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should i stay or should i go?
ok im 16. i have been w/ my b/f for bout a year n a month. and i just found out im pregnant 6 weeks. i love him very much but my family really doesnt aprove of him or want him in my life! now that they know im pregnant they want to stop seein my b/f becuz they think he is not father figure becuz my b/f isnt really that good guy he drug deals and used to be in gang and used drugs but has sober for about 8 and a half months. i dont know what to do help do i stay with his family and him n leave mine his family loves me sooo much they were always there for me. help. i dont know what to do!!!! HELp
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I don't believe he is a good father figure either, but it isn't a good idea to keep a baby away from its father if the father wants to be a part of the babies life.
Because I don't know you two and your parents do, I would trust them. They know what ius best for you.
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Want to know what I think...I think you should stay with him your family needs to saport you in your disstions if they can't then you have to saport your self and if yu love him there no way to brake true love. I think you should go with it. and if they think that he's not a father type then just show them what he is made of. he can and you can do it.hoped I help please rate me and ask me for any advise visit my collom to see what I look like.
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well you said you love him but r you sure you really love him? if so dont listen to your parents or anybody else cause its your choice do you want your baby growing up without his or her father. everyone needs a dad in their life. and plus he got you pregnant so he deserves to be there and help with it. It's not fair that you would have to raise it all by urself he needs to help. hope i helped if you have anymore questions just ask!!!!
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Dont let your baby have to live without his/her father. Just trust me. Its important to have both parents in your lives and it can screw a kid up without them .
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You cannot leave your boyfriend and survive with a child. It is not possible at your age, unless your parents are going to support the child.
My suggestion to you is to leave your boyfriend and get an abortion while there is still time. You don't want to go and mess up your life because of a mistake.
Or, have the child, and give it up for adoption, if you are pro-life.
Either way, I think you should leave your boyfriend, as he'll only cause you trouble.
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You really need to start thinking about the baby. I think your parents are right in this case. Until your boyfriend can clean up his act he would not be a good father. The types of people he hangs around with are probably not the kinds of people you want around your baby. It would put its life in danger and possibly get it removed from your care. Not a good thing. Until he can show you and leave no doubt in your mind that he has changed...go. Sorry, its not the answer I would have liked to give you but it is the best answer in this case. Best of luck to you and your baby. :)
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Okay hello, look you 16 and now have a big part of your life coming your way and thats a little baby girl or a baby boy and what you really need to do is call your boyfriend and tell him you need to talk to him and talk to him about the baby and how you want him to honestly try to stop doing the things he has been doing like drug deals and everything because you want your or (our) son or daughter to have a wonderful father who will love and help in anyway and not be put in jail and never have him or her knowing who her/his father is and talk to him about the baby see if he is really up to doing all this for the baby (if you wanna keep it) you also need to do is if he agrees to stopping this then you need to go and talk to your parents and tell them that you have sat down and had a long talk with your boyfriend (can say name if you want) and he has agreed to stop doing all the stuff he has been into doing and you both will take full resposibility into this new joy coming into your life I hope that I have helpled you in many ways even though having a baby at 16 is still too young but if your willing to keep it then thats the greatest thing ever then abortion and killing a innocent child good luck in everything keep me updated if you like
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Girlfriend what is wrong with this picture. First of all you're 16 years old, pregnant and you're toying around the idea of staying with this jerk who can ruin your life for good. Maybe even get you behind bars. Because if you stay with him and any drug deals that go down you will be caught in that line of fire. As far as being sober, he still is into drugs and always will be. Do you intend to keep the baby? If yes, you may not be able to keep it as if your "friend" is dealing, things can and do go wrong. Is that fair to the innocent child you are carrying. Is it far that it will end up in foster homes as the 2 of you are running and hiding from the police because of the drug deals. This dude is bad news. Listen to your family, they love you and are concerned for both you and the baby. Run as fast as you can away from this guy. You deserve better and so does your baby.
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You have to do what's right for you and your child. Is your boyfriend ready to be a father? Will he be a good father? Is he willing to quit doing the things that may cause your baby harm?
If you answer those questions yes, I would suggest talking to your parents again. You need to let them know that whether they like him or not, he is the father of your child.
I would be careful about threatening to move out. Since you're only 16, they can make you come back if they choose to do so. Also if they want you at home, your boyfriend and his parents can get in trouble over you staying there.
I would suggest sitting down with your parents, your boyfriend, and his parents. Together, you should be able to work out a compromise. Let both sets of parents know that you appreciate their concern, but ultimately the choice is between you and your boyfriend. After all, the child is yours.
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I think you gotta do whats right for ya child. Which means he has to be in your life. Just cause your family don't approve of him doesn't change the fact that he is a father. How does your family know he ain't a good father. You HAVE got to tell your parents "Mom, dad I love you all but you can't take my baby's father out of his/her life, you can't change the fact that we are having a baby 2gether"
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WOw do you have a problem. First off, I'm sorry for this whole thing you are going through. If your family does not approve of him at all but you love him, he is your baby's daddy and then hes family loves you and accepts it then waht do you think? I think hes family. BUT and only but...is hes family "clean" like would your child be raised in a good clean nutrient family? You need you baby to have the best and only the best. He is a new life and needs everything. Think about waht is best for him..then you can think about yourself second. Thats how it is and thats always how it will be. You don't want your kid being a bad trouble maker by the time he/she is 5..so you pick what you think is best for the baby and you..Hope i helped. YOu better think hard about this. Oh and I'm 16 too.
OH OH OH I FORGOT TO SAY SOMETHING...YOu need to tell you parents that you are going to be with you boyfriend no matter what they think. He is your childs father and the baby needs a dad. If they do not like it..Threaten them and say you will move out with hes family taht actually like you and accept it. (they always cave in to this situation threat)
xox, Sara
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