnt know how is mom would feel about me being 17. im just kind of heart broken and its sad to say, but i wish i never had met him now because i dont know what im going to do when he leaves. i was thinking about if we stayed close this year, i could go to school near hm next year but i dont know if i should bring it up or not. any suggestions? thanks =(
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I don't know what state you live in, but the age of consent in most is 16, which would make you legal. :)
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He isn't moving so far away, you could still get in the occasional weekend visit. Separate rooms is better than not getting to see each other right?
Parents can sometimes be OK with visits if you follow their house rules. Even if he left early
Saturday morning and spend all day with you and returned home it would work. Plenty of time to hang out. :)
If there is a school near him that you'd like to attend next year, mention it. I'm sure he would be happy about it. If not, better to know now!
Good luck!
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just sit down and talk with him...find out what he wants and explain what you want...if you stay close until your 18 it becomes legal...no one can do anything...but it's really got to be a mutual decision. Don't just choose a school near him for him...choose a school that you want to go to...I know that he'll tell you the same thing...but they're your feelings and it's up to you to act on them.
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You should just talk to him about everything. 17 is only a year away from 18 & I believe that age should not be a huge issue, unless it's 10+ years or something. I'm in a long distance relationship myself & I can honestly say that everything works out fine. An hour and a half is definately not 10 minutes, but it really isn't bad. You could always stay at his house [if his mom is okay with it] or meet up half way to spend time together. You could talk on the phone/online in the meantime. Why don't you ask him to talk to his mom about it?? Age shouldn't be a huge issue, especially since you are almost an adult. Plus, it only becomes an issue when you become sexually involved, which if that is the case, you should discuss that with him. Just because you might not be as close distance wise, does not mean you have to lose the closeness in your relationship. Discuss the situation with him & see how he feels about it. Explain your feelings & what you want out of the relationship. You should definately bring it up.
-hope that helped!♥
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