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My Eye Is Swollen. And The Bone Is Hurtin Under My Eye. I Don't No WHat Could Be Wrong I Havnt Got Hit In The Face Or Anything But IT Hurts I Can't Hardly See And It Hurts For Me To Touch My Eye Or Eyebrow..What Could Be Wrong?.. (link)
When something like this happens, see a doctor! Don't mess around reading advice and diangoses made by 15 year old girls on the internet.


I probably just figured out every girls dreaded nightmare. I'm pregnant now. Im only 16... my family is abusive. My town is no place to be raising a baby. There is no one I can go to .... only my boyfriend cares. He really does. He isn't the hit and run type. He's going to drive me away... we'll have to get a place to live... he's saved up some money. I have NO choice but to leave... but can anyone just tell me some things I need to know to raise the baby right? (link)
Visit plannedparenthood.com they can get you all the information you need. Just give the baby love. That is what is most important.


I am having constant headaches. Basically every day I need to take medicine. I usually take 2 excederin a day. I am 14 and I have been having these headaches for a month or 2. My period has just ended and I'm still getting them. I get stressed easily, and I listen to music regularly. I get them during the end of school and at night. If i tell my parents I want to go to the doctor they will probably just say I'm fine. Should I be seeing a doctor? Is this normal? What should I do? Thank you so very much. (link)
From what you say I don't believe they are migranes. You should see a doctor. They can diagnose the medication you may need to recover. Stop taking excedrin everyday! You are building up an immunity to it, so it doesn't work as well any more.


ok im 16. i have been w/ my b/f for bout a year n a month. and i just found out im pregnant 6 weeks. i love him very much but my family really doesnt aprove of him or want him in my life! now that they know im pregnant they want to stop seein my b/f becuz they think he is not father figure becuz my b/f isnt really that good guy he drug deals and used to be in gang and used drugs but has sober for about 8 and a half months. i dont know what to do help do i stay with his family and him n leave mine his family loves me sooo much they were always there for me. help. i dont know what to do!!!! HELp
het back to me! (link)
I don't believe he is a good father figure either, but it isn't a good idea to keep a baby away from its father if the father wants to be a part of the babies life.
Because I don't know you two and your parents do, I would trust them. They know what ius best for you.


Just recently, my family purchased a computer mouse that was the laser optical type.


I've only used the rolling ball type, so this is all new to me.


But every 5-7 minutes or so, my arrow on the screen with jump toards the side bottoms. Is this normal for this type of mouse? If not, what can i do to stop the skipping around. I'm not even pressing remotely in the way it randomly jumps. (link)
THis is normal...just make sure you only have one finger on the mouse. I had one of those, but I got rid of it because it got too annoying.


Ok well this may sound very dumb but here it goes . . . In P.E. we're doing swimming. Today I drowned during the class they were obviously able to resusatate me. I'm embarassed to go in school on monday. The girls in my school are very catty and news spreads fast at my school. I don't remember much of it. All I remember is trying to do a back dive into the pool and all of the water being pushed out of my lungs and trying to breathe next thing I know I'm laying o the hard floor with my class mates staring over me and the lifeguard. It was horrible and terrifying. How should I deal with the girls at school? Is it true that I could get Peunomia (sp?).
Thanks very much! (link)
Well, last year I passed out in science class. I don't remeber actually fainting, but I do remeber waking up and seeing the whole class staring down at me, *EMBARASSING!* but I just went along with my life as normal. And sure, people talked about it a lot for aboiut a week, but no on eremembers anymmore. They really will forget about it soon enough, and if they don't they have too much free time.

Yes you could get pneumonia, but it isn't very likely!


How is the best way to get a tan? Sun or tanning salon. I need one bad after this winter I am so pale. Any ideas? (link)
Both are dangerous and can cause cancer...so a bottled tan is the safest, but I think sun tanning looks the best.


I currently live in London and may be moving to either Philadelphia in America or Melbourne in Australia. Iv'e been to Melbourne before but don't know what it would be like living there. What the would be schools like, e.c.t.
Iv'e never been to America and have no idea what its like there. Could anyone who lives in Philadelphia tell me what its like? Also, I'm really fit and thin at the moment, but Iv'e heard that in America its hard to get hold of healthy foods. I don't like this whole bribe thing, but I will rate high for any good answers. (link)
I used to live in Philadelphia, and I loved it. It is probably the best city to move to in the USA because it is so historical. You have to see all the monuments and museums like the Liberty Bell, Independence Hall, and the Franklin Institute.

There is a lot to do in Pennsylvania. I was born in Pittsburgh (on the other side of the state). Hershey Park is in the middle of the state and it is awesome.

America rocks!!! Finding healthy foods is no problem, either. I have been to London a few times and the food is just the same(but we call chips french fries, and crisps are called chips etc.)

My dads best friend is from Melbourne and I might be going down there this summer. It is a very nice place to live and you will enjoy it.

I currently live outside of Dallas, Texas and I love it here too. Write me if you need any help with PA!!


Okay Im friends with this girl, but not that close. I found out from sombody that she cuts herself and gets abused by her dad. I dont know if i believe this but for a fact she scratches her arm and makes it bleed and seems very proud ( with her nails ). Also her dad is strict with her, with school work and all... but a lot of parents are? Is this a bad sign? Any suggestions? thanks (link)
Confront an adult you trust and explain that you are not sure but that you are worried, Ifyou feel up to it talk to your friend. The adult can handle this the right way.


What do you do when you someone tells you the guy you like will never ike you should you give up?

Signed
Should I give up? (link)
Tell them they are wrong and prove it! You can do anything you set your mind too. If you really like this guy drop him hints. NEVER GIVE UP!!!


How do I get my school stuff oranized? (link)
I have a 3 ring binder for each class. I put EVERYTHING for the year in there. At the end of the year I Put them in folders and store them for reference. Everyl thing is color coded according to class. Also write down due dates on a calander in each binder


hi i have a 3 yearold daughter but latly she been out of control she dont listen she is very bossy she wont potty train she hits throws things around gets into everything what can i do to help with all of this everyone is getting mad cuz she is not potty trained yet ive tryed pottys and the adult toliet but nothing works ive tryed soap and spankings and took her toys away but nothing is working can someone help me

liz (link)
To potty train ask her what sh ewants most. That new dancing Barbie? Okay then get her one and put it up high where she can see it, but not reach it let her have 10 minutes of "Barbie time" if she uses the potty, or if she uses it all the time for a week give her the barbie permanently.
Hitting and throwing is a phase use time outs and she will eventually stop.
When I didn;t stop my mom would take every toy I would ever play with into a garbage bag and put it where I couldn't get to it I had to prove that I Diserved the toys and I usually got them back within 2 days. It works!
And whatever you do stay firm and strong no matter how much she cries.


First, let me preface this by saying that this is going to a bit long and that I'm not highly religious. I always believed that if you lived your life morally and right, God or the cosmos or what have you, would reward you in a way. You would be able to affect people's lives by the way that you live.

So I've lived my life well- I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, engage in pre-marital sex, am always kind, and work hard helping others, however, I'm losing my faith that its all meaningful. It seems to me that people in general are becoming too superficial. There is no more great search for knowledge and truth and TRUE beuty. People don't trust people anymore- always thinking the worst ulterior motive, even when there is none. I feel like I'm fighting a dying battle to keep a little bit of innocence and purity. Am I just being naive thinking that if I keep living my life the way I am, will "reward" me in the end? Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I the only one who thinks that we're not progressing but rather giving in to our most carnal urges? I'm losing faith and I know eventually all the people I help will feel it by the way I treat them. Your input would be appreciated. (link)
I am not super religious either, and I believe that if you "lived your life morally and right, God or the cosmos or what have you, would reward you in a way" too. I don't go to church or try to memorize Bible verses. But I have people in my life that are too strong to be true, and I look at them as my angels.

My second dog, Sparkey, is the first angel I met. He was housebroken in one day and he never (in his whole life) bit anyone. He died last Valentines day from lung and heart cancer. He was seven years old and he had been sick for 2 months before we knew he had cancer. The vet thought he had a serious case of pneumonia that would soon pass. He never showed signs of pain or discomfort.

I babysit for a little boy named Liam, he is my 2nd angel. He is 3 years old and has had 4 near death expiriances. He has been in the hospital on Christmas, Easter, and Halloween. This kid would nevre hurt a fly. When I am babysitting him he will curl up next to me while I read to his baby sister and try to get his 2 older brothers to calm down.

My 3rd angel is my friend Rebekah. She is one of those girls in the "IN" crowd. The in crowd isn't always the nicest groups of people, and they all stick close together to keep from getting stabbed in the back. Not Rebekah! If one opf her friends is doing something wrong she will confront them if they refuse to stop she wll walk away. She had a brain malfunction this summer. She was a skinny little gymnast, but now she needs to take steriods and she has gained a tremendous amount of weight.

My final angel is my new cousin Katie. She was born with a heart defect called tetrology of fallot. The day she was born she had a minor heart surgery that we hoped would keep her alive until she was old enough to handle a bigger surgery. When she turned 6 months she went into a major surgery that lasted for hours. Now she is 1 and she is doing fine. All she has left is a small scar on her chest.

All of these angels pushed themselves to do their best and not complain even though it is not fair that they hve to go through this.

Find the angel in your life and let them inspire you, even if they are 13 years younger or not even human.


heyy, omg i am really gud frends with my frend...and well she has everything i have ever wanted..like shes so hot, has no pimples, darklong thinck eyelashes...and well nice hair...all the guys i like fall 4 her, she says she likes them after i do FIRST! then wen they ask her out, she says NO!! and i have told her 2 stop flirting with my crush but she does it even more...how do i stop the crazyness?!! (link)
Try not confideing your crushes in her for a while. She will start to back off...also don't let her know how great you think she is...she will get overconfident. You can still be friends as long as you don't give her the oppourtunity to steal your guy.


Too old for birth control?

Ok I must be the luckiest person on the face of the planet. I have been sexually active since I was 16 and haven't had anything horrible happen to me. I have been tested for AIDS on two occasions and have come back clean (teenagers can just be stupid sometimes you just pray it wasn't the wrong time).
I have abstained from sex for a year and a half. My period is very regular, but it is really heavy. It has always been that way. I am 30 ish and will be married next year. I have never been on the pill or any birth control other than condoms. My boyfriend is catholic (and I will be soon), and although he says its up to me, I wonder why do I bother with birth control now? Granted I want to be married at least one to two years before we have children, but the clock is ticking. I am very torn on this because everything seems to be in "working" order, but what if taking birth control wipes out any chance I ever had of having a child? And is anyone trying to use the temperature method to decide if its a good day to have sex? I know it isn't 100%, but I can't imagine just going haphazardly into this.
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You are not too old...most women under 50 don't have any trouble with birth control pills. If you need to talk to your OB/GYN about risks.


isit true that girls that dont grow up with any type of male figure in their life wil often cling to a possible male figure that pays alittle attention to them ?
srry if it doesnt make sence.. (link)
It depands who the girls is...in most cases yes, but in some cases it's the opposite...hope that helps

~Cheryl:)


okay my best guy friend and my best girl friend are going out...i really wish them luck..but i cant help but feel jealous...i keep telling myself that i dont like the guy.but every time i see him i melt..the girl invites me to the movies with them but i dont think i could take it..watching them hold hands..is there anything i can do about it..or should i just sit back and watch them go out to the movies and crap right in front of me...i promise ill rate high and i really need help...(13 female) (link)
I have the same problem...Just talk to the one you feel closest to about this problem...odds are that they'll understand and try to keep the PDA's to a minimum when their with you...if they don't, then just take a break from going out with both of them together...It really helps!:)




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