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After coming off the pill, it can take a few months for your cycle to get back to its natural state, which means it may be a few months before you convcieve after coming off the pill. The should not be any longer-lasting effects on your fertility - you will not be wiping out your chance of having children by taking birth control.

If you want to wait a year until you have children, then it is best to use protection. Plotting your cycle is difficult and requires intricate knowledge of your cycle. You've said you've got very regular periods so maybe this would be something you could do comparatively easyily, but I am cautious to advise it - it comes down to how much you want to wait until you start a familiy. If it's what you'd prefer but you wouldn't mind getting pregnant sooner, than try the monitoring your cycle. If however you are certain you want to wait, it's better to use more reliable methods of contraception such as the pill or condoms. You've said your fiancee is Catholic, so I don't know if you don't want to use condoms for this reason, but if he has no object, this, or another barrier method like the diaphram might seem like the best option for the first year just for the peace of mind that you aren't using artificial hormones.

Talk to a gyno about going on the pill, and what the long term effects on fertility are. I am sure they are minimal, but a qualified doctor will be able to give you a more reassuring answer and be able to give you more concrete figures about how long you can expect it to take to concieve after stopping the pill, which you can use to make a fully informed choice which is the best for you and your new family.

To quote your own question, you "really do" like him, but also "kinda dont". Given that you obviously have mixed feelings, it's best not to lead him on - it will only lead to hurt and akwardness. Sort out how you feel before you progress with anything. If you decide you do in fact like him then great, give him a chance - but I think that time and self-reflection is the only way to get to that point.

There could be different explanations for his behaviour. He may be unsure if you are ready to go further, and want to wait until you are, he could be nervous about what to do, or he could be having second thoughts about whether he is actually ready himself - there is a big difference between talking about things with a friend and actually doing them.

Guessing games aren't healthy in a relationship. If you want to know what's holding him back, talk to him. If he needs to be reassured that you are ready and want to go further, then a simple conversation can do this. If he is just nervous about what to do and what you would like, you can reassure him and guide him on what you would like, and if he's unsure about whether he wants to go further, you can discuss that and together make a decesion. Knowing what's going on and talking about things is healthy. It might be embarassing to bring it up if you aren't used to talking about sexual things with your boyfriend, but it needs to be done.

As for hair - it's your body, you decide what you want to do with it. Your decesion should be based on what you want, not what you think your boyfriend will want. If you want to see what it's like being hairless, then try it, but you shouldn't be doing things to your body just because of what you think your boyfriend would like.

I know it's hard to feel different from everyone else because you are tall, but you are within normal range, as girls often mature earlier than boys and hit their adult height when they are still young (I have the opposite height problem to you, but I haven't grown since I was about 12 or 13). There are no short pills - you just have to get used to the fact that you are tall, and learn to love it. Having older men approach you when you aren't comfortable with that can knock your confidence, but try to stay confident and hold your head high. People who feel they are too tall often end up standing badly and having bad postures, but you want to avoid doing this, as being tall really is very attractive, and you don't want to hide it by slouching.

How you wear your hair can effect quite dramatically how old you look. I found I looked younger when I had shorter hair, but it depends on your face-shape, so ask your hairdressers about getting a cut that stops you looking too old. Having a fringe (bangs) also makes you look younger, as do styles like pigtails or a messy bun. Clothing wise, it's a matter of things to avoid rather than things to go for - just avoid the kind of clothes designed to make teenagers look like grown ups with slogans etc. If guy's approach you, be assertive in telling them to back off, and if they bug you, just tell them that you are too young and aren't interested. Good luck.

It sounds like you could be using too much conditioner for your hair type. You shouldn't be conditioning your hair everyday unless you have hair that gets really really tangled, as too much condition will make your hair prone to getting greasy. Try reducing the amount you use - smooth it on to the ends of your hair and rinse it thoroughly relatively quickly - don't wait the full 2 minutes. If you have thick hair it can be quite difficult to rinse everything out, so make sure you are careful to get it all out, as if anything's left on your hair then it will get greasier more quickly.

Others have said don't condition your hair every day, but you might find your hair feels dry if you do this. Try a deep-conditioning treatment once a week as an alternative to using a regular after-shampoo conditioner every time you wash your hair, as this will keep your hair in a nice condition without leading to so much product build up, which makes your hair greasy. Switching products occasionally is a good idea too, as this helps get rid of build up - I believe you can also buy special shampoos to get rid of build-up, but switching brands will probably do the trick just as well.

It's somewhat rare, but men can actually orgasm without ejaculating. This may have happened to you, and this would explain why there was nothing in the condom. There is also the possibility the condom wasn't actually empty, there was just only a little amount that you didn't see - sometimes you just don't produce that much.

It would be unlikely for your girlfriend to be pregnant providing you were wearing a condom throughout intercourse. It is more likely that your girlfriend's period is late because of stress, diet or just hormonal fluxtuation. However, there is always a very small chance of pregnancy even with a condom and even if you don't orgasm, as precum contains semen and condoms are not 100% effective. I stress that this is extremely unlikely given your scenario, but if your girlfriend hasn't had her period in a few weeks, she should take a pregnancy test. For now though, try not to worry, as stress often causes periods to be late.

The only way to know with any accuracy is by taking a pregnancy test. A late or missed period is not a guarantee you are pregnant, as stress, eating habbits and just being young can cause irregularities in your cycles and things like feeling increasingly hormonal or getting cravings may not kick in for a while into a pregnancy and can also be explained by normal hormonal fluxtuations. The only way to know is to get a test. It's good that you've decided to be responsible and go on to the Pill (although it's advisable to use an additional method of contraception on top of this, such as condoms, which also protect against STDs) but you really need to have a pregnancy test first and find out for sure if you are or aren't pregnant, as if you are pregnant, going on the pill now would be a bad idea.

The 1920s saw change in fashion after WWI - dressees were very low waisted, and hemlines rose. Short hair (and often hats) on women was also extremely fashionable, but this was made up for with very feminine outfits, with floaty skirts of varying length and sequins.

Me telling you this however does not count as research for a project. You need to look these things up yourself and find some good citable sources. It's also much easier to describe things having actually looked at drawings. Have you tried google? I googled '1920s fashion' and the first site was http://www.rambova.com/fashion/fash4.html, which looks to be very informative.

It's not hard. There is a huge wealth of information on the internet and in your local library (there's a list of useful books on the subject here - http://www.fashion-era.com/online/online_library_8.htm which you could look for in the library), and it really doesn't take any effort at all to perform a web search, or even an imagine search at google for a large number of results. Good luck with your project.

It all boils down to the individual circumstances of your relationship. You should never give up something that is important to you without some serious consideration, but you may find after having weighed up all options, it's better to leave things now. What are the grounds for your family's dissapproval? Is it something that might change with time if they got to know him better, or are your family never going to approve of him? If things might change, stick things out for a while and try to help your family see through whatever prejudices they have. Bring your boyfriend home and make them talk to each other, even if things are akward and difficult at first, and, with time, they'll hopefully begin to see the good side of him. If, on the otherhand, they are never going to get along because their beliefs are just too incompatible, then you have to weigh up whether the relationship is worth possibly alienating your family over.

The answer may not be immediately clear. If you don't know right away, keep the relationship going so that you can find out how serious you are about this person, but take things slowly and be subtle so as to not aggravate your family. If it's a serious relationship, talk to your immediate family members seriously about what's happening and the choices you make and how important it is for you to be accepted and have your decesions regarding your love-life respected. If it's not too serious yet but you think the relationship has potential, save the talk until a later date when you are certain and your family has had more time to get used to the idea.

All the best.

You can talk to your friend about, but, to be honest, it's her choice how she lives her life, and if she wants to be preppy, dress in a certain way and act like she's more sexually experienced than she actually is, then thats her prerogative. If you really can't stand the way she behaves and she won't listen to reason, then maybe you just aren't compatible as friends. But honestly, I think this could be worked out by you talking to her how different she is, and how you don't like that she presents such a fake image of herself. She probably doesn't realise how much she turns up that side of her when she's out partying, and you being honest and frank might bring her down to earth a bit. It isn't an easy conversation to have, but it's better than the two of you just growing apart because you can't talk any more. Best of luck.

You need to relax. Putting tampons in is difficult at first, which makes most people tense up as they get frustrated, which makes it next to impossible to put in, as all your muscles down below are tensed. They key is honestly to relax, take deep breaths, and if it isn't happening, try again in a few minutes rather than straight away. Also, smaller tampons designed for a lighter flow are easier to insert, as they are slimmer. Even if you have a heavy flow and these aren't that suitable for you it's easier if you get used to light absorbency tampons first, and, once you've got the hang of that, move up in sizes until you find the right absorbency for your flow. Good luck, and have a great holiday.

Mono / glandular fever is viral and not just spread through kissing. You could have caught the virus even if you haven't kissed any one recently. So mono is a possibility, and if you haven't recovered in a few days, have general malaise and tiredness definitely speak to your doctor and mention that it's been going around, so s/he can do appropriate tests.

I would definitely drink water rather than gingerale if your stomach is still feeling sensitive. Take small sips often, as it's important to get lots of fluids when you are ill, but taking big gulps can make you want to gag. As for food, see how you feel. If you are still feeling sick in an hour or two, have a slice of toast and see how that goes down. If that's okay, try a sandwich a few hours after that, but if you throw up after toast it's better to stick to just fluids until your feeling a bit better and can hold things down.

As for brothers and sisters - well, try to arrive coughing all over them or hugging them loads, but you can't really stop them coming into contact with the virus if you are under the same roof. Don't worry too much about passing it on to your siblings, as exposure to germs and viruses is good for their immune systems and makes them healthier and more resitant to bugs in the future.

Feel better soon!

You can put rollers in wet (well, towell-dried so to remove excess moisture) hair and then sleep in them or dry your hair, but if you are using heat (either a curling iron or hot rollers) then your hair must be dry when you start.

You can get special straigteners designed for straigtening your hair when its wet (Remington do some called 'Wet2Straight'), so there may be a curling tong that can work on wet hair, but I've not heard of one, and unless the ones you have specifically state that they work on wet hair, assume they don't.

This is a difficult position to be in, but you need to start from where you are now. What is done is done, and you can't change that your mother adopted this boy and he is now part of the family.

I don't think it's a good idea to cut contact with your mother. You've said yourself that you feel that your children deserve love, time and attention from her. If you sever contact, you deprive your children of this should your mother eventually come round and want to spend more time with them. What you need to do to improve the relationship between your mother and your children is to push at it and work for things to improve. Don't let your own issues and anger about your mother stop your children from contacting her, and her from contacting them. Phone her, chat to her briefly, then pass the phone to the boys. Invite her and her family around for dinner. Once your mother feels that you have accepted her new lifestyle, which includes this boy, she will find it easier to talk to you and her grandsons.

Tell your mother how important it is for you that you that she has a good relationship with your children. Be clear that you do want her in their lives. She may well be distant because you didn't speak for a considerable amount of time, and suspects that you don't want her involved in the boys lives. If you make it clear to her that you do, that you think having a loving and involved grandparent can be a wonderful unique relationship that you'd love your children to benefit from, she may well make more effort. Reinforce this message that you want her to spend time with your children by consistant behaviour - invite her around to spend time with the children at your house, and send her family pictures to put up in her house.

I am sure that your mother would like to be involved in your childrens lives, but doesn't know how given how things have deteriorated since she adopted Charlie. With encouragement however, she should realise how much you do want her involved and will slowly become more involved. It won't be an instant process, but your two families can become closer, and she can be both a mother to her own son and a grandmother to your children. All the best.

It's perfectly possible to eat a full and balanced diet as a vegeratrian, and maintain a healthy weight. It is however possible to have a bad vegetarian diet, as meat is most non-vegetarians source of protein, and if you just stop eating meat without adjusting your diet and making sure you catch up the protein elsewhere, you can end up not getting all the food groups you need and feeling ill and lethargic and/or loosing weight.

So no, being vegetarian will certainly not make you anorexic, but nonetheless it is important to watch your diet quiet carefully if you become a vegetarian, and make sure you are getting everything you need. It may be worth taking vitamins and cod liver oil to supplement your diet, as vegetarian diets can lack these and be boosted by supplements. If you are concerned about getting enough, talk to a dietician about how you can eat sensibly as a vegetarian. Good luck.

Everyone is slightly different when it comes to working and revising, so you have to find a method of working and a working environment that helps you to study well.

It's always good to clear yourself a space so you can see and reach any notes you need easily. If your work-space is cluttered, you'll end up being distracted as having to search for information under piles of paper stops the flow of what your doing, and it's much easier to keep going once you've started.

You've said that you find things to distract yourself. If you do this before you've even started to work (as I have a tendency to do!), set yourself a reasonable time at which you are going to start, and stick to it. Set your things out, then give yourself five minutes to faff around or make yourself a drink but once this time is over, settle down to work. Allow yourself those five minutes of procrastination, as allowing yourself a little indulgence will make you more relaxed when you do start, which will mean you actually work for longer before your mind starts wandering again.

Some people would advise you to set yourself a task, such as reading and making notes on a chapter, and not stopping until that task is finished. If this works for you, then great, but if you get bored quickly it can be really difficult to force yourself to slug your way to the end, and it's probably less than productive. Instead, take a short five-minute break when you mind wandering too much - stretch, listen to the radio, or delve into a magazine for a few minutes, and then go back. Your brain will feel more awake and ready to tackle the task, and, at the end of the day, as well as feeling like you've had a few minutes of break throughout the day, you'll actually finish quicker and feeling fresher than you would have otherwise.

Generally speaking, if you broke up, you broke up for a reason. Are there good reasons for imagining things will be different this time around, or is this wishful thinking on your part?

I think most of us would admit to having been tempted by exes at least once, and it honestly can work well as a break up can make you realise how much you really want to be with a person, and what your mistakes were in your previous attempt. Only you can really know if this is how your relationship will work, or whether you'll just fall into the same bad habbits.

Be honest with yourself. Do you think getting to know him a bit better as a friend since you've broken up has really changed things? Would you actually behave differently? Would he? Be absolutely honest with yourself. If you think you just hadn't realised how good things were when you were together, and now that your closer and understand each other better then things would be different, then go for it. But if when you reflect back you think that you'd revert to your old roles and end up not seeing each other very much and feeling bored, then it's best to let things lie. Good luck with making the decesion.

Wear the long dress that you love. You'll feel more comfortable in something that's different but suits you then something you don't like so much but is similar to what other people are doing.

I wouldn't worry about being over-dressed. If it's a formal you won't be the only one in something long, and even the people in shorter things will be quite dressed up. It's also true that it's better to be over-dressed than under-dressed - you'd feel more uncomfortable if you went with a shorter dress and then found it wasn't fomal enough.

The question should be there if you click on 'Last Year'. Are you sure you are logged in to the same account you posted the question on? If you asked the question when you weren't logged in, or if you have multiple usernames and can't remember which one you were on when you asked the question, then your going to have trouble finding it.

You could try searching for your question - http://www.advicenators.com/qsearch.php by searching for keywords. However, given that it's a reasonably old question, it's probably going to involve some digging.

The best way to get things to change is to start off the changes yourself. If you don't like the fact that he doesn't have any pictures of you in his house, why not give him a picture of you and your siblings in a nice little frame as a gift, and tell him that you noticed he didn't have anything of you in the house. He'll probably appreciate such a gesture.

I am not trying to shift the blame from your father on to you by any means - it does sound from your question that he's treated you unfairly - but it is true that if you want things to change, you need to start changing yourself, because otherwise you'll be waiting a while. Ignoring him isn't going to improve your relationship and mean he suddenly becomes super-caring, it'll just leave him feeling even further disconnected from your life. Instead of calling him less, why not call him more? If he speaks to you more and knows more about you and what you like and what you do, he's less likely to make ignorant comments about your job and more likely to understand what kind of things you want for Christmas and birthdays. When your birthday is approaching, bring up the subject with him and talk about things other people are getting you and things you like, so he has a sense of what's appropriate. A parent who's far away can often feel disconnected and overwhelmed by birthdays and Christmas and have no idea what to get their children because they feel they don't know them that well. If you remedy by talking and making an effort with each other, you may well find you get something you are happier with.

Whatever you do though, always keep trying. Father's can be incredibly frustrating, but you want to keep having a relationship with him. Before you think about ignoring him or seeing him less, imagine a future where you weren't in contact. Any relationship, even one where you aren't on the best of terms, is better than no contact at all. All the best.