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doing things with a guy....doesnt come easy
17/f
soo here's the deal...ive never had a boyfriend
and havent done like anything with a guy before
except madeout..and ive only done that with 2
guys and the last one was last year..
im always scared to do things with guys like
everyone thinks im soo gorgeous and they're always shocked when they heard ive never had a boyfriend or anything..but everytime a guy wants to makeout with me or something im always like no..or i'll try to avoid doing it because im scared im not going to be good at it..i mean a year..thats a long time!! and i'll be embarassed..and ive gotten asked or like i know guys have wanted to do stuff with me but its just that im scared..and there like the really hot guys and if im not good at doing something..i'll make a fool of myself! i just dont know what to do?! i feel like a prude..and i dont want to be ...im going into 12th grade..i think its kinda sad that ive only madeout with 2 guys..one going into 10th grade and one last yr..i never want to put my self in a situation that i think a guy is going to try to put a move on me either..like watching a movie or being alone with a guy...i mean i dont think im ugly but im not conceited..its just everyone thinks im pretty and is like WOW..cant believe you havent had a boyfriend or havent done much with a guy..its not that i dont want to..its that im scared! and im shy SOMETIMES..soo its like i dont wanna talk to the guy either and be like well i might be kinda bad..thats not like me!!
any ideas? thank you!
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listen its nothing to be ashamed of. if you dont want to do stuff and your kinda scared then maybe it isnt the right time i was the same way i had only kissed to boys up until i was 17 then finally things just slowly started to happen. and i dont mean sex...but i just wasnt as scared because i was very comfortable with the guy. im 17 now and know exactly where you are coming from. people used to say the same thing to me and couldnt believe i hadnt done anything with a guy. but its ok move at your own pace. dont worry about what other people and guys do...its all up to you. and i think it is a good thing. i mean your only 17. there is no need to rush things. i hope i helped. and if u have any more questions go ahead and ask ok. bye now.
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I'm a couple years younger than you, and can see where you're coming from. But listen, making out with a lot of guys and other similar things are definitely not the most important. I say, if you really like a guy, then go for it. Though that doesn't mean that you have to go into making out with him, or anything else that you aren't comfortable with or you just feel awkward doing.
Believe me, when you're ready and the time is right for you to do something with a guy -- you'll know it and things will work out. It comes in good time with a good guy, you'll know when it's right.
I think you need a confidence booster when it comes to talking to guys, etc. When it comes to talking to them, if you have confidence and are nice -- they'll more than likely like you. Even if it's just a friend, that's still a good thing. I would keep working on that, if I were you, and I'm sure everything will work out for you.
Good luck =)
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don't worry. so what if you haven't done anything so exclusive with a guy? maybe you're just not ready and you're being true to yourself, and people admire that. you can be one of those ppl that waits til they get married or something. just live your life. don't worry about the judgments and what you think they might say. hey, you're the pretty one xD
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Stop worrying about how many times you have made out. Its not very important, and it really isn't anyones business but yours. So next time the subject comes up among gossiping friends, just tell them you like to keep your private life to yourself.
Actually making out is not a big deal either.
You will learn as you go along. Most will come naturally to you. There is no need to look like
a big expert to a guy. Most will be quite happy
to teach you should you want to make out with them.
They will feel pretty important. It won't at all
be a turn-off or anything. Just the opposite.
There are a lot of guys there who will go to movies and things with you without turning
into an octopus. Take time to get to know them a little before you go out alone with them and
you will probably get a good idea of who to avoid
if you don't want to get into that kind of relationship right now. There is nothing at all
weird about that. Just because everyone else
wants to risk their future, doesn't mean you have to. There is no time requirement for making out.
So don't be embarrassed, scared or worried about making out. You won't make a fool of yourself. :)
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Just because you have only made out with two guys and you haven't had a boyfriend, doesn't make you a prude. And it's not that big of a deal really. It's normal to be nervous, but the only way to get over it, is when you do it. I am not saying you have to, but its okay, you will get through it. If you dont want to be in a situation that you feel is uncomfortable for you, then don't. When you feel ready, and get over your nerves, things will work out fine for you. Just don't think you have to make out with guys, or do other things, because it seems like other people are doing it. In reality, they probably really aren't. Though it may shock other people, you being pretty has nothing to do with this situation.
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