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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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hah this is gunna sound stupid
but i'm pretty sure i have abs..but one problem theres fat over them..what are something i can do to get ride of that fat and show my abs

15/f is that helps?

This magical new phenomenon called... exercise! Crunches, curl-ups, sit ups, whatever you call them, they work great! Plus walking/running/jogging/taking the stairs helps too. Just get moving!

And don't live on junk food. Eat a balanced diet, it'll help.

My ipod has been frozen all day now. I've had it since Christmas '04 and this has never happened to it before. It's stuck on a song, and I've tried EVERYTHING. I've tried resetting it, tried all thr buttons, tried plugging it in to my computer, tried charging. Yet its still stuck. Has this ever happened to anyone else before? What can I do?
BTW, it's an iPod mini if that helps. And I've never had problems with it prior to this.

Thanks for your help.

hmm.. when you reset it, did you just hold down menu and the center select button? Or did you connect it to the computer and use iPod updater/iTunes (you can reset from both programs now). That might be your problem right there.

If that doesn't help, try letting the battery die completely. This will take awhile (I'm assuning it doesn't play at all?) If it does play, just leave it playing- either play through all the songs alphabetically or on shuffle and frequently skip around; this kills the battery. And leave the backlight on constantly. If it's NOT playing, don't worry. I've heard keeping the HOLD button on for a long time kills the battery faster, so let it sit somewhere undisturbed for about.. a week? Then try resetting it and charge it up completely.

Make sure you remember what song it was.. the file may have become corrupted or something. I'd suggest re-importing all your music when you get your iPod working again

If you still need help, my screename is the same as my advicenators name. I have a mini as well and I'll try my best to help :)

Ok im trying to find i wanna fuck you ( or i wanna love you) by Akon on itunes and when i type it in it said your search has no matches and i know my friend has it on her ipod and i dont know what to type in! can you guys help me?
thanks!!

just try an artist search. The title's probably censored for the iTunes store (obviously) and it's possible that the working title is entirely different. If it's not there, listen to a couple previews and see if its under a different name.

And there's always MSN music and Rhapsody if iTunes doesn't have it :)

HEy i have Itunes now and my parents are saying its getting to expensive caus ei download like 10 songs a week....so i was thinking of dowloading Bearshare.. can any1 give me like a reviw of it and tell me if its good or not... does it give me viruses??Does it slow your computer down? Just like any information on it and is it like worth even dowloading it?

Well the guy who fixes my computer, he did an experiment with Bearshare. He took two laptops, installed Bearshare on one of them, and ran them both. Within half an hour, the one with Bearshare had oodles of viruses, spyware, and trojans. So because of this, I don't recommend Bearshare. Actually, I don't recommend any P2P programs, because they're illegal (for music, anyways). However, the most reliable is Limewire, since many people actaully use it for legal purposes. I dont wanna promote illegal activity here, so just be careful with what you do.

Might I suggest webjay.org, myspace music, purevolume, and borrowing friends' CD collections/buying CDs on sale? It's legal, and you can find some reallly good stuff this way too. :)

I like this guy a lot and I have for a long time. And he FINALLY likes me and everythings going good, but I just found out he has herpes and herpes is skin to skin and he has it on his mouth. Im scared.
I dont want to get it but I dont wanna not get my chance with the guy i've liked. and ahh i dont know what to do? hellp!?

Is it really worth getting herpes from this guy? Make sure before you make any decision, though, that he actaully HAS herpes and it's not just a rumor.. you know? If he actually has it... I personally would stay away from this guy. But it's up to you. My personal opinion is, it's a bad idea. But hey, its your life and I'm not gonna tell you what to do.

sometimes when i wake up in the morning it hurts to like open my mouth. i don't know if i like clench my jaw in my sleep or something, or lay too hard on one side but it hurts lol. anyone know what i can do to prevent this? thanksss.

It's possible that you grind your teeth or, like you said, clench your jaw in your sleep. Or you could just sleep the wrong way and pinch a nerve.. but the odds of that happening a lot are pretty slim.

Best idea? Ask your dentist at your next checkup. If it's causing significant pain you should get it checked out right away, but it sounds like nothing to worry about, but asking a dentist or doctor will reassure you. Your jaw can get sore, just like any other joint on your body. So it's probably no big deal :)

15/M Is it normal for a 15 year old guy to never have had a girlfriend? I have plenty of chances; I'm not desperate or anything. Girls say that I am cute or hot, and I talk to girls regularly. But I don't think that I am ready to have a girlfriend yet because I still act very immature, and I don't think that girls like that. I look phyically mature, but I'm not really emotionally mature. I mean, I don't act like that when I'm with them. Of course I want a girlfriend, but I know that I am not ready for it. But back to my question, is it normal for a 15 year old boy to never have had a girlfriend?

Sure, it's normal, just not very common these days because most guys will date anyone and have no standards. Guys like you are hard to come by nowadays, and you'll make a great boyfriend when you think you're ready :)

If there's a certain girl you like and have your eye on, it wouldn't hurt anything to go out with her and see how it goes, but only if you want to. Don't rush into relationships; it sucks in the long run. I've seen it happen, and it gets ugly.

this is from the girl who asked about how to get in shape that you answered, i said i wasnt allowed to use the treadmill and in your advice you asked why. (thanks for the advice it sounds helpful and i plan on starting that soon and also ask to use the treadmill) ive asked a couple of times to use the treadmill however my mom always says i dont need to use it. Thanks for the tips though.

hey no problem :)

and as long as you dont get obsessive-compulsive about exercising and like, stop eating normally, exercising can only improve your health. It'll tone and strengthen your muscles and such.

how to you adjust the margins on mircosoft word? for some reason when i open up a document it goes to a default margin of over an inch and i need it to be exactly one inch...how do i fix this? thanks

Under "Page Setup" there's a margins part where you can change them to whatever you need.

Ok, everyone at my school is saying bipolar and i have no clue what it is! Can some one tell me? Cuz lyk is it a problem or something? Tell me plz. Thankz!

It means that your moods change spontaneously. Almost like there's two people inside of you at once.

You'll be happy one minute, and wanting to rip someone's head off the next.

Only a doctor can really diagnose you though.

I wasn't sure whether to put this under "Parenting" or "Sex" but seeing as how this category seems to be more popular, I put it under here to get as many possible responses.

Hi, i'm 15/female and i'm a little worried about a possible pregnancy. Any help at all would be greatly appreciated, but i'm asking you nicely, please do not judge or critisize me. If I am pregnant, which I have a strong feeling in my heart that I am, i'm going to take care of the baby with the help of my boyfriend, friends, and parents. All of whom are very supportive of all decisions I have and will make in the future. I still don't know how i'm going to tell them, but i'll found that out later on. I'm feeling very bittersweet about this whole episode, but I have decided i'm keeping the baby if I happen to be. What I need to know is if you guys think i'm pregnant as well?

I've been on birth control (ortho cyclen) for a little over 6 months now. I've had no problems other than the occasional missed pill that so far i've always taken the next day. My period has been a little of schedule here lately, sometimes it comes a day or two late, but I always experience light spotting on the days I don't start. I've recently been in the hospital do to a urinary tract infection and my doctor prescribed me amoxicillin. My boyfriend of a little over a year now are sexually active, and we have been for about 7 or 8 months now. I just recently quit taking my antibiotic, and I noticed as I was throwing the pill bottle out (my mom always gives me my medicine in the morning, so I never really looked at the bottle) that there was a warning saying "This medication may decrease the effectiveness of birth control. Use a backup method" I mentioned this to my boyfriend and we both freaked out; We don't use any other method because i've been on birth control since we've started having sex. And yes, he does ejaculate inside of me, everytime. To make matter even worse, while I was on my antibiotic, I missed a pill and didn't retake it. [I dropped it one morning while taking my other medication (zoloft, claritin) and couldn't find it. I still haven't]. Dumb on my part, I never told my boyfriend this. I was afraid he would become upset with me. And in case you were wondering, I don't plan on telling him. We did some research and discovered that the medicine I was on only decreased the effectiveness by a small amount. I'm still very worried though, because of the missed pill. It's way to late to use any emergency contraception, so if I am pregnant, i'm going to have to deal. I absolutely will not terminate the pregnancy! I am 100% against that. My boyfriend obviously doesn't want to have a baby. He asked me if I would get an abortion if I was pregnant. When I said no, he became upset but dropped the subject entirely. We haven't talked about it since. My period is now 3 days late, and I am pretty sure it's not due to stress. I'm perfectly ok with the possible pregnancy. I'm a little upset as to how mine and my boyfriend's family will take it, but other than that i'm fine. I've had some mild cramping, but no other symptoms or signs of pregnancy. I still haven't taken a pregnancy test, if I don't start in a week, I plan on asking my boyfriend to get me one. We'll take it from there. But basically, i'm just looking for advice.

You probably missed your period because you were sick, AND on antibiotics. Both of those will surely mess things up, and since you've been on birth control for awhile it's almost certain that your cycle is off from what it used to be.

My best advice would be to wait a couple more days, then get a pregnancy test.

best of luck, hope everything turns out okay :)

I'm not anorexic or anything and definatly dont plan on it. I'm skinny and rather underweight even though I eat more junk food. So here is what I want to know. What are some very good healthy meals? I also want to get more in shape, so what are some good excersizes? We have a treadmill but I'm only 13 and I'm not allowed to use it. Any tips?

Why aren't you allowed to use the treadmill? I'd ask your parents to reconsider it (arguments could be: I'll let you show me how you want me to use it, I'll be using one in highschool and I don't want to look like an idiot; I really want to exercise, etc)

I wouldn't recommend eating junk food to gain weight.. you're giving your body stuff it doesn't like. Eat a few hundred extra calories a day and CONTINUE TO EXERCISE!!! If you're dangerously underweight (and stay that way even after eating healthy food in moderate portions) you may have a thyroid condition.. but that's unlikely.

hope I helped :)

this is math related, but it's not a homework question.

Okay, there's a simple rule that states anything to the zero power is 1. for example:

9 to the 0 power=1

why is that?? i understand how you get a 0 power, but why is it 1?? just curious.

thanks!!

You know about subtracting powers? Like to simplify 5 to the fifth over five to the thrid, you subtract, and get 5 to the second, right?

Now let's say you have five to the fifth over five to the fifth. Anything over itself is one, and if you subtract the exponents, you get 5 to the 0 power, which is 1!

hope I didn't confuse you more =P

do those from wet to dry strighteners work where you can strighten your hair wet or dry. or do they make your hair frizzy after it dries when you straighten it wet??

My friend and I both have the Remington Wet2Style and they work really well. The great thing about these straighteners is that your hair doesn't have to be 100% dry to use it.. it won't damage your hair as much.

But if you straighten your hair when it's dripping wet, right out of the shower, it makes your hair really messy and it sticks flat to your head. It works best if you brush out your hair first (or a comb, whatever works better for your hair) and put something in your hair that'll protect it. Any straghtening creme and an anti-frizz serum will work fine.

if i really want to be able to do some crazy skateboard tricks, should i try or waituntil i feel ready to try anything extreme?

Go for it and try them! Just don't do anything absoutely crazy and make sure you're confident on the board. Practice makes perfect! :)

Okay right now I am 17 in high school. And I would like to become a news anchor where should I start. I mean I make the announcements for my school sometimes and it feels good doing it. I also was thinking when I do get to college that I should goto a community college and then transfer to a university do you think I should do that.

I'd suggest talking to your counselor about what kind of college is best for you.
A journalism major would definitely be an advantage to you.

As for where to start? Keep doing the announcements. Also, does your school/town have their own TV station? You could work on that, and build up your confidence on camera.

Lots of charisma and good hairstyles won't hurt either. :]

hope I helped!

15/f. where is the correct place to spray perfume? like if i buy a perfume that doesn't have a big spray to spray all over...where is the best place to spray it? neck? behind the ears? wrist? i've heard many things.

thanks!

I usually spray it on pulse points (wrists, a dab behind the ears, and one spray on my neck/collarbone.

Depending on how strong the perfume is, you can also spray it in the air in front of you, and walk through it.
That way, the scent gets trapped in your clothes and hair and it'll last longer; Especially in your hair.. you know how hair always seems to hold onto gross smells like fast food? Perfume will hang around too! So spray a little at the back of your neck to refresh the scent

Remember, don't overdo it! It'll be overpowering.

:]
hope I helped.

i wanna do my hair like how miley cyrus has it sometimes and amanda bynes had it in what i like about you. i couldnt find a picture for amanda's but heres one like mileys:
http://www.celebopedia.com/miley-cyrus/images/miley-cyrus.jpg
anyone know how to do this?? thanksssss!

It depends on your natural hair.
My best idea is hairgel, curlers, curling irons of different sizes, and a heck of a lot of patience.

Here's some sites that'll help:
-http://beauty.about.com/cs/curlyhair/ht/GoCurl.htm?terms=curl+your%20hair
-http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylingtools/ht/curlingirontips.htm
-http://beauty.about.com/cs/hairstylingtools/qt/placerollers.htm

Well i am 17 and i like this boy chris as well who is seventeen. we are both juniors at the same school and were introduced this summer. my cousin who is 19, hangs out with his brother and i am usually with them weekends or close to every two weekends. so i know his brother very good. his brother matthew is really nice/goodlooking and always hits on me but chris is not very goodlooking or " cool" which i do not care about but i think he is very shy around me and i honestly do not know whether he likes me or not. one day i was waiting out side of school and he asked me if i needed a ride home, and i didnt. one day i called my friend brendon to see where the party was and he said he couldnt get me, so i called chris and he came right over to get me supirsingly. he never IMs me online, i always IM him and i dont know if i should because what if he doesnt want to talk to me? i always ask why we dont hangout and he just says lol or "i love you laurrryn" what can i do because maybe he just doesnt know if im serious or just playing around. what can i say thats not telling him i like him? thanksss

Well first off, guys are really stupid when it comes to stuff like this. It's not helping any that he's really shy, either.

You're probably going to have to come right out and say that you like him. Or, you could continue to drop hints, and try to do things together (movies, hanging out after school, etc). But its' going to take him a long time to figure it out.

Or you could ask your cousin to find out who he likes & see if he likes you.

This is starting to sound like elementary school. But it could work, I guess.

best of luck!

(Fourteen; Female)
I've been dealing with mild acne since age 11. I get blackheads on my nose and small pimples (not whiteheads, just bumps) all over my forhead and chin.

With the level of stress rising in school, I now get more and more pimples spreading to my cheeks, temples, neck, chest, arms, and back. Just a few here and there, but rapidly increasing.

Also, cystic pimples are popping up alot.

I've tried everything from Clean&Clear to AcneFree. ProActive is not choice right now due to money. A dermatolgist cannot happen either.

Does anyone have any sort of mirical worker?

1. Neutrogena Oil-Free Acne Wash. It's amber-colored and comes in a pump bottle. If you have VERY dry skin i'd suggest the cream form, otherwise the regular one is good. It washes away excess oil and prevents shinyness, but doesn't make your face peel (unless you're allergic to salicylic acid). Plus it doesn't smell like crap :D
You can get it for around five dollars at Wal-Mart, and the CVS or Wal-Mart store brand works fine too.

2. Clean and Clear Advantage Spot Treatment. This stuff will set you back around seven or eight dollars, but it's well worth it. It's a very effective spot treatment and doesn't make your face peel like benzoyl peroxide will. One tube lasts a long time, so you really get your money's worth here.

3. Maybelline Dream Matte Mousse. I get it on sale, or at Target and Walmart. It's around five dollars and is the best foundation I've tried. It doesn't clog pores (make sure you wash it off at night though!) and covers VERY naturally.

4. I'm assuming you still have a ragular doctor? Ask him to prescribe you an antibiotic such as doxycycline or cephalexen. With my parents' insurance, it's under $10 a month for twice-daily dosage and it works VERY well.

hope I helped, & best of luck! :]

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