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im in soo big of a pickle. ive been with my boyfriend for like 14 months. i love him alot and cant imagine being without him. were like peas and carrots ya kno but this is my first serious relationship [his second]. two weeks ago, i met this guy at school.. hes rlly sweet and funny and flirts with me sometimes and gives me butterflies every time he hugs me [which was 3 times today!] or smiles at me. im not sure if hes startin to like me or if thats just how he is. i dont know what to do. what if he does like me and asks me to hangout or go out or whatever? i dont wanna be like oh sry i have a boyfriend and ruin my chances. because i do like him. but at the same time i dont know what id do without my boyfriend. he just may be the one but i dont know since i havent dated a whole lot yanno? so its like i wanna give this other guy a chance without hurting my relationship now, even though i know that cant be done. if me and my boyfriend break up, we're done, he's said before he wouldnt take me back especially if its over another guy bc he doesnt wanna get hurt. and i understand that but at the same time its kinda not fair to me. i dont know, i guess im looking for something bc our relationship is kind of one-sided in the sense that i drive 13 miles like 2-3 a week to see him and drive us wherever we go [he has no car] and sometimes end up paying for the things we do bc "he has no money" even though he has a job. and if we dont do anything we just sit there at his house. and thats starting to get REALLY old REALLY fast. but even as im startin to like this new guy i cant imagine not having my boyfriend in my ife you know? ugh i dont know! any input? sorry for the length.
16/f 17/m
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Familiar situation to me lol.... Sometimes when you have been with someone for so long you want the chance to have some fun... afterall the grass is always greener on the other side or is it? But thats whats going through your mind at the moment! Your wondering whether or not you would be happier with this other guy. If you and your boyfriend have been together for so long then it sounds like you have a good thing and from past expirience I wouldnt recommed putting that at risk because futher down the line you could seriously regret it! If you find that you and him are getting into a boring rountine then suggest doing something different like going out for a meal, shopping, or just go to the cinema together... if you try doing different things together then it could help you get along better and stop you thinking of what you could have and instead be thankful for what you already do have! Good luck hun x x x
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i think that you're thinking maybe your relationship's getting a lil old... after all, 14 months is a long time. so, i think you should have just like a day of fun with your boyfriend..... come on, you've been with him forever.. you can't possibly end it with a guy that you "just" met.
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At your age you really should be seeing who all is out there. Locking into one guy isn't always wise.
I wouldn't want to tell you to break up with your current guy, but to be honest it sounds more like a good friend relationship. You are doing all the
work and he is taking advantage a little bit. If
you decide to stay with your current, you definitely need to discuss his need to act more like the boyfriend. It may take a break to get that through his head.
If you feel this other guy might be someone you'd
like to date, then break it off with the current
guy and give it a try. Regardless of what he says about you being done, if it is meant to be, it will be when the time is right.
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
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i just recently went threw the same thing. i would suggest to you if this guy is giving you butterflies when he hugs you and stuff then..you should give him a chance you saying your current boyfriend might be the "one" but if another guy is giving you butterflies then maybe you should think harder about it and maybe do what i did and brake up with your current boyfriend.. it does hurt a lot but if you have another guy there for you he can maybe help you get threw it, but dont just take random peoples advice do whatever your heart is telling you to do.
good luck, i hope everything works out fine.
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