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Too old for birth control?
Too old for birth control?
Ok I must be the luckiest person on the face of the planet. I have been sexually active since I was 16 and haven't had anything horrible happen to me. I have been tested for AIDS on two occasions and have come back clean (teenagers can just be stupid sometimes you just pray it wasn't the wrong time).
I have abstained from sex for a year and a half. My period is very regular, but it is really heavy. It has always been that way. I am 30 ish and will be married next year. I have never been on the pill or any birth control other than condoms. My boyfriend is catholic (and I will be soon), and although he says its up to me, I wonder why do I bother with birth control now? Granted I want to be married at least one to two years before we have children, but the clock is ticking. I am very torn on this because everything seems to be in "working" order, but what if taking birth control wipes out any chance I ever had of having a child? And is anyone trying to use the temperature method to decide if its a good day to have sex? I know it isn't 100%, but I can't imagine just going haphazardly into this.
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Going on the pill would be your best chance to make sure you don't get pregnant for the first year or two. But if you don't like the idea of going on the pill, you should discuss it with your husband and see if he would be okay with using condoms. Most men don't like to use condoms once they get married. I don't think birth control would mess up your chance of having a baby, but since you are 30 ish, I wouldn't wait too long.
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After coming off the pill, it can take a few months for your cycle to get back to its natural state, which means it may be a few months before you convcieve after coming off the pill. The should not be any longer-lasting effects on your fertility - you will not be wiping out your chance of having children by taking birth control.
If you want to wait a year until you have children, then it is best to use protection. Plotting your cycle is difficult and requires intricate knowledge of your cycle. You've said you've got very regular periods so maybe this would be something you could do comparatively easyily, but I am cautious to advise it - it comes down to how much you want to wait until you start a familiy. If it's what you'd prefer but you wouldn't mind getting pregnant sooner, than try the monitoring your cycle. If however you are certain you want to wait, it's better to use more reliable methods of contraception such as the pill or condoms. You've said your fiancee is Catholic, so I don't know if you don't want to use condoms for this reason, but if he has no object, this, or another barrier method like the diaphram might seem like the best option for the first year just for the peace of mind that you aren't using artificial hormones.
Talk to a gyno about going on the pill, and what the long term effects on fertility are. I am sure they are minimal, but a qualified doctor will be able to give you a more reassuring answer and be able to give you more concrete figures about how long you can expect it to take to concieve after stopping the pill, which you can use to make a fully informed choice which is the best for you and your new family.
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Well in my eyes i think that no body is too old for birth control. and well if you want to have kids then you should. but if you want to have sex then you should use birth control if you dont want to have children.
Good Luck!
signed:ToddsBff
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You are not too old...most women under 50 don't have any trouble with birth control pills. If you need to talk to your OB/GYN about risks.
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