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I'm 14 and I want to get laid
I'm thinking about sex constantly I need a girl to have fun with please give me feedback don't be harsh.
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Sometimes the unvarnished truth is harsh. If you are looking for lies and falsehoods stop reading.
Yes your horny, it is a fact of life for all teenagers. A trick mother nature plays on them when the enter puberty. I say a trick for you are far too young to be having sex, as in sexual intercourse with a girl.
I am very liberal about giving out information on sex. I belief the more you know the safer you are. Some of the fact involving sex at your age are:
1. Yes, you can get an erection and also impregnate a girl.
2. Some girls your age while looking like a women may not be able to accept a penis in their vagina. Certain chemical that allow the muscles of the vagina to stretch to accommodate a penis have yet to be released and would make intercourse painful if not impossible for her.
3. At your age the best way to relieve sexual tension is masturbation. You parents may have told you masturbation is dirty or sinful. They are not only wrong but hypercritical.
According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate and this includes mutual masturbation of which oral sex is part of. Mutual Masturbation is usually performed as foreplay prior to intercourse. It includes fingering,
Hand Jobs and oral sex. While most religions, including the Catholic church do not condone masturbation they do not condemn it either so it is not as sin.
4. Once a girl has said no to sex any continued pressure you place upon her to have sex with you is sexual harassment, which is unlawful. Your age will not protect you from being arrested if her or her parents place charges. Most recently I read about an underage boy being prosecuted in Northern, Virginia for sexually harassing a girl. He is facing prison time if he is allowed to be charged as an adult which the prosecutor is attempting to do.
5. Maturity: Biologically your body is more mature then you are. You may think you are ready for se and you have all the urges for sex. You are just not mature enough to deal with the possible outcomes of what can happen when having sexual intercourse.
Many parents try to scare their children from masturbating because they fear it will lead them to wanting the real thing. Maybe it will and maybe it will keep them sexually satisfied until they are old enough to handle the responsibilities of a sex life. This is my feeling and why I tell it like it is.
At 14 you are not longer a child. You are old enough to know right from wrong and sex at your age is wrong for the reasons I gave and more. Find a quiet comfortable place to masturbate, close and lock the door so you are not intruded upon. Then find some pictures or fantasize and work of the tension. If you share your bedroom with a sibling, you morning or evening shower is an alternative location.
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I'm a 14 year old girl and honestly, I think that all teenagers feel like that. I know I do. Just hormones and crap. You may think you're ready but you're not actually ready to go all the way until you're ready to deal with accidental pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and buying condoms. Masturabate and try it get yourself a blowjob for now.....
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Dont know what you consider to be harsh. If harsh to you is my speaking honestly and truthfully my opinion, then you won't want to take time to read my answer.
I will not sugar coat for you but give you some things to think about and consider. So first off I will state that under the right circumstances, I have no problem with teens having sex. At least you are writing in to ask so thats a good start.
It's not just boys but girls too who write in about being so horny all the time suddenly.
Thats a normal part of our development when puberty hits. Its a time our bodies begin to change because of the flood of hormones hitting us and thats where those urges come from.
One of the main problems I want you to realize is that boys and girls have different ways of handling those urges for the most part because of the different ways they view sex.
Would you say that as male, you see having a sex partner as a natural way to take care of a physiological need? Sure, makes sense.
Most females however see having sex as a natural outpouring of deep feelings between two people, the kind that come with love and commitment.
This will be true at any age, even older people.
I do know that there are girls who are different from the norm i just spelled out, but they are few. They initially just crave the sex and worry about a relationship later, just as there are a few guys who no matter how horny, want to find a girl they fall in love with first.
The love we have during teen years is not the kind that will last a lifetime but for the time that the teen couple w ere together was real/genuine.
When girls write in and say they are horny, non of them ever ask me how to find a gut to have sex with. Isn't that odd? No. They want to know how to get their hands on a vibrator or dildo to take care of their urges. They have the same strong sexual feelings guys have but take care of it through masturbation for a couple reasons....
one being, she has to worry about becoming pregnant, how does she get contraception, how does she stay safe from STD's.
and two being, her heart isn't interested in any guy deeply enough to want to share this with him yet.
A few smart ass guys think, hey...the girls want commitment and love so I will ask her to be my girlfriend, (thats the commitment part) and tell her I love her (even though I don't have any deep feelings for her) and she may trust the guy enough with her heart and feelings to go ahead and have sex, only to find he leaves her to go to the next experience, going to any girl who will give him sex. Or a guy tries to talk her into sex by telling her that she needs to prove her love to him by giving him sex. That is mental manipulation and an abusive way to treat someone. the female is so scared of losing what she thinks is the "commited loving guy who only wants her" so she gives in.
All these examples create a bad reputation for you that gets around quickly...because girls who are used by teen boys your age for sex, tricked by them, forced by them, lied to by them are all going to be hurt and warn others. Soon a guy who was getting sex under wrongful circumstances is not getting any at all cus the women are all avoiding him.
The best thing you can do, is to take care of your urges sexually by masturbation for now. And focus your attention on finding and dating a girl for the right reasons, because you want to find someone you are sexually attracted to whose company you enjoy even without sex, you love everything about her personality, and aren't afraid to let your feelings for her develop, and when that happens in you, she should be able to sense it too and if both have good communication together, then you both talk about whether you're both ready to have sex the first time together and actually plan it. That way you are able to be ready with birth control, both her on pill and you using condom to prevent STDs. This is the way to ensure having a long lasting girlfriend, because you treat girls well, and the side benefit is having a good sex partner.
You may be still young but its time you learned what works most successfully in the real world.
If you don't land a girl friend right away, don't worry. As long as you are sincere in how nicely you treat the ladies, they watch closely and will take notice and it won't be long before you are very popular with the girls and every one of them wants to be your girlfriend. dOnt make the mistake that just because they are so plentiful and interested, to drop the commitment to one only thing and indulge in sex with as many as you can get cus again that will backfire, you get branded as a user, and you end up the loser. It isn't worth it. So until you are ready to go the route I mentioned, dont look for a girl and masturbate instead.
Actually to be truthful, even if you do find a girlfriend who may become your sex partner as well, for young men, the urges are so great that they will still masturbate besides. And that is also normal.
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