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why when a girl acts out she's a slut, but if a guy does it, he's a stud
Miley Cyrus is naked on a wrecking ball,“OMG she must be a pig!" “what a SLUUUUUT!" Lady gaga and Nicki minaj dress like that,“eww, she must be, like, possessed!" “ugly illuminati ho!" But when Thicke makes a song singing about raping girls it is everywhere and populaur. Everyone loves it. When Taylor Loghtner is naked,“OMG he's so fucking hot!" “such a STUUUUUD" and raping girls is much worse than being naked on a WREEEEEEECCCCCKKKKIIIINNNGGG BAAAAAAAALLLLL. And Blurred Lines is annoying as Fuck. When Brittney Spears does...everything she did, people drove her to attempt suicide. When Justin Beiber cheats, drinks and drag races, eggs someone's house and spit on his neighbor, “he's going through a hard time" and his mom bailes him,“he's just a kid." Frankly I'd whip my brothers ass if he raped girls, and all the stuff JB did. I'd whip my sister's ass if she did the miley, Brittney and lady gaga and nicki minaj stuff. But why when a guy screws with 25 girls he's a stud, but if a girl screws with 1 guy, she's a slut.
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Although the ultimate origin of the word "slut" is unknown, it first appeared in Middle English in 1402 as slutte (AHD), with the meaning "a dirty, untidy, or slovenly woman". Even earlier, Geoffrey Chaucer used the word sluttish (c. 1386) to describe a slovenly man; however, later uses appear almost exclusively associated with women.
In its base origin the word "slut" was meant to describe "slovenly men or women." Over the centuries the word somehow came to be used to describe a sexually or morally lose women. This change of descriptive use came about in the early 1700's.
That is the origin of the word. I don't like the word and I don't use the word. Today with the emphasis on equality of the sexes and all the diseases out there. I do not believe anyone admires a male or a female of loose moral character. What we see is the media presentation of men and women which is to promote the male while trashing the female. This is the old double standard which has been around for ages.
Since you now know the origin of the word you could if you like educate others to the fact both males and females were the original definition of the words usage. Maybe if they know the correct usage the word will eventually disappear at least we can hope it will.
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See your point but be cautious about forming too strong a link between sexy and arousing images and rape. In reality most (male) rapists and violent sex offenders have strong underlying dislike or even hatred of women. The forced sexual act is more about humiliating the woman, about control and exerting his will over her. Not about finding her sexually attractive and wanting to have sex with her at all. The character-profile of most convicted rapists is not what you would think on the surface. I agree totally that music or any form of entertainment which promotes forced sexual acts against women, or makes the appear cool (or acceptable?) is totally wrong though. It is irresponsible, but whether it creates rapists is another matter. The text-book rapist wants to hurt and degrade women, using sex as a weapon, remember...Not a guy who thinks "Wow! She's hot and gorgeous!" And consider that attractive female stars putting out a strong, positive image of themselves (in control of their lives and their sexuality) can be a good thing. The sex offender likes to see women as victims, not confident and assertive like Lady Gaga, Miley Cyrus and co. If a young girl looks at Miley Cyrus and thinks "Hey...she's great looking, cool, in control...strong...I bet she wouldn't take any shit from some creepy guy" that's affirming a positive image for herself (even if the image is manufactured by the media). It can be something aspirational, something to admire...even if it's fake. Overall, I do not think seeing sexy images of female media stars or even rappers singing about skets and ho's and rape actually makes real-world rapists. They have something wrong and twisted in them and at a fare deeper level. But I do find any media that glaomourises the idea of rape very distasteful and puts out completely the wrong messages to impressionable young people, especially younger males. Though it will be no more than a harmless adolescent fantasy to the vast majority and soon grown out of.
ps...Justin Beiber does seem to have experienced some sort of genuine personality crisis and melt-down to me, as it seems to impacted badly on his image and career. But who knows? Could be all contrived and set-up by his management to keep people talking about him? Aplogies if it is genuine!! Best wishes, and keep it real my friend. X
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It this concept society has built around gender roles.
Boys: Have to be tough, mean, emotionless. Have a lot of sex and he will be manly and praised.
Girls: Emotional, Feminine ,delicate and suppose to take care of the men. Girls are suppose to not have a lot of sex. It is frowned upon and will be "slut shamed" if they do.
It's a double standard really and it's awful. Guys are "supposed" to be wild and free while girls are "supposed" to be reserved and mature.
It's always been that way.
The bottom line, Gender roles and double standards suck. They are completely unfair and shouldn't exist. But society has adopted them.
WE shouldn't let these concepts keep us from being who we want to be.
Hope this answered your question to some extent.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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