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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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I'm thinking about sex constantly I need a girl to have fun with please give me feedback don't be harsh.
Sometimes the unvarnished truth is harsh. If you are looking for lies and falsehoods stop reading.
Yes your horny, it is a fact of life for all teenagers. A trick mother nature plays on them when the enter puberty. I say a trick for you are far too young to be having sex, as in sexual intercourse with a girl.
I am very liberal about giving out information on sex. I belief the more you know the safer you are. Some of the fact involving sex at your age are:
1. Yes, you can get an erection and also impregnate a girl.
2. Some girls your age while looking like a women may not be able to accept a penis in their vagina. Certain chemical that allow the muscles of the vagina to stretch to accommodate a penis have yet to be released and would make intercourse painful if not impossible for her.
3. At your age the best way to relieve sexual tension is masturbation. You parents may have told you masturbation is dirty or sinful. They are not only wrong but hypercritical.
According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate and this includes mutual masturbation of which oral sex is part of. Mutual Masturbation is usually performed as foreplay prior to intercourse. It includes fingering,
Hand Jobs and oral sex. While most religions, including the Catholic church do not condone masturbation they do not condemn it either so it is not as sin.
4. Once a girl has said no to sex any continued pressure you place upon her to have sex with you is sexual harassment, which is unlawful. Your age will not protect you from being arrested if her or her parents place charges. Most recently I read about an underage boy being prosecuted in Northern, Virginia for sexually harassing a girl. He is facing prison time if he is allowed to be charged as an adult which the prosecutor is attempting to do.
5. Maturity: Biologically your body is more mature then you are. You may think you are ready for se and you have all the urges for sex. You are just not mature enough to deal with the possible outcomes of what can happen when having sexual intercourse.
Many parents try to scare their children from masturbating because they fear it will lead them to wanting the real thing. Maybe it will and maybe it will keep them sexually satisfied until they are old enough to handle the responsibilities of a sex life. This is my feeling and why I tell it like it is.
At 14 you are not longer a child. You are old enough to know right from wrong and sex at your age is wrong for the reasons I gave and more. Find a quiet comfortable place to masturbate, close and lock the door so you are not intruded upon. Then find some pictures or fantasize and work of the tension. If you share your bedroom with a sibling, you morning or evening shower is an alternative location.
I got a job interview for a patient access representative position at a hospital in two days. I'm a little nervous b/c I blow it on my last job interview. In the last one, I told them I was registering for college soon but swore that it won't interfere with the job. It's full time. I was going to take online classes. The agency that connect me w/ the company said they were hesitant about hiring me b/c I was in school. I felt like I should not have told them that. It was almost like they were shaming me for getting an education? I'm in debt and really need the job. Do I have to pick one over the other to get this next job?
The key to a good god interview is to answer only the questions asked of you. Do not volunteer any information or elaborate on a question.
One question almost all interviewers ask is for you to tell them about yourself. This is your opportunity to sell yourself to the interviewer. This does not mean you have to give away the store, you can hold back on some things like going to college online or at night. If you are asked the question then be truthful with your answer.
Another question many interviewers like to ask, one than I always followed up with is: Where do you see yourself in say 5 years. Now this is where you can tell them that you have PLANS to continue your education while working sometime in the future. You could add that you would like to see yourself in a management position with the hospital and would choose courses to help you obtain that goal. That would be an excellent answer. It is telling the interviewer you came with a plan for success to stay with them and grow with them. This is important when interviewing for entry level positions.
The short answer to your questions is; no you do not have to pick one over the other. You just need to learn how to deliver the information the interviewer is seeking. The secret to that is to not anticipate the questions. Listen to the question and answer only the question asked. This would include the open-ended question about telling him/her about yourself. This is like a first date it is okay to keep some mystery about yourself so no you do not have to say anything about family problems, going to school at night or even if you intend to keep a part-time job you might have.
Im 24 I was in an life or death accident and a couple of guys saved my life. I'm have contact with one of them and recently called me. He says ever sense that day he has feelings for me. Except I know he is about 6 years old and not to mention he is married. Is it possible this is true? Can it because of the accident? I'm not sure how to handle this appropriately.
That fact that he is married should say and tell you what is the appropriate way to handle this is. You tell him nicely that you are forever indeed to him for saving your life but you do not date or associate with married men.
If you want to see him and thank him formally for saving your life. Invite him, his wife and the other guys and their spouses or significant others who saved your life to a thank you party. This would not only be a proper thing to do but would be a nice thing to do if you can afford to do so and have recovered enough to do so.
Put yourself in his wife's shoes for a moment. How would you feel if you found out your husband was dating someone? Now how would you feel when she finds out? There is no good outcome to something like this.
Yes he saved your life and for that you may owe him something. That something certainly is not a date or a relationship that has him cheating on his wife with you.
I'm sorry if this is not the answer you're looking for. It is the best answer and the safest answer for both you and him.
Yesterday, I was accused for shoplifting. I was handcuffed, cussed at, and thrown against a wall causing bruising to my legs. They searched my bag against my permission. As I was “escorted” through the store I had a severe panic attack and tried to sit down because I couldn’t breathe they pulled me up and dragged me all the way to the back of the store while cussing at me and calling me rude names. Yes, admit, I stole a snickers bar, and I have a court date. If I mention these things could it get me out of legal trouble due to having my rights violated? Were my rights even violated?
You certainly were mistreated especially considering the value of the theft which is considered Petty Larceny. Which is why you were given a summons to appear and not booked into the jail.
As to whether your rights were violated; I really can't say. If you were arrested and abused in this manner by sworn police officers and not store security you have a case for police brutality against the police officers. If you were mistreated by store security you may have a civil suit against the store.
You need to speak with a lawyer to find out which type of claim you may have. Most lawyers will see you on a first visit to evaluate your case at no charge. If you have a viable case for which they believe there will be a monetary recovery they may take the case on a contingency basis. Which means they share in whatever they win for you. If they lose you owe them nothing.
Will filing an action against the store or police officers get you out of legal trouble? Maybe or maybe not. Not because your rights were violated but because the cost of defending the store or the officers against such action is more costly than the value of what you stole. In that regard the store or the prosecutor may drop the charges in return for you dropping you action against them.
Can you get pregnant from giving a man a blow-job?
There is only one way to get pregnant. A male has to put his penis in a females vagina and ejaculate sperm. Sperm entering a female in any other way cannot make her pregnant.
Hello guys, I have joined today to get a solution to my problem. I talk way too fast, so fast that m,y words don't come out clearly, i mumble when i get anxious,i panic when i hear about a presentation. I have managed to somehow give a few presentations but i have no idea whether the listeners understood anything or not. I am working in the marketing sector in a company. Please help me with your advices, suggestions. Please...
Wow, there was a time I could have written this letter. If sales were substituted for marketing I could have written this letter.
Slowing down how fast you talk is easy or it was for me it just took practice. Try reading out loud to someone or just to yourself if you need to. When you read out loud you should slow down as we generally read slower than we talk and reading out loud for most of us is even slower.
How to get over the panic is a bit harder. There are courses you can take such as the Dale Carnegie public speaking course. Also courses in public speaking are available at your local community college.
When I first started in sales I sold Life Insurance. They gave us a canned pitch to use which they drilled into us so we knew it front to back and back to front. The purpose of the canned pitch is confidence building in that you knew what you were selling.
Marketing includes sales as you are pitching a product. Knowing the product and what it does is an important part of marketing. You would not Market a potato peeler to the auto repair market, I know extreme but the only analogy I could come up with.
My advice is to first get to know the product before you start to market it. Talk to the designer, the inventor, the engineer whoever is involved in bringing the is product to life so that you know everything there is to know about it.
Once you know what it is you will know where to market it. When you know your product and what market it is best suited for presenting it to people in that market is not as stressful.
My product was Hand Tools for a specific part of the building trades. When I was with the wholesalers to those trades I didn't need canned presentations I could come up with a presentation on the spot.
It was when other tool companies started to invade or tried to invade my market and I fought back that I needed to design presentation to use in these new markets I was invading. For comfort and ease of presenting a canned presentation is what makes a presentation successful.
Besides having a canned presentation available and knowing the product that your marketing you need to learn to calm yourself. The best way I have found is to look around the room and find someone you can make eye contact with that does not appear threatening. I have never been in a room full of people where I could not find someone who I did not find threatening and I could make eye contact with. I would then make most of my presentation to that person. I say most because you have to let your eyes float around the room during a presentation.
Then there is the old tale about pretending that everyone in the room is naked except you. Don't laugh it works for some people.
i had unproteced sex for the first time in ages 5 days after my preiod had ended is there any way i can be pregnant?
Most women, 85%, are in there fertile time between the 5th and 21st days of their cycle. This is the time when they are most likely to eject an egg for fertilization. The other 15% of women can be fertile during any time of their cycle including when having their period. Knowing when you ovulate and eject an egg goes a long way in know when you are the most fertile.
Having unprotected sex and not being on any other form of birth control you would be on the edge of being fertile 5 days after your period. Your chances of getting pregnant would be low but possible. If that 5th day was yesterday you could still take the plan "B" pill as it has been none to be effective for up to 7 days after unprotected sex.
I'm 20 years old and I'm a virgin, usually when I'm with my bf I'm very wet and he'll finger me but as soon as I cum I'll instantly get dry or I can be wet and as soon as he tries to insert me I get dry can anyone explain to me why this happens or how I can fix it because he feels like I don't want to be with him
Dragonflymagic hit most of the high-lights of why you may dry up when your boyfriend tries to enter you though she missed the biggest one. Stress and fear.
The fear of the pain losing your virginity will cause you is a very real emotion which will dry you up like a desert. This is normal and after a few sexual intercourses using a good lube you probably will not need the lube any more. It is also possible that you may not feel any pain given your age and the fact that your boyfriend has been fingering you.
The biggest pain females feel when losing there virginity is mostly from the tearing of the Hymen. Given your age, the fact that your boyfriend fingers you and if you use Tampons you may have already destroyed your Hymen. The cause of pain is when the male penis is larger than an average vagina will accept and needs to stretch to accept. It is the stretching of the muscles that causes pain to a much lesser degree. How much pain is going to depend on his size, how relaxed you can be and how tender he can be while making that all important first insertion. You will expand to accommodate him if you can relax. Just remember what the vagina is designed to deliver into the world.
Dragonflymagic is also correct in that you and your boyfriend need to talk. Communication is important in everything we do and this includes our sex life. Since sex is a learned experience we need to talk to each other to explain our likes and dislikes. In order for you to relax and accommodate him besides adding over the counter lubrication. You need assurances that he will be gentle. You can't have these assurances or accept these assurances when he is on top of you. You need to talk about what you need to hear before you get in bed so that you are comfortable that he will be gentle.
Also sex needs to happen someplace you are comfortable. Someplace that is secure from intrusion and safe. All of this goes into your ability to relax the muscles needed to allow him to enter you, especially on the special first time.
I'm a 14 year old girl. I've stopped shaving, started wearing more masculine clothes. Thinking about cutting off my hair, etc. because I feel like a boy. I've always been a tomboy but now I want to be a full out boy, that's just how I feel. I think like a guy, act like one, I just don't want to be a girl anymore. I've been thinking about this for a while but I've been holding it in because my mom would accept it but my father would hate it. He'd probably yell at me and force me to stay a girl. But my main problem is I'm 14. I've hit puberty. B-cup boobs, hair down there, menstruation, etc. So I was wondering, is there anything I can do. Is there any like "breast removal surgery" so to speak. And how to I start transitioning and talk to my parents?
You have asked an interesting question one which has not been posed on this site or at least not one I have seen in the 5 years I have been answering questions.
Answering your last question first about surgery. There are surgeries to change your gender which would include breast removal and to change your vaginal and give you a penis. So that you could have an erection; while forming your penis the doctors would install a balloon you could inflate to give you an erection when needed. You would also have to take male hormones for the rest of your life.
That is the good news. The bad news is none of this can happen until you reach age 18 as no plastic surgeon will operate on anyone under the age of 18 as their bodies are still growing and changing. Some will even wait until the patient is 21 as puberty can last that long. Since gender transformation is permanent the patient must live as the opposite gender for a minimum of two years while undergoing psychiatric counseling.
Two psychiatrist must agree that transgender surgery is appropriate for a patient before a plastic surgeon anywhere will do the surgery. Then the surgery itself is very expensive. It is not covered by insurance and many who have this surgery travel to Canada or Bangkok where it is cheaper.
Why the wait, why the doctors and living as the other gender. There are many reasons but mostly to insure the doctors that this is what you want. For a man it means wearing dresses, makeup, using the women's bathroom. For a women it means wearing men's suits, using the men's bathroom, using bandages to flatten her chest, cutting her hair , no make up and no high heeled shoes or stockings.
For you at 14 this could be very hard as the kids in school are not going to be very accepting of you and could even get you hurt. Then there is also the chance that you are not truly a transgendered person but as you said a Tomboy who is not wanting to give up on that part of her life.
When my niece was your age my sister had her hands full with her. She did not want to give up her comfortable T-shirts for a training bra. She hated her period, probably still does. Kept her hair short all through school. Today she is married to a wonderful man she is very much in love with. Has a beautiful home and a wonderful toddler. She is today very much a girly girl. It was even money fifteen years ago that she would remain a tomboy or turnout something other than what she has become.
I told you that story because it is not unusual for a young teenage girl to resist becoming a women There are many reasons for it. It could be the female influences in there life are more masculine or it is just plain stubbornness and yes you could be transgendered. To find out you need professional advice and this is how you go about telling your parents.
You don't tell your parents your transgendered because the odds are they won't believe you. You ask for help. You ask to talk to a therapist, a psychologist because you are sexually confused. This has meaning to them and is something they can help with.
If your parents have health insurance through an employer the may also have an EAP program. Through the EAP program you can have a limited number of visits with a psychologist. If the psychologist agrees you are transgendered then the psychologist will help you tell your parents.
I would also like you to look at the following website: http://community.pflag.org/transgender. This is PFLAG which is a transgender organization. Through them you can find a support group in your local area who can also help you and support you and your family.
I know people are going to criticize and tell me I need to see a shrink. I honestly probably do need to. But it doesn't help me now in this moment.
I am only attracted to married men. Twice my age, gray hair, sexy as fuck in my opinion. I want to fuck their brains out, give them head until they cum down my throat, etc. I'm 21 years old, and a virgin.
So yeah, this probably makes no sense. How do I know what I want if I've never had experiences? I know. I get turned on and wet whenever I am around these men I speak of. One is my boss, the one I want to sleep with the most, and that is dangerous. But I can't help it. I want him. I want my friend's husband. I want any married man willing to call me a dirty little girl and fuck me.
WHAT CAN I DO????
I'm sick of sleepless nights because I'm lonely. I want a man next to me. But I hate guys my age; they're unreliable, poor, irresponsible, and ignorant. I want a MAN. I'm so depressed about this, I selfharm and I purge. I just...I need help?
A 21 year old virgin, a rarity these days but nothing to be ashamed of. While I by no means a psychologist or psychiatrist I think being a virgin plays into your fantasy of wanting older men. I agree with you guys your age are still clumsy and everything you said about them plus in bed they are still all about their own pleasure.
Now what I believe you want and I agree you deserve is; you want to be made love to. Not screwed, fucked or any other slang word you can up to for your first time. From my point of view this is what you deserve for remaining true to yourself for all this time.
The only thing wrong is how you wish, or feel you need to go about finding someone who will make love to you. Yes older married men are more practiced in the art of lovemaking, RED FLAG THEY ARE MARRIED & OFF LIMITS. If you were married you would not want some 21 year old going after your husband, would you.
There are older men who are not married, never been married maybe divorced or widowed. These men are just as practiced in the art of lovemaking as a married man and they are available with no restrictions on them. There is nothing wrong with a 21 year old girl dating an unmarried 31, 45 or 55 year old man if this is what she TRULY wants. The operative word here is UNMARRIED. There are plenty of unmarried older men out there and if this is your desire & I will support you 100%. For this you do not need any medical help or advice.
Now as to the self harm. This does require medical intervention, especially the purging. While the self harming is dangerous if you hit a vein, the purging is more dangerous for I'm sure you are not aware of the harm you are doing to yourself.
When you purge on a regular basis, this means any time you force yourself to vomit more than once, you upset the electrolyte balance in your body. The body is a machine which runs off of electrical energy of sorts and when you upset the balance of this energy you can cause a heart attack or kidney and liver failure. If these things are severe enough you die. To a lesser degree the acids in you stomach can erode your esophagus causing other problems to the point you may need a feeding tube.
Purging is very serious and is called Bulimia. People who suffer from Bulimia are called Bulimic and are suffering from an eating disorder. This is serious and needs the intervention of a psychiatrist and a psychologist. Sometimes hospitalization is required.
While I consider the first part of your question totally normal. The second part about self harm and purging concerns me lot. My advise is: Go ahead and date older men if you want to just not married men if you wish. Though I urge you to get professional help for the cutting and purging. This would start with a visit to your family doctor telling him or her about it. Then follow the doctors advice.
Well am a 15 year old boy with not much of a social life. When i get lonely which is most of the time, i tend to watch porn. Recently, i decided to try watching gay porn and i liked it very much. I even cum faster when i watch Gay Porn than when i watch Straight Porn. Could it mean that am gay?
Please help me.
No this does not mean you are gay. If you were gay you would have known this long before you ever reached puberty as being gay is how you are born. Watching gay porn and liking it does not suddenly make you gay or even bisexual.
You are 15 right in the middle of puberty with all these hormones floating in you. You are trying to figure out who you are sexually. Until you actually experience different types of sex you will not know who you are sexually.
It is not unreasonable or meant that you are gay if your first sexual experience is with a same sex partner. It happens for both boys and girls. Why, simple it is safer and it is part of the sexual exploration all teenagers go through; it is normal.
Scientists and doctors now have found that being gay is part of a persons DNA and is how they are born. It is not something the wake up one morning and decide to be. It may seem that way as for many they are forced to deny their sexuality from an early age when they realize hey are different than others.
As for being bisexual scientists are still not sure. It just may be possible that bisexuality is an acquired sexuality. Transgendered people face the same problem as gays. These are people of one gender born into the bodies of the other gender. Medical science can now correct this mistake for them.
I have taken the time to go through all this for it is important for you to understand the different sexualities. You are who you are born to be, porn watching won't change that. It is important to understand this for you don't want to stick a label on yourself, especially at your age and especially one that says you're gay.
Unfortunately gays and other sexualities are not fully acceptable in our society. If you were gay, which I do not believe you are, then you should be proud you are and live with the gay community. But to come out at 15 would be dangerous for you as well. So be careful about calling out your sexuality once you discover fully what it may be; but gay it is not.
I am a 25 year old female and I haven't been to a wedding since I was 13 years old and my cousin who is a preacher is getting married September 13th of this year and I don't have any idea what to wear .
This is wear being a man is easier dressing for dress occasions. He either wears a suit and tie, sports coat and slacks or tuxedo. Women have more choices to make and some inane dress code to meet.
Having grown up just outside of New York City and having spent many hours waiting for my dates to finish dressing. The appropriate dress was.
Afternoon Weddings at a catering hall: A Cocktail Dress, A good dress, Slacks, Blouse and Jacket with heels and a clutch purse.
Evening Wedding at a Catering Hall: Evening Gown, Cocktail Dress with clutch purse and heels.
Wedding at someone's home afternoon or evening: Dress Suit or Pants suit, clutch purse and shoes capable of walking on grass, dirt, gravel and cement in comfort. Cocktail dresses still appropriate but consider a bit much.
Since this is a member of the clergy's wedding something a bit understated would be appropriate.
I would suggest you ask your date what he plans to wear. If he plans to wear a suit then you wear a dress suit. If he plans to wear a sports coat and slacks then you dress accordingly.
I'm 11 year old female my sister is 4 year old female
OK, my dad verbally abuses me, my mom, my (autistic) brother, my sister especially, and my grandma. He even did it to her when SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER!!!! HE DIDN'T SHED A TEAR HE ONLY BITCHED ABOUT HOW SHE WAS SLEEPING SO MUCH AND HOW SHE IS BEING OVER DRAMATIC ABOUT HER PAIN SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER! CANCER! And even though she's been cured she's still tired from it and he says she doesn't want us. My mom knows but she just says that we have to deal with it. One day he took us to breakfast down the street and we were walking home my sister was running in flip flops so she fell and scrapped her leg, so he called her a fucking bastard so I told my grandma and I was crying and she helped me, but I still think about suicide a lot. My dad says he's nice because he takes us places and buys us stuff and he doesn't insult anybody. But he promised to be nicer and he did improve. But I still don't like or trust him. So one night my mom had to practice court reporting and my sister wanted to be with her but she couldn't. So my dad brought her in his bed and she started screaming. I was trying to go to sleep so I came in there to complain (I know,I know) anyway so he was kind of holding her down and I was gonna go get my phone and take pictures to see if he's doing anything bad, but I was already talking by the time so he stopped. A women accused false rape on him when I was 3, and even planted that thought in my head but we did a test on my private and she even admitted to lying. My grandad asked me if it was true and I told him no. I've been really stressed about this I don't know what to do
Mental abuse is hard to prove, physical abuse is a bit easier to prove.
There is a fine line between abuse and discipline. Dad is allowed to smack you but not on the face or head. Preferably a swift smack to your bottom if correction is needed, anywhere else is could be abuse. Sexual abuse is if dad touches you anywhere on your body without your permission and given your age you can't give permission except for first aid if needed. If dad was to spank you, and given your age if he was to take your panties down to spank you, that would not be discipline that would be sexual abuse because you are no longer a child. That is how fine the line is between the two.
Your 4 year old sister is too young to protect herself or to call the police. You on the other hand are old enough that if abused or suspect your sister is being abused that you can call the police. Simply pick up a phone and dial 911.
One suggestion if you do find the need to call the police or follow my next suggestion. When telling your reason why you suspect your dad of abuse leave out the curse words. You will be far more believable if you speak calmly and without cursing.
My other suggestion is for when you return to school. If you have no reason to call the police for any physical abuse. The mental abuse you speak of can be reported to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Once you tell them what you are suffering at home they are required to make a report to child services and the police if needed.
So you have two avenues to go to for protection. Just make sure in your mind that what you are about to accuse your dad of is true and not fantasy based on your dislike for your dad. For what you are accusing him of is very serious and can send him to prison.
I'm a 16 year old girl. So here I have a typical teenage story: I moved away from my home 7 months ago. Away from all of my friends, boyfriend, etc. I got depressed, started cutting (but I got help for the cutting, but I'm still pretty depressed). Everyone said to give it time, and I have, but I'm done. I have no friends here. I had a few, but they got tired of me. But when I had one left she lied to me and almost got me in trouble with three sets of parents and the cops (long story). I've always had trouble making friends but now it's ridiculous and I just want to go back to my old home but we can't due to my parents jobs. All I want right now is to for someone to hold me and say that it'll be okay. I can't visit them, we don't have the money and my old boyfriend who I stayed in a long distance relationship with after moving moved to Florida right after I left. He got a boyfriend (he's bisexual) and I kinda understand because long distance is hard. I'm bisexual as well and can't tell my parents but I'm not too concerned about that I guess. All I want is for someone to hold me and say that it'll be okay. But my parents are busy with work and the new house and siblings and I feel so alone. So tell me, does it get better as you get older, do friends not matter when you go off to college? What happens years from now when I'm an adult?
I wish I could reach through my computer screen and hold you and tell you things will get better and they will. The hardest part of moving is always going to be on the children. The older children suffer the most; as when you are in your teenage years in high school making friends is much harder. The kids in high school have for the most part been friends and classmates since grade school. The upside to this is high school friend rarely are friends for life.
Once graduation comes around you all have to make new friends when you go off to college. Initially your college friends will be from the freshman class as you all are in the same position. The other students have made their friends and may or may not be looking for or willing to make new friends. It is not right but this is the maturity level of the average teenager. This does not mean you have to be friendless for the next few years; you just have to go about making friends in a different manner.
What I'm about to suggest I have recommended many, many times and I've been told by many it works. It will work for you if you put an honest effort into it.
You look to find people, kids, with which you have a common interest other than school. Having a common interest is a conversation starter. When people communicate with each other they get to know one another and friendships grow from their. How do you do this? Follow what I have written below.
You sit down with pen and paper and write down all the activities that you like to do. Maybe you like to knit, cook, go hiking, garden or anything else that you enjoy doing. Then you could also include volunteer activities you may want to do and your churches youth group activities.
Once you have this list number them in order of interest from high to low. Take the top 4 or 5 and look to see what activities there are in or out of school that you can join.
Once you find a club or activity that you enjoy doing this gives you a common interest with others. This gives you something other than school work to talk to others about. Once you are talking they get to know you and you them. Before you know it you have made a friend.
We parents delude ourselves thinking children are more resilient than they are, especially older children. We tell ourselves we are moving for the good of the family and we will deal with whatever problems come up.
You say your parents can't afford to send you back to where you grew up for a visit and this may be true. What is not true is your parents not finding the money to make you well if you are suffering. Don't suffer in silence if you think you parents don't have the money to get you the help you need to feel better. As a parent I can tell you we have ways of finding money when our children's well being are at stake.
Part of my advice is to ask you to talk with your parents about how you are feeling. Let them help you feel better and get better. For if you feel better you will make friends easier.
I have these marks on my thighs. They're right where my private part is (Tmi, I know haha sorry). There's about 4 on my left thigh and 3 on my right. At first I thought they were stretch marks, but they're red/pink. They're not bruises or cuts, because they don't hurt. When I touch them, I just feel the mark where it's at. What is this? I'm starting to freak out a little bit. That's the only place where these marks are. Also, I'm a female if it matters.
I think its unanimous we all believe they are stretch marks. Most likely they are from the changes your body is going through as you go through puberty, lose your baby fat and redefine your body into that of a young lady. This would all be normal.
They could also be chafe marks from your underwear. Here again your body is changing and you may need to get better fitting panties. As you go through the day if your active you sweat and if your panties are tight at the leg hole you will chafe. This would leave marks as you describe. The fix for this would be a shopping trip for new panties. I would avoid panties with elastic around the leg hole and look for a pantie with a fixed opening.
As with the rest of the advisors I don't think this is anything serious and it has nothing to do with sex. Meaning if your concerned at all about this you can discuss it with mom as it is a non sexual problem.
What would you do?
My partner hid his diagnosis from me for 6 full months - actually he never told me, I found his medical report last month after becoming terribly suspicious that something was wrong, that I had been lied about something. Still don't know what to think about it and whether I want to continue the relationship or not. And while I truly do understand the fear of losing someone you love once the truth is out, I simply cannot grasp the fact that he did not insist on using condoms, this is simply beyond me. I tested negative last week but it is too early to know for sure. I don’t know what I would have done had he told me the truth at the beginning of our relationship or after a month or two, or ever, but I think what he did decide to do was the worst option possible.
He did tell me at the beginning of our relationship that he was a recovering heroin addict and my reaction, being completely out of that world, was maybe too harsh. Now he claims that this reaction kept him from telling me about HCV. In the last 20 days we've been through many discussions most of which end with his conclusion that I don't love him enough, that I don't understand what he's been through and so on. I must admit that I am quite confused about what I want and feel at the moment.
Thank you for your time.
My thoughts are to dump him. His attitude towards this disease is very caviler. HEP C is a very dangerous disease in which only 50 to 85 percent of those infected are cured. Many may need a liver transplant as the virus that causes HEP C infect mainly the liver.
When someone has a communicable disease such as Hepatitis, HIV/AIDS or STDS and is in a relationship with someone where bodily fluids are going to be exchanged the onus is on them not only to take the proper protection to protect their partner. They should tell their partner beforehand so that the partner can decide for him or herself if proper pretention is enough.
Your partner is making a non valid excuse for not telling you as there is no excuse for not telling you about him having HEP C. Your reaction to him being a recovering drug addict in no way excuses him from telling you about any other disease or illness he may have that could infect you and endanger your life. He is being manipulative. Hand him his walking papers and make sure to get checked again when it is appropriate to do so.
Until then and you have a clean bill of health form your doctor make sure to use a condom when having sex with a new partner. It is also on you to tell any new partner that you have been exposed to HEP C, that you have tested clean one time and have one more test to go before you are 100% out of the woods with this disease.
Maybe until you are in a long term life relationship you should adopt the position women of the 60's and 70's had. Back then the girls had a saying, "no rubber no lover." This was before the pill was available and popular. If a guy wanted sex he had to use a condom as it was the only form of birth control available. Today it still is a good form of birth control and it prevents the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
What's a clit
Sillyrob is being a bit silly in his answer. The woman's clit is the tissue from which a male penis would have been had the embryo been a male. It has many of the same nerve endings that a male penis has and does become erect during sexual excitement.
Below is a URL to a page that will explain more and has pictures detailing the female vagina.
http://www.sex-and-relationships.com/pages/LH/facts/womens-sexual-anatomy1.html
I have always had a fear of public speaking. Now coming monday I was informed that there will be a personality development seminar where around 45 to 50 people will be present. I am freaking out right now and am planning to bunk it. I would not have been this much bothered if all 45 of em were boys. There are going to be women as well. That is the main reason for me to chicken out. I have never had women friends as I only hang out with like 3 or 4 guys regularly. I usually bunk a class when someone asks me to take a seminar but right now I am feeling that being 23 its too silly to do that. On the other hand i can not imagine even entering a room with more than 20 people. Sometimes i cut myself as a punishment to the things I do but i do not feel like doing it right now. I am terribly confused. And also to carry around a face full of zits and the scars they leave, my confidence level has hit rock bottom. No offense but I honestly do not know whether I will listen or follow your advice. So its upto to you whether you want to waste your precious time responding to this. If you do, thanks in advance.
Public speaking can be a problem for many of us, especially if you see yourself like me as an introverted person. So what do I do, I go out and get a job in sales, no problem I'm good in one on one situations. In fact I was too good; I get promoted into group sales. Sure no problem; problem no one told me group sales requires presentations in front of groups of people. as many as 15 maybe more who are the CEO's and COB of the companies we are trying to do business with.
I've made my presentation, 1 on 1, to the Human Resource Director. He/She's on Board I'm 85% on my way to a big pay day a really big payday; I can't chicken out. I've heard there are some tricks you can use to help yourself get past this problem so I start to research what they are.
One of the tricks is to picture the audience in the nude. This won't work for me, I probably will start to get flustered or start to giggle. The other one I found and the one that works for me to this day is: To look around the room and find a pair of eyes that looks welcoming and interested. Then talk to that person as if you are in a 1 on 1 situation blocking out everyone else in the room.
To be a good speaker you have to allow your eyes to roam the room on occasion but you always come back to that person to who you feel comfortable talking to. This takes practice but I mastered it and I have made a darn good living selling and making presentations.
Visual aid usage also helps as you can take time to turn to the visual aid to explain your presentation. Most important though is knowledge of what you are presenting. The better you know your subject matter, the more comfortable you know your subject matter the easier it is to present no matter how much your knees may be knocking.
If you have a best friend who you can be sure you love, and is really a good person to you, and have been in a relationship with over a year, and then gets you pregnant but cheated before and during your first pregnancy, Do you think its worth and possible for that person to change and continue to try to work the relationship out as long as the male wants to?
I have been so confused, I feel like I am the only one going through this. My partner has always, always, been there for me. Always had respect for me and for my family. I always made him feel like he was the best person for me and our relationship was powerful and very bright. I gave him all the trust and benifit of the doubt a person deserves. But he abused it 100% because he was seeing someone else before I got pregnant and I found out during my pregnancy. He made everything fall apart. We were In the process of moving into a home together to make things easier when the baby gets here. He helps me financially but I have a strong grudge against him because he was with someone else who even lived close to me which I never heard about in my life. Social media is used so much now. He had many accounts to communicate with this other girl and would uninstall them from his phone every time we saw each other so he wouldn't recieve any notifications from her. And the girl was in my opinion very very naive for so long because he would only see her during the week after work (telling me he got home and slept because he was tired or went to the gym) and would only see her for maximum 3 hours. Never on weekends because he lied to her saying he worked ALL DAY, (I lived with him on weekends) so I would wake up and sleep next to him and spend all day with him. This other girl was someone on the side but he made her think he really cared about her just for the sex. But I don't know if he really did care for her and did not want to leave her. If that is so, does that mean he didn't love me?
Many things went down hill. He says he has lost all communication with her and has not tried to contact her at all. But he lied to me so much its honestly unbelievable now. He wants me and wants to have our baby together and live together and act as if none of this happened. I feel like it is selfish of him but I feel so confused and lost because I love this person but what he did was cruel. He didnt feel the need to stop, not even when we found out I was pregnant. I am due next month and I need advice but I can't ask any of my friends cause they take my side because they feel bad for me and my family also. His family might take his side so I can't ask them so much either. I think about this every night. I was my best for this person, changed a lot of my bad habits and I felt like I showed him how good life can be when your partner is your best friend. And I received it also, until I found out. The other girl told me she had no idea who I was until he started to act too suspicious. But I don't think I should believe her because she would go to his house, and when I told her to prove to me and tell me the address, she said she didn't remember the streets but that it was far. She also never had his real cell phone numbers. He ways used an app to text her, or would use snapchat, kik, or instagram. I had none of those besides a Facebook, so he blocked her from it. And I had no idea because I never felt the need to go through his things that deep.
We are all teenagers. Please don't think of me as just a little girl who needs to get over this. It feels horrible when people say that because I have been in many relationships and it doesn't mean I have slept with all those men. But I did comunicate a lot and really met people to see who would and would not be my type. Who its safe and unsafe to be around. Who is worth making an effort and who is not.. Etc. But I am not perfect. This is just very hard because a child is involved and someone I have yo spend the rest of my life knowing.
I am 19. He is 20. I hope I can revieve any type of advice. Please and thank you.
This is really one of those questions that is tough to answer. The reason being we are getting a one sided snapshot view of the problem and in this case being pregnant about to deliver ads another dimension to the problem.
The maternal instinct is forcing you to mature in a lot of ways you would not ordinarily be at given you present age. You have been forced to mature faster than you would have had you not become pregnant. You are carrying the baby he is not. It is quite possible when the baby arrives and he hold his child in his arms the maturity that you have been forced to rise to will take hole in him, especially if it is a girl. Daughters need a special kind of protection that only their dad can provide.
Right now he is not tied to you in anyway. Yes he made you pregnant. Yes he says he wants to be there for the baby. He knows he has an obligation to the child and he is to appoint doing what he is able out of obligation or to placate you; I can't say. If he is trying to placate you he is doing so to dodge the legal papers you can serve on him from the courts which will order him to pay his fair share. This could cut into his ability to have a good time. What you are calling cheating. Not being married he probably does not see it as cheating.
People can and do change but they have to want to change. You can not expect someone to change as you want them if you are forcing them too. What you really need to do is to protect you and the baby for the next 18 years for which he as the father is legally responsible to do.
Those responsibilities include, proper child support, health insurance for the child and a life insurance policy on his life to insure the child support is there in the event of his untimely death. How you go about seeing he provides these things is to see a Lawyer now before the baby is born so the legal paperwork is completed and ready to submit to the court for approval when the baby is born.
Doing this will also probably point to the answer you're looking for once he is served with the child support papers. Once the papers are filed , approved by the court and he is served. The court at any time can garnish his wages to insure you receive the child support approved by the court. This will happen only if he refuses to do so voluntarily.
How can i make my girlfriend make sex with me
You cannot make someone have sex with you. If you try to force someone to have sex with you that is called sexual harassment and that is illegal. One thing young people today need to learn is that sexual harassment is against the law. Even teenagers have been prosecuted for sexual harassment. Once someone, male or female, says "NO" to another person's sexual advances that is it, you or they must stop asking, begging or in any way trying to convince that person to have sex with you. If you don't you can end up in front of a judge and not necessarily a Juvenile Court Judge.
Don't believe me search the web. Just a couple a weeks ago two young boys, were tried as adults for sexually harassing a young girl. They were to be seniors this year, she to be or will be a sophomore. They are going to jail; first to a juvenile facility until they are 21 and then the remainder of their sentence of 20 years in an adult facility. The judge literally threw the book at these two boys to make an example of them. They will be almost 40 years old before they leave prison all because they thought their age made them untouchable.
Society is not as accepting today of young teenagers sexually harassing one another. Each town, county and state has there own idea of what type of sentence is needed to deal with this problem. The one thing they all have in common is they want it to be dealt with in a manor that sends a message to others.
So to answer your question: A girl/women will have sex with you when she feels you respect her and when she is ready. That you actually love her and not just lust for her. Harassing her to have sex could put you in jail.