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my 3 yearold is out of control
hi i have a 3 yearold daughter but latly she been out of control she dont listen she is very bossy she wont potty train she hits throws things around gets into everything what can i do to help with all of this everyone is getting mad cuz she is not potty trained yet ive tryed pottys and the adult toliet but nothing works ive tryed soap and spankings and took her toys away but nothing is working can someone help me
liz
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Hogtie her to your cieling fan and turn it on high. Shes young and wightless so she'll go good for a couple minutes until the fan breaks.
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Well, it is just a stage that your little girl is going through. It is time to set some ground rules if she doesn't like it is too bad cuz she has to learn.
A way to get her potty trained is getting her a pool for the summer and telling her she can't go in it unless she goes on the potty. My mom said this worked for me!
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liz...
she sounds like a normal three year old. they say the twos are terrible...well the threes aint no picnic either man.
three year olds are bossy...and stubborn..loud...EXTREMELY curious...(bad!$#@!!!!)
i say---when all else fails...bribe them. take her to target and show her all the cool hello kitty panties...and tell her that you cant wait until she starts wearing panties because they have so many cute kinds...
let her watch you go...they learn from example...although i understand if you dont feel comfortable...some people dont.
make up a catchy little peepee song for when she actually does go...and dont forget to sing it.
she really does want to please you and she would go if she could...some kids just need longer.
buy a stamper and give her a stamp for every completed transaction...that works too.
and remember to always praise her...and dont get mad if she has an accident...act like its no big deal (cause it isnt) having accidents is embarassing to a kid...there can be no shame attached to the potty training process or there will be problems with the process.
its a very stressfull time for her...try and remember that.
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Some children cannot be potty trained at age 3, its not always the child's fault, things like heredity and other factors can contribute to a child not being able to fully control their bladder at that age. I would recommend getting your family doctors advice before punishing the child further. Most children of that age throw temper tantrums from time to time. and each child responds differently to the punsihment., Most likely she will outgrow both the bossiness and the problem with pottytraining.. Have patients, and hang in there, and to those who are giving you trouble about her not being potty trained...tell them to raise their own and you will raise yours. hope this helps
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you need to talk to her like grown up she wants attenion do you have other kids do you think she feells left out maybe let her interact at day care or something, my 5 year old sister is the bigest brat at home but at day care she is the only one with all smily faces, (good marks)
hope i helped
~lacy`
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Never ever, give your child a spanking. Maybe give her a little slap, but nothing too drastic. Always encouarage her with positivity and tell her "I know you can do it". You are the parent so you need to make her understand that you're in control. If you encourage her she will be more motivated to try harder.Let her know that temper tauntrums are just going to get her a Time Out. Good luck.
xO LiSA
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Everytime she hits and throws, you say no very firmly, and if she does it, smack her on the hand, (never in the face.) or spank her hard enough where she'll think about it next time, and keep it going, or she'll never stop, you have to be in control, show her that. And I think that maybe you should have the people that get upset, ask them to help you, and support you in parenting he, so that she will behave and be potty trained.
-TheTeenGirl
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threes can be a problem, but dont resolve in spanking her. stand up to her and spread your word across that you are the mother! you have control and you need to use it! talk to her nicely at first and if you have to say why she can't have what she wants. stand up to her and prove youre point of why she has to be potty trained. she has to learn whether she likes it or not. Go slow at first and speed up on each lesson every two days to at the most a week. when she follows directions reward her with a treat each time.(like a cookie or toy)
good luck,
ur Bananabuddy
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im sorry
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The most important thing in discipline is consistency. If an item is off limits, it is ALWAYS off limits. The most important thing to remember is not t o let her wear you down. I know htis is hard (believe me-been there, got one) but you have to stick to your guns. And that includes anyone else who cares for her (Daddy, other family, sitters, daycare, etc.) I have found that positive reinforcement is also a good motivating tool. Point out the good things she does and praise them...often. Tell her and show her the difference between good and bad in words she understands. Good deeds reap rewards, bad deeds reap punishment. The potty training thing is a little more tricky. Every toddler is an individual. Mine was walking at 8 months (woe be to the cats!) and had an extraordinary vocabulary that defied "The Books" but didn't potty train until she was 3 1/2. ONce she decided it was time, it took about a week! The point is, she will not do it until she is good and ready and no amount of bribing, punishing, wheedling or cajoling will change that. If it goes on past about 4 or 4 1/2, consult her pediatrician but for now, just sit tight. I promise that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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i think you need to go to some parent help places.. or look online for motherhood sites to find different ways to calm her down.. youu just need to try very hard to keep her disiplined and let her know that you're boss and she can't always have what she wants 24/7..
Hope i helped! =)
--KaSS
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To potty train ask her what sh ewants most. That new dancing Barbie? Okay then get her one and put it up high where she can see it, but not reach it let her have 10 minutes of "Barbie time" if she uses the potty, or if she uses it all the time for a week give her the barbie permanently.
Hitting and throwing is a phase use time outs and she will eventually stop.
When I didn;t stop my mom would take every toy I would ever play with into a garbage bag and put it where I couldn't get to it I had to prove that I Diserved the toys and I usually got them back within 2 days. It works!
And whatever you do stay firm and strong no matter how much she cries.
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Sounds like you got the terrible twos a bit late! We've got ours a few months early on our latest baby. Don't panic, it's not hopeless. :)
Consistency is the key. If the same action always has the same result, she'll learn that to do X means that Y will happen.
Hitting can be dealt with by restraining her. When she hits someone, hold the hand she hit them with up or out, away from her body, and look her in the face. Tell her "No hitting" and count to 30 slowly while holding the hand. She will most likely try to hit you with the other hand. When she does, grab that hand, repeat "no hitting" and start counting over. She'll scream and such at first, but she'll figure it out after the first few dozen times or so. She won't stop hitting that fast, she'll just stop trying to hit you and she'll scream less when you restrain her.
For other things, 3 is old enough for "Time Outs". You should start them at 2 or 3 minutes. Try to put her in the corner or on her bed (with no toys) and see if she will stay there. If she won't, you will have to hold her at first until she understands what's going on. As in, you sit in the chair, or on the couch, and put her in your lap, facing away from you. Wrap your arms around her gently, pinning her arms to her sides. You may have to pin her legs with yours too if she's a kicker. You want to be gentle, use just enough pressure to keep her from squirming away. Don't start the timer until she's stopped screaming her head off. Sniffles are ok, screaming is not. If she's been screaming for a while, one minute may be enough time afterwards.
You need to be firm and consistent with her. Whenever she's being punished for something, tell her at the start and the end what she did wrong in terms she can understand. You can't have a calm conversation with a screaming 3 year old. You can firmly and calmly tell her "No hitting" or "No throwing in the house", both before and after.
If a toy is involved with misbehavior, I give it 3 strikes. Each time, I hold onto the toy and/or the child and repeat the rule that needs reinforcement. On the third strike, I repeat the rule and tell the child that the toy is going away. For our not-quite-two year old, that's usually as simple as "No hitting the TV with the car. The car is going bye-bye until tomorrow." Yes, he usually cries for a few minutes. Sometimes he even throws himself on the floor and kicks and screams. I let him. When he's done, he usually comes over for a hug, and I give him one, then give him some other toy to play with.
If you want her to learn to speak in a "less bossy" tone and style, you will have to make sure she hears people speaking nicely. She's a little young to be expecting her to have learned nice manners, but you can help by repeating back what she says in the proper way. For instance if she says "I want milk!" you can say to her "Will I get you a glass of milk? Yes, I will get you a glass of milk when you say please." and wait until she says please to give her the milk.
The important part is to stay calm, not to give into tantrums, and to be consistent with what behavior is acceptable and what behavior isn't.
The only advice I have about potty training is to make sure that she knows that "big people" use the potty. Let her see you using the toilet, and look in the toilet to see what's in there. Tell her "see, it's the same stuff that's in your diaper, but I go potty/pee/poop/ in the toilet instead of in a diaper." When you need to go to the bathroom, say out loud "Mommy needs to go potty! I better get into the bathroom and sit on the toilet!" while putting a hand on your belly.
Make sure that other people who watch her all agree on what's ok for her to do and what's not, and what consequences things have.
Good Luck, and remember, this too shall pass. :)
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well.. my sister is the same! they r in a stage every todler goes through this stage what u need to do is say is u go potty we will do the potty dance (say pee pee in the potty and dance arond) award her when she does something nice or good!
Good Luck
~Jennifer~
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Sounds like she is craving attention. You need to do this. When she starts throwing something around or has a temper, do NOT get angry. In these early years if they see that you react with anger this could frighten her. Do NOT spank her. Instead. Talk very calmly to her. In a smooth calm level tone explain what she is doing is bad. Hold her while you say this. A hug can calm a child down. Smile at her and such. SHow no signs of anger. Give her guildlines about these things. No throwing...etc. Enforce them. Eventually she will learn. As for potty training. All I can say is be paitent. She may not be ready to potty train. Sometimes it takes a little bit. So just relax.
Hope I helped!
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Never hit her for that you need to talk to her about the bathroom and when she use the bathroom like a big girl then give her a candy bar you do have to brive her for good things and she will no if I go to the bathroom mom will treat me for being good never hit that makes thing worst
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Just let her do it on her own.. or you can get somebody she looks up too.. to help her out with the whole thing.. and if she really likes toys or something this is what my big sister did for my niece she bought her a new toy every week and if she used the potty that whole week she got her toy at the end.. it dont even have to be an expensive toy.. but i hope i helped..~*DEZ*~ Thuggirl041790
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